Did you ever hate your buyers?

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Have you ever had a house sale where you simply cannot stand the people who are buying your house?
If so how did you deal with them if they came for a visit before buying?

bmunky7

I guess let the estate agent handle the visit, or if they specifically want to meet the owners you have to grin and bear it.

[Deleted User]

Yes they want me to meet them again and yes I can't bear them, they have been so demanding, selfish and just plain stubborn throughout causing massive stress to me and my family.

pjread

It's business... if you want to keep them onside, grin and bear it.

If you don't actually care if it completes or not, just push back (e.g. "Sorry, I'm not available and to be honest I don't see what it'll achieve" then let the agent earn their money showing them the property again if e.g. they just want to measure a room or something...

Ultimately if they're directly contacting you, I'd personally just tell them to speak to the EA (your agent) or if you're into legals then via solicitors. There's no real need to ever see them.

PasturesNew

Buyers are the ones forking out vast sums for what is often a bit of a pig in a poke..... it's stressful as they're sure you're stiffing them on something (and you usually are).

Davesnave

I loved my buyers; it was the people who mucked me around,
who p*ssed me off.

As someone else said, it's business, and there's much money involved, so the demeanour of those involved usually only matters if they renege on the deal in some way.

DaftyDuck

Hate is such a strong word. I can't think of anyone I have ever hated.

I've certainly had easy sales, and very hard sales. In the latter, it's either a buyer being very careful (understandably so) or not understanding something, or lacking in experience.

Even if the process is drawn out and difficult, I wouldn't be able to hate a buyer.

Snakey

It's far worse when you are a buyer and you don't like the seller. My seller was demanding, selfish and just plain stubborn throughout and it really hurt to reward this behaviour by giving her hundreds of thousands of pounds which I now have to pay back to the bank. But I wanted her flat, and I had to put up with her behaviour in order to get it. Now I have it, and she's in the past and has to live the rest of her life with that personality .

Suck it up and think how much money they're giving you compared to what you paid when you bought it. I don't mean to be unsympathetic, but that's just the way it is - presumably if you were in any position to be choosy about who you sold to then the deal wouldn't have got this far, so don't mess it up now. Lots of people have bosses they don't like and have to put on this sort of act every single day, at least you only have to do it once!

Davesnave

Snakey wrote: »

Lots of people have bosses they don't like and have to put on this sort of act every single day, at least you only have to do it once!

Oh, so true! :T

Leo2020

When our buyers pulled out we were given two days to find a new buyer or lose the house we were buying. Understandably the new buyer took advantage of this situation and offered us 81k for the house. We had paid 105k for it and it was worth about 95k. It stung because we were between a rock and a hard place, the developer we were buying from would give us no more time to find a new buyer. The guy buying it was buying it as a buy to let and we were told by the EA that he had recently bought 5 other properties - so not short of cash then! It stung and we had to suck it up but it was hard. And it is a position I never want to be in again.

DigForVictory

I didn't like the bloke buying our old house. I had learned to love the "period 60s" interior decor (it had taken me a while) & to hear him trying to chisel down the price on the "extensive redecoration needed" had me "taking the child for a constitutional" & shoving the pushchair at speed. Around the reservoir rather than to the nearest pub, but some days it was a close run thing.

Years later, I met one couple who had viewed, had liked the doors etc, and had settled for the house next door - they had rescued the doors from the skip & installed them with pride!

I learned to cope with our buyer by focusing on the money it would bring so we could move to the new place. I also had access to a bridging loan so when he tried financial shenanigans the day before exchange, we were able to tell the estate agents to carry on At the Agreed Price, or tell him to go whistle. (It was a while ago but that was certainly the gist...)