Dating

susieq87

trolleyrun wrote: »

"Hi xxxxx

Just wanted to drop you a quick note to say thank you for Saturday. I had a lovely time. Please do let me know if you'd like to meet up again sometime.

Cloudninety"

"ctrl+c then ctrl v the above! its very breezy and if he doesnt reply you will know and if he says yes you will know too! best to do it now instead of letting it fester

fivetide

Chances are you haven't messed up at all.

Do you have male friends? Do you get on well with them? Do you want to have a relationship with them that goes beyond friendship?

If you think about the answers to the above you might have an answer (assuming he either doesn't respond to the email or replies in the negative). some people can get on very well but if one of the two just doesn't feel that "je ne sais quoi" then a relationship isn't going to happen.

He's had a nice time but perhaps isn't looking for more friends. Just enjoy the fact you had a nice night out and move along if you don't meet up again. Sounds like a decent enough bloke by the way. At least he's not leading you on.

onomatopoeia99

So, as a single male person, what I want to know is why wait for him if you want to see him again? He might be sat at home wondering why you haven't got in touch, just as you are (of course, he might not be, but there's only one way to find out).

bluenoseam

Probably a case of he's trying to figure out if the three day rule is in effect, just bite the bullet & phone/email/text and find out

cloudninety

FBaby wrote: »

Who arranged the date you went on?

I contacted him and suggested he contact me if he wanted to meet up. He did and suggested a time and place.

marisco wrote: »

I doubt very much that you did or said anything to mess things up. Please don't be so harsh or place such little value on yourself.

This is just a little knock in the great scheme of things, and no indicator that you aren't a lovely person who has much to offer.

Move on and when you are ready, you will find someone who appreciates all your lovely qualities, and be far happier for it

Thanks for your reply. I don't place little value on myself. I do think I am lovely person but men never seem to agree. I can't understand what I am doing wrong.

I hope I will find someone like you say but is hard to be positive sometimes. This was my first date in over two years and there were few before then too.

cloudninety

fivetide wrote: »

Do you have male friends?

No. I would like some male friends but men don't seem to want to be friends with me either.

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

So, as a single male person, what I want to know is why wait for him if you want to see him again? He might be sat at home wondering why you haven't got in touch, just as you are (of course, he might not be, but there's only one way to find out).

We are both from a conservative culture in which traditionally it is expected that the men do the asking.

fivetide

cloudninety wrote: »

No. I would like some male friends but men don't seem to want to be friends with me either.



We are both from a conservative culture in which traditionally it is expected that the men do the asking.

hmmmm... do you have any hobbies or clubs you can join?


You come across fine on here so unless you are necking pints and eating the glass I'm afraid I have no other advice than make things happen. Read Oduliet's recent story on taking the plunge and asking a guy out - it can work!

trolleyrun

You contacted him in the first place to ask if he wanted to meet up, so I don't see why you couldn't do that again. It seems a shame to not at least suggest it if you did get on rather well on the first date.

Brallaqueen

Even in conservative cultures I'll bet there are shy males who struggle to put themselves out there, or who might find it difficult to read subtle cues and could be worried they bored their date. If you are really, really set against asking him out again then at least get in touch to confirm you had a great time.