help with MIL to be...

CH27

krustylouise wrote: »

MIL's and close family members, obviously not all guests - should have worded that better.

Not at all.
Mums wear what they want & try to avoid clashing with each other or the bridal colours.

Cream corsages go with every colour.

Luella-14_2

Agreed that you shouldn't dictate what colour MIL wears, is it really worth causing bad feeling with her before you're even married?!

OP, it is rather showy of your MIL to be to want 3 outfits, but no matter what she wears she won't upstage you. You're the bride, people probably won't even notice that she's changed.

krustylouise

Floss wrote: »

Bo!!ocks. In all my 50 years and 2 weddings of my own, I have NEVER been to or been involved in a wedding where the Mums coordinated with the theme, they coordinate with each other and maybe the bridesmaids, but not with the "theme". That is completely bridezilla. It is polite to order a corsage to suit the outfit, but not to expect anyone to dress to suit the flowers.

The theme being the colour you choose your bridesmaids to be and flowers for the bouquets etc............honestly, there really is no need to use such language on a thread such as this. Lighten up!

krustylouise

becca87 wrote: »

I feel a bit lost as mil had a terrible wedding but feel like she's completely trying to upstage me on my day! My mum hasn't even decided what she's wearing yet but mil is telling me tell my mum what she should and shouldn't wear as they are mil colours...

I've just been searching through the internet and it's actually customary for the Mother of the Bride to buy her outfit first and the Mother of the Groom second. You could always show MIL2b this link....

It also says she should speak to the bride before making any choices unless the bride is indifferent. Although it suggests people avoid black white and red as black suggests mourning, white is to rival the bride and red is apparently flashy haha!

http://wedding.theknot.com/bridesmaids-mother-of-the-bride/mother-of-the-bride/articles/mother-of-the-groom-attire.aspx

HTH x

notanewuser

krustylouise wrote: »

The theme being the colour you choose your bridesmaids to be and flowers for the bouquets etc............honestly, there really is no need to use such language on a thread such as this. Lighten up!

Where have you got this idea from? It's completely mental!!

When we married (10 years ago) my mother wore what she wanted, my MIL what she wanted. My best woman went home and changed into her own clothes for the evening do, as did some of the guests (fine by me). Her dress was rose pink. My sister wore dark green. My nan wore purple. I couldn't have cared less if they'd all turned to dressed as superheroes or monsters!

adouglasmhor

notanewuser wrote: »

Where have you got this idea from? It's completely mental!!

When we married (10 years ago) my mother wore what she wanted, my MIL what she wanted. My best woman went home and changed into her own clothes for the evening do, as did some of the guests (fine by me). Her dress was rose pink. My sister wore dark green. My nan wore purple. I couldn't have cared less if they'd all turned to dressed as superheroes or monsters!

It's a thing some people have copied from "celebs" who really should be ignored not feted.

notanewuser

krustylouise wrote: »

I've just been searching through the internet and it's actually customary for the Mother of the Bride to buy her outfit first and the Mother of the Groom second. You could always show MIL2b this link....

It also says she should speak to the bride before making any choices unless the bride is indifferent. Although it suggests people avoid black white and red as black suggests mourning, white is to rival the bride and red is apparently flashy haha!

http://wedding.theknot.com/bridesmaids-mother-of-the-bride/mother-of-the-bride/articles/mother-of-the-groom-attire.aspx

HTH x

That's an American site......... Debrett's say rather different.

http://www.debretts.com/weddings/bridal-and-dress-codes/dress-codes/parents

duchy

Maybe you have to have lots of sisters whose names begin with K


My only concern at my weddings were that the MILs didn't wear the same outfits -otherwise so long as they were happy it was fine with me. If I went to a wedding where the MOG changed her outfit three times I'd be giggling at her but I wouldn't think any less of the bride or the wedding.


Insisting all family members wear the same colours to me is very bridezilla and actually would look very bland in photos anyway.

Sazzarella

I've also not heard of mothers having to cow tow to the "theme". My mum's wearing a monochrome dress to walk me down the aisle (it's what she wants to wear) and neither of the mums are wearing hats or corsages.

purpleshoes_2

krustylouise wrote: »

It's tradition for the guests to wear colours to match your theme and corsages for the female wedding party are co-ordinated accordingly. My MIL to be asked me what colour she should wear to our wedding in October, however I'm not bothered in the slightest what anybody wears, as long as they don't come in sporting my wedding dress everyone can please themselves!

Ive never been to a wedding thats had a theme. Even the ones that cost an absolute arm and leg. Anyone who ever invited me to their wedding didnt tell me what a theme was, colour was or give any hint about what I should wear.

Im obviously well out of the loop about whats in fashion and what isnt, but I do think that brides who have a theme and expect guests to match that colour theme are more than a tad bridezilla.