Esa suspension

tomtontom

Singlemumof3 wrote: »

I've had to borrow off family

Then you need to kick this guy into touch. Any man that would see his children go without does not deserve to be a father. Sorry if that is harsh, but his (your?) priorities are all wrong.

NYM

Singlemumof3 wrote: »

As soon I receive any financial support from him then we are classed as a couple

You're entitled to receive money from him to support your children.

nannytone_2

youre having issues with the benefit system, but it is totally due to your own actions.
you seem to feel a sense of responsibility to your ex. this is misguided. your responsibility is towards your children.
he is having the time of his life ... no bills, no responsibility and no work!
you need to wise up and do what is right for you and your family ... he is laughing at you

rogerblack

Singlemumof3 wrote: »

Yes they think I'm still in a relationship with my ex husband,which couldn't be further from the truth. I wish I could go into more details but not on here but I can say this,we have documentation to prove we do not live as man and wife,thanks for taking the time to reply

No, you don't.
Living as man and wife does not mean you are married.
Unless (for example) he has documentation from a psychologist, and is undergoing gender reassignment surgery - there is unlikely to be any such documentation that can prove it.

In principle, they need to prove that you are 'living together as husband and wife' - however this proof only needs to be 'more likely than not'.

nannytone_2

to be honest ....
if you are claiming means tested benefit, and CHOOSE to allow your ex to move back in ...
youre asking for trouble.
if you are so concerned about your children, then you should be putting them first, rather than putting your ex's needs before your childrens

FBaby

On one hand you state that he came back to live with you because of something that happened and the kids wanted to feel safe, but then you say that he is hardly ever home! You don't need to explain yourself here, but clearly saying something like this at an compliance interview will make them raise eyebrows.

northerntwo1

He's also not your ex. He is your husband.

epitome

If you are living under the same roof then you will likely be found to be "living together"

Depending on his situation work/benefits then your ESA could go up or stop altogether.

You can't have document proof that you are not living together it is a decision that will be made on observation, you will have to show -among other things- that you do not buy food for each other or support each other in any way. It is very difficult to do.

cc120

There is a lot of info/advice on benefits/Job centre etc on: http://unemploymentmovement.com/