Turning 30 - What a strange age!!

Orlando_Virgin

Hi All.

Just turned 30 last week and I've got to say, what a strange age?! I'm single as most of you know I think, (taking a decent break after a harsh break up) so most of the friends I socialise with are a few years younger and all of my closest friends (obviously still in touch with) are married with kids!

So I'm feeling a bit lost at the minute, not in an unhappy way! Career is great, in decent shape, joined a golf club, playing football. Just not sure what I should be doing when I socialise!! Haha, too old to be a socialite and too young and single to hang them up!! Strange times. Hope you're all well

cazziebo

If it's any consolation turning 30 was the most traumatic milestone for me. Rest have been a breeze!

I had this idea growing up that 30 was quite old. By 30 I'd be sorted. In reality I still lived on overdraft, had given up a great career to have children and was pregnant at 30 with my second. My ex was having a fantastic career - and an affair although didn't know that at the time. We'd bought an old house that needed tons of work and everything cost way more than it was ever estimated.

By 40 I was single, great job, lovely house, still in a bit of a debt problem as it was pre-MSE. 50 - no debt, kids grown up, in a great relationship with someone.

Someone posted on my Facebook page that if you haven't grown up by 50 you never will. That's become my motto. :T:T

emsywoo123

cazziebo wrote: »

If it's any consolation turning 30 was the most traumatic milestone for me.

This times 1000.

I had no idea 30 was so significant emotionally. The day itself was exactly the same as any other, school run, looking after my 3 week old son etc etc.

Emotionally I may as well have been slapped round the face, but I think it only hit me a week later. I'm 33 now, and I would say it has taken me this long to get my head around it.

Ah well, only 7 years to 40 :rotfl:

InsideInsurance

When I turned 30 most of my friends were in long term relationships but only a couple actually married and only one with kids. Now 35 and most are now married and many of them have kids.


You do what you want, my ex boss was 45, single with an ex but no kids, good income, excellent at golf and his life was heavily golf and partying orientated. Several times after work dos etc I came in the next day to find he'd gone out to clubs or casinos after the work do finished and never actually had made it home.

Izadora

I absolutely despised turning 30. I'd always thought that by that age my life would be sorted and I'd have a clear idea of where I was headed. Instead I was in a mountain of debt, living with my parents, perpetually single and had no idea what I wanted to be when I 'grew up'. I was so horrified by it that I refused to celebrate what I saw as the beginning of an inevitable decline so, knowing that my friends and family wouldn't let me get away with not marking it somehow, went out the weekend before and had a wake for my 20s.
I now wish I'd never worried about it - 6 years later and I'm probably the happiest I've ever been :j

tea_lover

I'm 35 and still haven't recovered from the trauma of turning 30.

Slinky

I was visiting friends in Australia on my 30th birthday. I caught a flipflop on their stairs when they were both out at work and sliced my toe open. Had to call my friend's MIL to come and patch me up.

I think if I had known in advance it would take until I was 37 to meet my DH I would have been a lot happier when I was younger whilst I was waiting to find him.

harrys_dad

Turning 30 was much easier the second time round (sounds much better than turning 60 )

ska_lover

I am 38 and Im still recovering - it was a traumatic birthday for me - I got horribly drunk and depressed and went for a tattoo - not one that I woke up regretting thank god...lol

At age 30- I was a single parent, in huge debt with a rubbish job and house and felt that the best years of my life were truly behind me... HOW WRONG I WAS!!! Age 30 is a baby

Now I am 38, I met the love of my life 7 years back, now married, out of debt, brought house, got a better paid job, and little un has skipped off to Uni.

I never would have recognised myself now - if someone had took me into the future eight years! Things can and do change pretty quickly

PS 30 Is NOT too old to be a socialite!! Get yourself out there

Only another 18 months until the big 4-0 (Arghhhhhhh)

fannyanna

I'm so relieved to see this thread. I turn 30 this year and am already dreading it.

I feel pretty sh*t about a milestone that I feel that I should have achieved (and that it very important to me). I know I just need to adjust my attitude and focus on the things that I have accomplished. Hopefully I'll have a different attitude by the time the big day arrives and can actually enjoy it.

Netwizard

Interesting topic, as I turn 30 in 3 weeks too.

I gave up my job in January, due to crappy (and illegal) working conditions making me feel like pants, I still live at home with my parents, still no real idea what I want to do in life (Used to be computers, and that's what I went to college for etc, but they do my head in now!), and as I say, turn 30 in 3 weeks.

All of my friends are married or have a long time partner (some have kids, some don't), I'm still single, as I always have been, but I'm still very happy.

I have no daily hassles, no kids, no debt and the only thoughts I have about turning 30 are that as I've gotten older, I care much less what people think of me. As long as I have a few good friends (which luckily, I do), I'm not overly fussed about peoples opinions any more.

As for celebrating my Birthday? Not a chance. Its just another day to me, Although, I will be in France, with some crusty bread, some stinky cheese, and no doubt plenty of bottles of wine to keep me going all day :T Heres to our 30's :beer: