Sleeping arrangements - What would you do?

campercomper

Need advice on what to do regarding sleeping arrangements in my house. This isn't really a problem at the minute but trying to plan for the future.

Currently I live in a 2 bed flat with my 3 yr old son and partner. My partner has a 7 year old girl from previous relationship. She stays with us overnight once per week (he also sees her through the week but she sleeps over just once a week)

At the moment my son has his own bedroom, partners daughter sleeps in our room with us - she sleeps on a sofa/chair which pulls out into a bed.

Obviously looking ahead I don't think this will be acceptable forever eg what 12 year is going to want to sleep in the same room as her father, she is going to need her own space. I would love to give her her own room etc but obviously we don't have an extra bedroom.

Would it be acceptable to get a sofa/chair bed for living room, which she can then have as her own "bedroom" for the one night a week that she is here? ( the current chair/bed she sleeps on wouldn't "go" with our living room so would be looking to purchase a new one - we need an extra chair in our living room anyway)

I don't mind watching tv/relaxing in my own bedroom after bedtime - therefore she could have full control of the living room treating it as her bedroom for example getting to watch her DVD's on the "big TV"?

I feel really awful that she wont have her own room at our house. But at the end of the day I don't have the money to move.

I was considering both kids sharing the one room on the nights that she is here, but concerned about my son - he has autism and would be quite afraid to rock the boat regarding night time routine. He is quite disruptive at night time and would not want this to have a negative effect on partners DD.

any thoughts?

Blackpool_Saver

I think you adults should have the lounge and she sleeps in your room

*zippy*

In your situation it sounds a good solution to me, I prefer that to having her sleep in your bed, that would be ok for now, but not when she gets older, nicer to have her own bed. My Daughter wouldn't have slept downstairs in our lounge at that age on her own if we were all upstairs, but presume you are all on one level so that's not an issue. I think it's lovely you are planning ahead to make it nice for her

Blackpool_Saver

Neither solution is ideal, if your partner has shared custody perhaps a larger apartment or house could be the answer

daisiegg

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Neither solution is ideal, if your partner has shared custody perhaps a larger apartment or house could be the answer

She has already said twice that they can't afford it!

whodathunkit

Why can't the two children share a room when she visits?

sillyme673

I think living room sounds great. I think she will love it. New bedding and the telly:j

heartbreak_star

I'd have happily had the living room when I was a kid

HBS x

19lottie82

whodathunkit wrote: »

Why can't the two children share a room when she visits?

Did you read the OP?

campercomper wrote: »

I was considering both kids sharing the one room on the nights that she is here, but concerned about my son - he has autism and would be quite afraid to rock the boat regarding night time routine. He is quite disruptive at night time and would not want this to have a negative effect on partners DD.

SquirrelNutkins

I think its fine for her to stay in the living room, and its really just for one night per week.

good_advice

When i was a teen, i had to sleep on a single matress on the sitting room floor sometimes wile my mum let guests have my room.

Thinking bac now, i think a z bed would have been better and off the floor.

In my house we have a second hand sofa bed in the front room for the occasional overnight guest. They can shut the door and have it to themselfs. We manage in the back room or live more outside in the summer.