An Enjoyable Look Into tweets and Poppy's Expeditions Thread (An 11+ ELITE Thread)

Bananababe

David. wrote: »

It was cold

:cool: yes were you in Scotland ? :rotfl:

tweets

FloFlo wrote: »

Morning all x

I'd like to be able to say it's the first shrivelled thomas I've seen

:eek: :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

cjj_2

Nenen wrote: »

One of the things I've found so good about the Elite since stumbling in here recently is that so many posters seem to be very supportive and genuinely interested in others... unlike in rl when I often get the impression that people who ask me how my dh is (he has had heart and lung problems) don't really want me to tell them the truth if it's bad news. It often feels like they only want to know that he is getting better so they can cross us off their list of people to enquire after although, to be fair, I think part of the problem is that when I say 'much the same' they just don't know what to say so tend to change the subject very quickly. I know they mean well but I often wish they'd not bother asking me if they don't really want to know.

Speaking personally, I think you should continue to post ALL news (ups and downs) about both your dh and how his mental health problems affect your life. That way, at least you have a place where you can express yourself honestly. My dh worked for more than 20 years in psychiatric hospitals and community mental health teams before qualifying as a psychotherapist and working in private practice. He has always said that families also need a safe place to express themselves and MHUs are the worst places to be when someone is depressed (safety issues aside). He believes what is really needed are places of 'sanctuary' where people could go to rest and recuperate in a place that is restorative, tranquil and safe. If we ever win the lottery our dream is to open somewhere like this - a small, sheltered environment just taking a few people at a time, with support for families too.

I don't want to pry Fairclaire but if your dh hasn't already had intensive (3 - 4 times per week) long term (minimum 2 years) psychotherapy it might be worth trying. It's not usually available on the NHS (as you probably know, they go for very short-term, (6 weeks) cognitive therapy which is considerably cheaper). However, there are several training organisations that offer greatly reduced fees for patients seeing an analyst in training. Training analysts in bona fide organisations have already had extensive mental health experience and are closely supervised.

For anyone who's interested, you can get information about psychotherapy here: http://www.psychoanalytic-council.org/


My dh belongs to the bpf but we get no direct or indirect benefit from you following this link:
http://www.britishpsychotherapyfoundation.org.uk/find-a-therapist

The SAP is another bona fide organisation who operate a low fee scheme: http://www.thesap.org.uk/index.php


Sending lots of hugs to you, your dh and children too Fairclaire.

Can I please ask if 20 weeks 1-1 ERT is the norm. Or am I lucky to be getting this. Have to break for at least 6 months after the block of sessions. Tia

tweets

mymerrywidow wrote: »

your stalking me :eek::eek::eek:

Me never I just remembered you had solar panels and talked about it on the Elite

fairclaire

Nenen wrote: »

One of the things I've found so good about the Elite since stumbling in here recently is that so many posters seem to be very supportive and genuinely interested in others... unlike in rl when I often get the impression that people who ask me how my dh is (he has had heart and lung problems) don't really want me to tell them the truth if it's bad news. It often feels like they only want to know that he is getting better so they can cross us off their list of people to enquire after although, to be fair, I think part of the problem is that when I say 'much the same' they just don't know what to say so tend to change the subject very quickly. I know they mean well but I often wish they'd not bother asking me if they don't really want to know.

Speaking personally, I think you should continue to post ALL news (ups and downs) about both your dh and how his mental health problems affect your life. That way, at least you have a place where you can express yourself honestly. My dh worked for more than 20 years in psychiatric hospitals and community mental health teams before qualifying as a psychotherapist and working in private practice. He has always said that families also need a safe place to express themselves and MHUs are the worst places to be when someone is depressed (safety issues aside). He believes what is really needed are places of 'sanctuary' where people could go to rest and recuperate in a place that is restorative, tranquil and safe. If we ever win the lottery our dream is to open somewhere like this - a small, sheltered environment just taking a few people at a time, with support for families too.

I don't want to pry Fairclaire but if your dh hasn't already had intensive (3 - 4 times per week) long term (minimum 2 years) psychotherapy it might be worth trying. It's not usually available on the NHS (as you probably know, they go for very short-term, (6 weeks) cognitive therapy which is considerably cheaper). However, there are several training organisations that offer greatly reduced fees for patients seeing an analyst in training. Training analysts in bona fide organisations have already had extensive mental health experience and are closely supervised.

For anyone who's interested, you can get information about psychotherapy here: http://www.psychoanalytic-council.org/


My dh belongs to the bpf but we get no direct or indirect benefit from you following this link:
http://www.britishpsychotherapyfoundation.org.uk/find-a-therapist

The SAP is another bona fide organisation who operate a low fee scheme: http://www.thesap.org.uk/index.php


Sending lots of hugs to you, your dh and children too Fairclaire.

Thank you Nenen, what a lovely post and really helpful. The treatment he is having just now isn't NHS treatment. He has had several courses of CBT on the NHS and they have helped him. I just don't think they are specific enough to his problems. He has chronic PTSD. The treatment he is having now is aimed specifically at people who have suffered military trauma and is being funded by the regiment he was in.
He is part of his own problem. He could go in for residential treatment and respite at Combat Stres in Shropshire (he has done in the past, although he only lasted 3 days) but he won't budge. No amount of pushing is convincing him to go there again . The treatment he is getting is helping believe it or not. Its just making some symptoms worse, in the short term. I think he will always have relapses, hopefully just not as severe as this one. I definitely cope with it a lot better than I used to

Nenen

Tinyshoes wrote: »

I have now really freaked myself out.

The laptop fan has been getting hotter than usual for quite a while now. And last couple of weeks I have noticed change in skin colour on my left thigh and last couple of days it has started to hurt a little. Stupid I know I shouldn't sit with it so long on my lap.

I have googled what has happened and now can't believe how stupid I have been letting it sit there getting my leg so hot, I should have thought about the risk I was putting myself under.

So I think it's time I took a step back from virtual life. I will have to just skim read and not join in quite as much until I get a new lappie as I know I will automatically put it back on my lap without thinking once I am engrossed.

Hope you all understand.

Oh dear, that sounds painful. ((hugs))
I always use a laptray (beanbag thingy) under my laptop or, better still, have laptop on a side table and connect a keyboard which I use on my lap - much lighter and more comfortable. You can also buy laptop stands with inbuilt cooling fans quite cheaply, which would probably extend the life of your laptop as it would stop it overheating.
HTH

tigerwhite_2

Arthien wrote: »

Afternoon all!

Oh, this reminds me of home, it's been a while since I had that view out of my window

Did you see it in-store or online? I searched for it on 'tinterweb and nothing came up. I had problems with B&Q last time when I ordered it and they spectacularly failed to reserve it or let me know it was gone.

oh poop, I've been to B&Q at lunch (been looking for a sink plunger for weeks in the supermarkets). Forgot to look for this mr muscle

Bananababe wrote: »

Poor Deedee , must be feeling the pressure of Wednesdays now.

Maybe we take it back to hump day.

Its the when the shops hump up or down their prices to confuse the muggles into thinking they got a bargain :eek:
Afternoon all.

Warning local indigenous species revealing their pale skin , will be followed by weird smell and intoxication.

Also know as sunny in Scotland :rotfl:

:rotfl:

Saversue wrote: »

I can completely empathise with that. It was my experience of being in a MHU. Nine weeks as a voluntary patient ( it was that or be sectioned) without any treatment.
Didn't even care that I refused to eat or go in the common room because I didn't want to socialise or talk to anybody. I was actually self harming while there, it's amazing what you can smuggle in.
As soon as I came home started eating and haven't stopped
I have been having a bit of a crisis at the moment, think it's to do with doc trying to change meds, as Liver Function Test too high.
Now doc says he will have to refer me back to MHU if things don't improve.

So I am going to jolly well get better (gives self a kick up the backside) and try to get out of the house for a bit every day even if it's only to womble or glitch due to the amazing power of the Elite.
So Thank You All for your help.

oh sue. Sounds like you've had a rough time. Always someone around here to lend an ear. Onwards and upwards for you

Busylizzie

Candy 461 is history :j

donttrustafart

2 x GOODFELLA'S DEEP PAN BAKED PEPPERONI 419G £5.00 £3.00 £4.17 £2.68
1 x GOODFELLA'S DEEP PAN BAKED LOADED CHEESE 417G £2.50 £1.50 £2.08 £1.34

Sky news reporting Ebay has been hacked, people are advised to change password.

Nenen

cjj wrote: »

Can I please ask if 20 weeks 1-1 ERT is the norm. Or am I lucky to be getting this. Have to break for at least 6 months after the block of sessions. Tia

I'll have to check this with dh as he'll know. He's not here at the moment but please don't hesitate to remind me again later if I haven't got back to you by tomorrow morning.