Struggling after Maternity Leave

supersaver2

Person_one wrote: »

I'm sure ot must be nerve-wracking, as she'll be making herself quite vulnerable if the sad fact is that they just don't want her company anymore for whatever reason, but the others are right that the only way to deal with it is to talk to them about it.

I would suggest she approaches the one who seems the kindest and most considerate of others, and gently say that she's been sad to miss out on so many events and that she'd love an invite in future.

If that goes well, and they start to include her more, I think it would be a good idea for her to take the initiative on planning something or helping with the organising.

Thanks for your thoughts. Yes I agree she will be making herself vulnerable asking them why they've stopped inviting here but I can't really see what else she can do. Hoping it is just an oversight or they think she has to much going on at home as my wife is still suffering from PND and is medicated for it and can be quite sensitive at times and rejection is hard to take at the best of times.

theoretica

Her other option would be to organise something simple and invite them, such as a drink in the pub after work.

trix-a-belle

theoretica wrote: »

Her other option would be to organise something simple and invite them, such as a drink in the pub after work.

This, in a sense I'd suggest she plays dumb to the fact they have organised things without her, organise something herself and then if she wishes broach it there, it doesn't have to be confrontation perhaps just a comment along the lines of "it is so nice to have everyone here for a proper catch up outside of work"
She sounds like a great asset to you, her friends and her company.

Takeaway_Addict

Did these work friends stay in touch during maternity leave and if so who instigated it?

I suspect these friends aren't really friends and your wife should grab the bull by the horns per say and find new friends with new hobbies.

Mothers meetings or whatever they are called maybe?

littlejaffa

as mentioned previously why doesn't your wife suggest an outing? rather than waiting to be invited to something other people organised

or at the very least have a conversation about how she really needs a night out, it's been ages etc and generally just send up the flags that she is available/interested/social

tbh someone who never organises or suggests and outing and is quiet when others invite her along....i'm not overly surprised she's not been invited as much