Dilemma - I hate my new job

NinjaSavingKat

Transformers wrote: »

You seem to have some overly optimistic views of what jobs should offer.

Ever heard the expression "work to live, not live to work"? A job is just a job. It's there to pay for the stuff that actually makes your life.

I struggle with this pessimistic (cloudy) view of the work place. It is possible - if one should put ones mind to it - to get a job that is enjoyable AND that pays well. "It's there to pay for the stuff" - makes me cringe. It's like saying you have to stay in a mind-numbing soul-crushing hole of a job cause you have nice "things" - life isn't about things.

Yes you have to pay for bills but why "put up" with a job you hate.

OP what do you actually want to do with your life? You are about to bounce back to a job you didn't like enough to stay and you are back to square one.

Why not start looking for something that really interests you..? Or like CH27 says - get your head down and get stuck in for a few months - then work on that CV of yours. Night school perhaps? In-house training courses?... Anything like that available?

stebiz

Hopefully people will read this and understand that the grass isn't always greener elsewhere.:(

kelpie35

You go to work to earn a living for the things you want or need in life.

If you like to chat with people I am sure there are extra hours in the day for this to be accomplished.

I really think you need to take a look at what is important in you life and try to be grateful for what you have.

onomatopoeia99

Admin work can be dull. I did it during my "year off" (something of a misnomer, as it was spent working full time) before university. Typing in hundredss of timesheets into a database then filing them all every week is not massively inspirational. I could talk to my colleagues occasionally, but since they were all quite a bit older and more experienced in life than me, there was limited common ground, so I was a bit isolated. I just got on with my work, chatted while I made the tea (as the youngest I was happy to volunteer) and so on.

I don't understand why you dread it though. I don't read all the boards on here so haven't seen your other posts - have you considered looking for something more challenging and/or better suited to your abilities?

trailingspouse

They will give you easy/boring jobs to begin with. If you do these successfully, you will be given harder/more interesting work.

But if you whinge about the easy stuff you won't get the harder stuff.

Get your finger out, and get on with it. And when you've finished whatever it is, say 'What next?' and really mean it.

However, some people are never happier than when they're whingeing...

Person_one

Admin jobs are usually boring, sorry.

If you want a fulfilling job/career that you are happy to go to each day and that makes you happy, you'll need to put some effort into finding and then getting that job. It can take years!

purpleshoes_2

BunnieJ wrote: »

Hi everyone :hello:

I wasn't sure where to put this, but this seemed like a good place

I hate my new job!

A few of you may have seen my other threads on the employment boards, saying how my old company were passing me up for job opportunities etc and how I was being paid peanuts and doing nothing all day. I thought I needed to get out if something better came along. It did. An opportunity for an admin assistant job came up within my office building and I got the job

I worked 3 weeks notice (I only had to give 1, but was courteous to my old company) and then 2 weeks ago I started the new job with excitement and a few nerves. Everyone in the building was saying how nice the dept I would be working for is and my nerves soon settled. However, after being there for a couple of weeks I feel like I've made a HUGE mistake!

Although I had little work to do in my old job, I got on well with everybody and enjoyed working with people (reception desk), now I sit on my own and barely talk to anyone as they're all busy doing work and I'm given mind numbing admin tasks. My hours have also changed, meaning I feel like I have less spare time (due to shift patterns) and I feel like I've upped my workload by 100%, yet am getting paid the same wage (I know I agreed to it before I took the job, but I didn't realise how much it would affect me).

In my previous job I wasn't happy, but I was never unhappy either. Now I dread going into work and feel like calling in sick to avoid going in

My old manager told me if it didn't work out I could always go back, but they've now hired somebody else to do my job.

I have no idea what to do!

Any advice greatly appreciated!

The last thing you should do is start calling in sick. Ive had a couple of jobs I really didnt like for different reasons and in one case I left very quickly, I had a very difficult manager and Ive had a few in my time but she was something else, I left, but I did have some work elsewhere as back up and got something permanent quickly.

No disrespect to anyone who works in an admin job but for a lot of people, work like that wont be fulfilling.

Its very easy to think, I'll go back to my old job, but thats taking a step backwards. Work out what it is that you would like to do and try and take steps to achieve it

Dare I say, youve posted on the boards a few times about certain issues that are going on in your life, I think if you were happier elsewhere this wouldnt be such a big deal

How much of a support network do you have in this city apart from with your OH?

purpleshoes_2

stebiz wrote: »

Hopefully people will read this and understand that the grass isn't always greener elsewhere.:(

Thats not what Id take from this.

I dont think people should stay in a job just because another one might not work out.

stebiz

purpleshoes wrote: »

Thats not what Id take from this.

I dont think people should stay in a job just because another one might not work out.

I understand what you are saying. In all walks of life you may have to try other things but often it's just the same and your expectations can't be too high.

I know a Dad whose lad was losing faith with his junior football team. He was guaranteed a game every week but a lot of times they'd lose. His Dad told me at th weekend in his new team he hardly even gets a game.:( So in life sometimes jobs etc aren't as bad as they seem.

purpleshoes_2

stebiz wrote: »

I understand what you are saying. In all walks of life you may have to try other things but often it's just the same and your expectations can't be too high.

I know a Dad whose lad was losing faith with his junior football team. He was guaranteed a game every week but a lot of times they'd lose. His Dad told me at th weekend in his new team he hardly even gets a game.:( So in life sometimes jobs etc aren't as bad as they seem.

But the flip side to that is staying where you are and never doing anything.

The job I do now isnt the same job I did ten years ago and I never ever saw myself as having a career change. I did that a lot later in years than the OP is

She has tons of time to sit and think what she wants to do with her life.

Even in careers where you are happy, there can be aspects of any job that are dull, or challenging for all the wrong reasons

Just because a job isnt stressful isnt a reason to stay put forever, if she had been so happy in the first job she wouldnt have wanted to move on in the first place.