So its ok to have knives in school???

AeroBlue

I've worked in a school, and while I'm not saying your son is lying, it's very difficult to judge a situation from one child's point of view, as sometimes children have the tendency to not share the entire story.

I'd recommend arranging an appointment with the head teacher, or someone in senior leadership, and find out exactly what has happened (an incident report from everyone who was involved and present). Discuss your concerns with the school, what you'd like to happen, and they'll be able to advise what actions they'll take and the reason for those actions.

Tiddlywinks

nickj wrote: »

if you were attacked with a pen knife in the street , you would call the police , just because it happens in school doesn't mean that it's not serious , which is what most schools tend to think as they prefer to have any bullying swept under the carpet and pretend that it doesn't exist

Not the same thing.

I would NOT choose to parade a child in front of the local rag just to get publicity.

There are other much less hysterical measures - school governors, local MP, Dept for Education etc

As per advice from one of the links from the gov.uk site:

http://www.anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk/advice/making-a-complaint.aspx

Mojisola

ragdoll24 wrote: »

My son aged 12 (nearly 13) has been bullied since going up to senior school and I have been up and down the school for the past 3yrs.

I wouldn't have left a child in this horrible school for three years.

If a school doesn't act on bullying fairly quickly, they either won't or can't deal with it and it won't stop.

Continual bullying like this has a lasting effect on children for many years after it stops.

Anacrusis

Hi ragdoll24, what you've described is assault, so you should be able to report it to the police. I wonder if the knife is classed as a tool rather than a weapon, it does seem to have been used as a tool - to undo the tricky button - however setting on someone and taking off their clothes is assault I'm sure!!


Coolcait's advice seems sensible to me

marisco_2

nickj wrote: »

if you were attacked with a pen knife in the street , you would call the police , just because it happens in school doesn't mean that it's not serious , which is what most schools tend to think as they prefer to have any bullying swept under the carpet and pretend that it doesn't exist

Not all schools think this way. At the school where I work we have a zero tolerance of bullying and it is strictly adhered to. I work in primary and right from reception year is when this message has to be instilled in kids. It is no wonder so many secondary schools have such anti social problems, when this basic isn't addressed from a child's early years.

meritaten

marisco - the primary school may have a 'zero tolerance' policy. but if the comprehensive or secondary school doesn't..........then the bullies will take full advantage of that.
unfortunately some Heads refuse to believe that there is a 'bullying problem' in their school. whether its from laziness, ignorance or sheer stupidity, they refuse to acknowledge it never mind 'deal' with it! and then tragedies happen.

cheepskate_2

Just going to comment on this part

You say your son wants to stay in the "in crowd" group.
But it seems like your child is not an "in crowd child", and this is why this is happening, as he wants to please the in group and do the silly things.
The other children in the "in group" do not respect or probably really like him, and this is why they encourage him to do these things.
And NO not all children want in this group, and not all children fit in this group.
Learn your child to make friends who value him, for who he is, . Learn him to join groups because he fits in , not to just be the cool kid...only then will he feel liked and respected.

LandyAndy

cheepskate wrote: »

Just going to comment on this part

You say your son wants to stay in the "in crowd" group.
But it seems like your child is not an "in crowd child", and this is why this is happening, as he wants to please the in group and do the silly things.
The other children in the "in group" do not respect or probably really like him, and this is why they encourage him to do these things.
And NO not all children want in this group, and not all children fit in this group.
Learn your child to make friends who value him, for who he is, . Learn him to join groups because he fits in , not to just be the cool kid...only then will he feel liked and respected.

I have to say I agree with this. I would have been advising my son not to associate at all with children who were constantly bullying him. And if he continued to do so and continued to be bullied I'd be wondering why he wanted it to happen.

tea_lover

cheepskate wrote: »

Learn your child to make friends who value him, for who he is, . Learn him to join groups because he fits in , not to just be the cool kid...only then will he feel liked and respected.

TEACH him.

cheepskate_2

Learn ...You can teach someone all you want, but until they Learn .