Is there a boys equivalent to queens bees and wannabes?

Counting_Pennies_2

Hi all

I am currently reading queens bees and wannabes which is all about guiding parents who have girls through the tricky friendships and moods etc.

It is fascinating and wondered if anyone else has read a similar book which details the same problems for boys?

Thanks

suejb2

I've just started to read Queen Bees as my D.D is going to secondary school in September, it is really interesting. It's by the same author Rosalind Wiseman and called "Ringleaders and Sidekicks" read the into on my Kindle.

Amazon seem cheapest for an actual/physical book

gingin_2

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

Hi all

I am currently reading queens bees and wannabes which is all about guiding parents who have girls through the tricky friendships and moods etc.

It is fascinating and wondered if anyone else has read a similar book which details the same problems for boys?

Thanks

I had never heard of it and it's immediately gone in my amazon basket (big thanks) as my daughter is dealing with all of this at the moment ( it's a nightmare).

I did notice the same lady has written a similar book for boys

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0749958251/ref=pd_luc_bxgy_01_01_t_lh?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Edit : sorry, just seen Sue has recommended it above.

jackyann

This is a good book, but I have some reservations:
A lot of American social norms really don't translate to the UK despite the popularity of their TV shows. There is a particular social history in America around masculinity that I think is different here.
Having said that, a book I find very good is Steve Biddulph's Raising Boys - it doesn't cover quite the same territory but s useful. He is Aussie, but has spent a lot of time in the UK.
I would read both & pick & choose.

mgdavid

yet again 'dazed and confused'.
You have to buy a book to find out how to communicate and bring your own children up?

Janepig

mgdavid wrote: »

yet again 'dazed and confused'.
You have to buy a book to find out how to communicate and bring your own children up?

I wish more people would, then maybe my children wouldn't be suffering with the nightmare brats they're in school with!

I'm quite capable of bringing my children up more than adequately but I'm in the middle of reading "Queen Bees" to see if there are any other strategies I can employ to help DD best cope with the nest of vipers she currently has as classmates. I'm always open to advice, and like I say above, I wish more people were just as receptive.

Jx

Person_one

mgdavid wrote: »

yet again 'dazed and confused'.
You have to buy a book to find out how to communicate and bring your own children up?

Why on earth would anybody automatically know how to navigate every single complicated aspect of bringing up children? There's no instruction manual as far as I'm aware, nothing wrong with seeking out a bit of extra knowledge/perspective when needed!

suejb2

To the poster who is "dazed and confused" have you never asked anybody anything or do you know it all.
In the way I have asked others for their advise be it my mum,teacher or employer I am open to all form of knowledge.

jackyann

I have spent the whole of my working life working with families - some with problems, others just navigating the ups and downs of normal family life.
Of course you can pick up good ideas from other people.
We can all benefit from considering ideas from others. The healthy thing for most people is to trust their own instincts to guide them to those strategies that work best for their family.
For a few, their mental "map & guide" is poor because of their negative experiences. They will rely more heavily on others.
I applaud all parents - and other adults who care for children - who admit they don't know all of the answers and look for guidance in doing their best. Indeed, as janepig implies, the main problem is with those who DO think they have all the answers!