How to split the costs between family?

double_mummy

no im not saying suggest that kind of split but is the extra costs closer to it being 50-50 or 66-33?? whichever is closest do it that way

maisonette

double_mummy wrote: »

no im not saying suggest that kind of split but is the extra costs closer to it being 50-50 or 66-33?? whichever is closest do it that way

I think based on the fact that a 3 bed is definitely not going to be a whole third more expensive I just need to bite the bullet and go 50/50 as I wouldn't feel comfortable suggesting what is essentially a % discount for me as one person - the split per bedroom idea seemed completely fair but based on yours and FBaby's comments I can see it isn't.

Mrs_Soup

I think what you are suggesting sounds pefectly reasonable. As the person with the children if my single sister offered that I would think it fine. I would also offer towards housekeeping costs while staying at thier house although as you say you host all of them when they visit you. You could take them out for a dinner or two though and/or babysit the children while they go out as a couple - that would probably be very welcome.

Georgiegirl256

maisonette wrote: »

the split per bedroom idea seemed completely fair but based on yours and FBaby's comments I can see it isn't.

If going for a 3 bedroom villa costs considerably more than just a 2 then it's totally fair.

I guess only you'll know how they would react though.

FBaby

I wrongly assumed you were going with a partner, so thought two adults vs two adults and two kids. If it is you only, then yes, 50/50 would be definitely unfair, but I would hope your brother doesn't need to realise this and will himself suggest they pay more?

whodathunkit

maisonette wrote: »

I think based on the fact that a 3 bed is definitely not going to be a whole third more expensive I just need to bite the bullet and go 50/50 as I wouldn't feel comfortable suggesting what is essentially a % discount for me as one person - the split per bedroom idea seemed completely fair but based on yours and FBaby's comments I can see it isn't.

It's not a question of whether it'd be a third more expensive but a half. Sorry to be mathematical about it.

maisonette

Thanks all, have changed my mind three times on what is fair! :rotfl:

I don't envisage my brother quibbling or arguing over anything and neither would I, I just wanted to try and guage what others thought was fair for all concerned.

Just to confirm, there's just me going so one of me and four of them. I think I might suggest 50/50 for the accomodation based on the fact the extra room will not add to the cost in the proportions of the suggested split and if they inist on 2/3 v 1/3 I'll accept graciously.

whodathunkit wrote: »

It's not a question of whether it'd be a third more expensive but a half. Sorry to be mathematical about it.

Good point, well presented - I knew what I meant

Snakey

If anything I think you're getting a bad deal on the car - they may be one couple, but they are also two individuals. Ignoring the kids for a minute (I think kids should go free, when it's family), if the three of you went out for dinner and each had the £10 special, would you expect to pay £15 for your meal while they pay £7.50 each for theirs?

I'd go 50/50 on the accomodation though on the basis that it's one room each for the adults and the kids go free.

I find that in negotiations like this the thing to do is ask the other person how they see the split working and take it from there. It's clear you're very orgnaised and thoughtful, but calling them out of the blue with a detailed proposal based on carefully-researched price differentials etc might indicate to them that who pays what is a big deal for you - which is the opposite of what you're trying to say.

p.s. Also, when considering how much would be fair to pay towards the car, I would take account of whether I was going to be expected to sit in the back with the kids while Mum and Dad get the front.

duchy

If you are going from place to place surely you'd be in hotels rather than a villa?

Most families with small children will opt for a family room that will sleep 2 adults and two children. Are you assuming there will be villa style accomadation or has this definitely been decided between you and your brother and his wife ?

maisonette

Snakey wrote: »

I find that in negotiations like this the thing to do is ask the other person how they see the split working and take it from there. It's clear you're very orgnaised and thoughtful, but calling them out of the blue with a detailed proposal based on carefully-researched price differentials etc might indicate to them that who pays what is a big deal for you - which is the opposite of what you're trying to say.

p.s. Also, when considering how much would be fair to pay towards the car, I would take account of whether I was going to be expected to sit in the back with the kids while Mum and Dad get the front.

Oh yes, I don't want it to come across that I have got my calculator out and worked out percentages! I'll be quite casual and just suggest 50/50 all round (although I do see your point about the meal analogy) and see what he says - either way I intend to have a fab time!

Hadn't thought about being wedged in between the kids in the back, as the younger sibling this is bound to happen!

duchy wrote: »

If you are going from place to place surely you'd be in hotels rather than a villa?

Most families with small children will opt for a family room that will sleep 2 adults and two children. Are you assuming there will be villa style accomadation or has this definitely been decided between you and your brother and his wife ?

We're hoping to book apartment/villas as otherwise when the kids go to bed we will be stuck in separate hotel rooms and the idea is to spend as much family time together as possible. If it was hotel rooms there would be no query - we'd each pay for our own rooms, end of.