Money Moral Dilemma: Should we share in sister-in-law's cashback?

bigal257

No - seems a bit penny-pinching to me. If it really sticks in your craw that she's earning points or cashback on your portion of the bill, pay separately in cash.

stmartinsdiver

Would you bother setting up your own cash back arrangement if your sister-in-law had not already done so? If you couldn't be bothered then let it carry on as-is. If you can be bothered to set your own arrangment up then do so and alternate who pays and gets the savings.

maiasopohie

Even my 12yr old has a Quidco account. So unless you are under 10 & can't get a bank account..... Stop being lazy, grown-ups should do their own shopping! Not exactly difficult to get a cashback bank account/credit card... Or don't you follow Mr MSE OBE...?!

pennypinchUK

If you want the points/cashback, just pay for things yourselves without giving her the chance. Really, what's the dilemma here?

Xanadu

It has been said a number of times above and I agree with the Majority.


If the Service is not costing you any more than it should do then why begrudge the likely small amount of cashback they could be getting.


If any of my family ask me to make a purchase for/with them, or I offer to do the same. I will always check the cashback sites. They know I do and they are often aware of how much I will get back. It is my cashback and they are aware they could have done it themselves.


The difference of course in my situation is that I have actively encouraged all members of my family to join sites suitable and they all have. There are some situations where I pay and I gain the benefits whether its 50p or 50 quid


Last year I booked a holiday for my family and my brothers, I paid on my debit card and went through a cashback website. I have a dog and 2 children and deemed it unfair for him to pay half. The dog fees are separate and so I paid that, the bill was divided by 6 and then x2 for him and his partner. He paid that I paid the rest. By going through a cashback site I received cashback of £42. He knew that but felt it fair that I kept it all.

meknowalot-51

As you've already said,your fully aware that she uses cashback for points/money.This is the reason she offers to pay on her card,now your considering wether to ask her for the points earned.The main reason she does this is for the benefits,which after a year or so would be quite a sum.What do you think is going to be her response?...................................Thats right,if you want the points then do it yourself.

mrs_m_goldsmith

MSE_Darryl wrote: »

Here's this week's hypothetical situation for you to cogitate on:

Should we share in sister-in-law's cashback?

My sister-in-law always picks up the bill or buys things and asks us to pay her cash. We know she uses both a cashback site and her points-earning credit card. So should she pass on the savings to us?

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Question is, why don't you already have your own cashback card? And if you do, why don't you use it when you go out with SIL?

Ask for separate checks and get the cashback yourself!

tallgirld

No she should not pass the savings onto you or anyone else.

If it bothers you just take out your credit card and pay yourself.

fuzzybee007

I'm a bit concerned that I might have a reputation now! I have done this myself in the past, taking friends' cash and paying a restaurant bill with my card simply to save going to the bank to get cash. Didn't give the points a thought, but now and then I buy a coffee for a friend and don't expect it to always be reciprocated. Is it worth worrying about a few pence?

gloriouslyhappy

pennypinchUK wrote: »

If you want the points/cashback, just pay for things yourselves without giving her the chance. Really, what's the dilemma here?

Exactly! I'm with the majority here!