help with MIL to be...

purpleshoes_2

notanewuser wrote: »

Where have you got this idea from? It's completely mental!!

When we married (10 years ago) my mother wore what she wanted, my MIL what she wanted. My best woman went home and changed into her own clothes for the evening do, as did some of the guests (fine by me). Her dress was rose pink. My sister wore dark green. My nan wore purple. I couldn't have cared less if they'd all turned to dressed as superheroes or monsters!

Thats the way it should be in my view.

midnightraven3

i cant be the only thinking the MIL will look pretty bizarre changing outfits 3 times??:o

half wont notice and i suspect the half who do, will roll their eyes at her attempt at attention seeking, i know i would:rotfl:

i did think (**note** THINK) the mother of the bride bought her outfit first too

personally i would let her get on with trying to make a spectacle of herself and ignore the whole thing completely
make sure your mum feel splendid in her outfit and let MIL do her own thing

notanewuser

purpleshoes wrote: »

Ive never been to a wedding thats had a theme. Even the ones that cost an absolute arm and leg. Anyone who ever invited me to their wedding didnt tell me what a theme was, colour was or give any hint about what I should wear.

Im obviously well out of the loop about whats in fashion and what isnt, but I do think that brides who have a theme and expect guests to match that colour theme are more than a tad bridezilla.

We've been invited to a wedding in October. The invite has an autumn leaf on it. Does this mean I'm expected just to cover my rudey bits with them, or am I expected to fashion some sort of suit.....?!

DigForVictory

Deep calming breath!

Have a gentle word with OH (for passing on) & be clear that in matters of frocks, the bridesmaid will be "in uniform" for the official photos & what she wears after that is not an issue. No compromise.

Give your mum a big hug, reassure her that whatever she wears will be glorious & keep trickling the reassurance if MIL keeps up with the "You Can't" line.

Of all the frocks that matter, yours & bridesmaids count. Everyone else is just pretty.

tillyenna

I think having all your guests match the theme (unless a very small wedding) is quite unusual, but it is traditional for the bridal party including parents on both sides to dress to compliment the theme (e.g. just not something that clashes horrible with the bridesmaids)


And yes, traditionally the mother of the bride gets first dibs on choosing her outfit, the mother of the groom should then be expected to pick something that doesn't change.


I say traditionally, obviously no-one HAS to do it this way.


Also, changing outfits partway through the wedding might seem ridiculous to us, but is she from another culture? One of my colleagues is Romanian and has just been back home for a family wedding and there EVERYONE changes outfit partway through the day

ognum

becca87 wrote: »

Hi all just wanting a bit of advice really please!

I get married in 3 months and opted to do all the decor etc myself as no one else either wanted to or was V crafty, so I have had a bit on my plate recently with work and the wedding!

I have just seen my mil to be and she has decided to let me know that she doesn't have just one dress for my wedding but 3! And won't describe them as they are a surprise!! She is also the mother Of the bridesmaid ( who has also decided she's wearing 2 dresses... Not that she's asked me!) so now my maid of hon feels bad for me and the fact she has one dress!!

I feel a bit lost as mil had a terrible wedding but feel like she's completely trying to upstage me on my day! My mum hasn't even decided what she's wearing yet but mil is telling me tell my mum what she should and shouldn't wear as they are mil colours...

I don't always see eye to eye with mil but really stuck with what to do!

Fiance is too laid back to understand or 'take sides' so I'm left piggy in the middle having to accept it

I'm certainly not trying to be bridezilla but feel that after we have saved for years for a.lovely day my mil to be could be a little more considerate....

Any advice how not to scream or burst in to tears...??

Frankly if this is what you have to worry about then you have no problems!

Let future MIL wear what she wants and change when she wants, she will look foolish but won't detract from you unless you let her.

Many bridesmaids don't really like the dresses chosen for that and want to wear something of there own in the evening, why worry it will nearly be over by then.

Relax, don't get worked up my the small stuff.

sheramber

At my nephew'e wedding last year the brides mother changed her outfit after the meal to one more suitable for dancing etc.

She slipped out and changed while the room was cleared of the dinner settings.

Nobody really noticed or cared especially the bride and groom.

purpleshoes_2

notanewuser wrote: »

We've been invited to a wedding in October. The invite has an autumn leaf on it. Does this mean I'm expected just to cover my rudey bits with them, or am I expected to fashion some sort of suit.....?!

Like when sinitta came out at judges houses with a couple of giant leaves covering her bits? I dont even watch x factor, just that it made the news, no wonder wearing that hot mess.

purpleshoes_2

Some people might not have the cash to spend on 3 outfits for a wedding, I get that you dont need to buy all new, but some would.

Also, if the MIL wants to change 3 times, her choice, but to suggest that other people do or don't wear a certain colour? Id say butt out, what other people wear is absolutely none of her business.

Its your wedding, you dont need mum in law zillas as well.

notanewuser

purpleshoes wrote: »

Like when sinitta came out at judges houses with a couple of giant leaves covering her bits? I dont even watch x factor, just that it made the news, no wonder wearing that hot mess.

These look to be much much smaller leaves than that! :rotfl::rotfl: