3 year old picking up bad language at nursery
Metranil_Vavin
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My DS is 3.5 and has in recent days started coming home from nursery using a range of not very nice words and phrases.
The culprit appears to be a kid called Keenan, so OH had a word with a couple of the key workers in his room this morning at drop off, and neither of them seemed particularly surprised that this boy's name had come up. They said they'd keep an eye on it etc, but I struggle to see how you can stop a child using swear words/dodgy phrases (that sound like they are coming out of some horrible R&B song). Whether they'll have the guts to speak to his parents I don't know.
Anyway..my question is, what is the best way to handle it when DS shouts bad words? Yesterday it was the word P155 shouted very loudly most the way home. He's also started saying 'bl00dy daddy' out of the blue.
Is ignoring it the best way? I guess you don't want to make too much fuss as kids are renowned for doing something more if they are told not to.
I'm well aware that children pick up all kinds of unsavoury stuff at school, I just think it's a bit of a shame that it seems to be starting at nursery.
The culprit appears to be a kid called Keenan, so OH had a word with a couple of the key workers in his room this morning at drop off, and neither of them seemed particularly surprised that this boy's name had come up. They said they'd keep an eye on it etc, but I struggle to see how you can stop a child using swear words/dodgy phrases (that sound like they are coming out of some horrible R&B song). Whether they'll have the guts to speak to his parents I don't know.
Anyway..my question is, what is the best way to handle it when DS shouts bad words? Yesterday it was the word P155 shouted very loudly most the way home. He's also started saying 'bl00dy daddy' out of the blue.
Is ignoring it the best way? I guess you don't want to make too much fuss as kids are renowned for doing something more if they are told not to.
I'm well aware that children pick up all kinds of unsavoury stuff at school, I just think it's a bit of a shame that it seems to be starting at nursery.
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Sounds about right, that's a mega chavy name :rotfl:
My DS kept saying 'Keenan is very ANGRY' over and over yesterday too.
Sounds like Keenan has some issues..
I generally just tell mine quietly that that's not a nice word to use, and that I don't want to hear it being used/it might offend or upset someone, depending on the word and context, and then change the subject and distract them. That's how I would handle it with my three year old. Older children than your DS, I would talk about what it means and why it's offensive too.
We have had some interesting discussions when my son aged 5 started chanting the N word. I was horrified, but it turned out they sing a song at school which goes digger-digger-digger-digger, and he was just playing around with the sound, he didn't even realise it was a real word... we ended up doing a lot of research together about racism and apartheid, which lead my very fact-obsessed little boy into evolution, geography and all sorts - he completely forgot that one offensive word that started it all...
I've always found the bigger the fuss the longer the word is remembered for. When my DD1 was about 3 my BIL dropped a cup of freshly made tea on his foot. He yelled about 5 different things as he dashed to the shower, totally forgetting DD was there. My MIL made a HUGE fuss when she repeated one of them and kept fussing over and over and over when she said it. It took ages for her to forget.
Poor Keenan though, can't see him performing well in life if he's already swearing and angry at 3
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The solution I am trying is telling him it's a bad word and it's not nice to use them. We should say funny words. ( his favourite programme is Jake and the Neverland pirates and one character uses ' oh coconuts' for when he gets things wrong) so I say if he gets angry that he can use that word instead. I'll see how it goes. Been working so far.
My son aged 6 has a child in his class who seems to be `!!!!!! mouthed` instead of `potty mouthed` and I now have a very rude son who thinks its hilarious and no amount of telling off is working and his now too young to distract or ignore.
I`ve informed the school who are aware of this boy but his parents aren't interested and let him do it infront of them!
It WILL get worse once he starts school - just to warn you LOL!!
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So many Keenans in so many nurseries, who constantly are spoken to with swearing littering their speech, who are watching 15 rated films and playing 18 rated games. 10% of my Year 1s own GTA.