Literally worried sick :'(

peachyprice

Can you arrange to meet the police there so that you can take the baby to safety?

rubbish_at_usernames

They're going round now and will call me with an update. I asked if I should go and get the baby and they said not to. I wish I could get my daughter to see sense and get rid of him, for her and the baby's sake
No-one had any worries about her as a mum, she was doing brilliantly until he came back on the scene.

meritaten

OMG! what an awful situation! I would be seeing a Family Law solicitor to see if there was a way I could apply for custody. its rare a grandparent is given this - but in your circumstances I would think its a possibility.
please update us and let us know if the baby is ok.

Misstress

Oh gosh I hope the baby is ok.

Could you maybe talk to your daughters neighbours and ask them to report anything they see or hear to the police or social services? The more people who report things especially if not family member I guess would hold more weight.

Ms_Chocaholic

peachyprice wrote: »

Can you arrange to meet the police there so that you can take the baby to safety?

The Police will ensure the baby's safety and they couldn't just hand the baby over to grandma at the scene without doing Police checks on everyone in the house.

peachyprice

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

The Police will ensure the baby's safety and they couldn't just hand the baby over to grandma at the scene without doing Police checks on everyone in the house.

Crazy isn't it, they'd walk away and leave the baby with a druggie and unfit mother but won't let a blood relative take it to safety 'just in case'.

Ms_Chocaholic

peachyprice wrote: »

Crazy isn't it, they'd walk away and leave the baby with a druggie and unfit mother but won't let a blood relative take it to safety 'just in case'.

No, that's not what I meant.

The Police can't really go and visit the family home with grandma in tow, it would look like the outcome was pre-conceived.

If when the Police visit they find the baby alone and/or are significantly concerned for the baby's welfare then they have the powers to remove that child under police protection. The child would remain in Police care until checks had been undertaken on family members who could care for that child (usually done quickly).

For a start, you couldn't have grandma waiting outside her daughter's home and expect the Police to transfer the baby straight to her care. She could be an axe murderer. She could not be grandma at all!!

meritaten

I suspect that Social Services have been well and truly hoodwinked by the OPs daughter during their visit, and haven't bothered to do any background checks. Daughter would have told them that her mother is a vindictive mare who just doesn't like her boyfriend, wants to get her hands on the baby etc. and they saw a clean and tidy living room and an apparently happy and loving couple. case closed.

savingmummy

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

Are you saying that your friend called NSPCC and that she received a call back to confirm a few details and that a referral would be made to Social Services or that NSPCC called the couple who had been reported.

If it's the former, tell me what use NSPCC did that was really helpful; I may as well have been the go between. They took the phone call, jotted down a few details on a referral form, rang your friend back to confirm a few things and then sent the referral to Children's Social Care.

From what I gather they called to ask for more details regarding the complaint.
I`m assuming though by what you`ve said the initial response team are SS? and not nspcc?

savingmummy

rubbish_at_usernames wrote: »

They're going round now and will call me with an update. I asked if I should go and get the baby and they said not to. I wish I could get my daughter to see sense and get rid of him, for her and the baby's sake
No-one had any worries about her as a mum, she was doing brilliantly until he came back on the scene.

I hope the baby is ok, I also hope they get there in time to see the baby alone and get to see the living conditions!


Let us know how things go.