hubby out i'm worried ........

poppyscorner

evening all,

hubby has gone out tonight on his mates stag do and I am worried I never used to be like this but three kids later and I hate my body I feel really fat and sometimes wonder what he sees in my I think he is gorgeous and a real catch I know I am biased but thats what I think I am not depressed I have always had body issues and I don't think he would stray he tells me every day he loves me and kisses me three times every night before we go to sleep but sex is few and far between and doesnt last long he also has really big issues with my smoking not saying I dont but he very often makes me feel dirty for doing it this puts a stress on our relationship we have split up once before and it was very hard to be apart from him he says he only wants me he has me and our boys and he loves us all to bits but I can't stop worrying anyone else feel like that?

Sorry if too heavy for sat nite

Poppy x

TheWaltons_3

poppyscorner wrote: »

evening all,

hubby has gone out tonight on his mates stag do and I am worried I never used to be like this but three kids later and I hate my body I feel really fat and sometimes wonder what he sees in my I think he is gorgeous and a real catch I know I am biased but thats what I think I am not depressed I have always had body issues and I don't think he would stray he tells me every day he loves me and kisses me three times every night before we go to sleep but sex is few and far between and doesnt last long he also has really big issues with my smoking not saying I dont but he very often makes me feel dirty for doing it this puts a stress on our relationship we have split up once before and it was very hard to be apart from him he says he only wants me he has me and our boys and he loves us all to bits but I can't stop worrying anyone else feel like that?

Sorry if too heavy for sat nite

Poppy x

Poppy, he probably can't even be bothered going on the Stag do when he has you at home and three children! Things like that are so hard to get out of going to, however! He will probably get bored after a while of seeing the lads make @rses of themselves when drunk and want to be home.

You love your bloke warts and all don't you? You see past his faults and the things he dislikes about his body.... so why shouldn't he love your regardless? You're the Mummy to his kids... those kids made your tum the way it is and who cares?! Only you.

Try to relax, he'll be home before you know it xxx

hollyh

I can completely empathise with you on this one.

My oh has gone to spend the weekend helping a (female ) friend move house.:mad: :mad:

I'm absolutely fuming and completely insecure no matter how much he tells me nothings going to happen i'm still imagining the worst.:o

TheWaltons_3

I suppose if we have any insecurities within ourselves, we will have moments of jealousy/insecurity about our partners.. but WE have to deal with them, and not project them onto our partners.

I dislike the way some female customers flirt with my husband, customers he knew long before I came onto the scene... so I guess that's my insecurity! I wouldn't say anything, but one day, this woman phoned up and wanted to speak to hubby and wouldn't tell me who she was, she just said she'd call back and there was no message. She phoned a few times and I was very short with her in the end - then she told me she wanted to purchase something from him and was phoning to arrange collection, after I had got huffy and told him that 'he is my husband and I will see him this evening, and I am the best person to leave a message with' - I think she probably thought I was a jealous loon and I was ashamed of myself!

Poppy, you certainly aren't alone!

Kimitatsu

Poppy

We all get moments like this so dont feel like you are the only one! But the Waltons is right, they all get to a stage where they like to go window shopping but thats where it ends!

All blokes like to have a look - you only have to walk down the street and watch any blokes eyes to see that, but they are just as insecure seep down as you, and if the boot was on the other foot and it was you going out tonight he would probably feel like you do now.

He loves you warts and all just as you love him, all those bits that we hate about our bodies most blokes dont even notice.

With three boys I am amazed you get any sex let alone few and far between :rotfl: thats enough to wear you out and deserve a medal on its own!

Here is a thought for you, he will o out tonight, look at all the other blokes messing about and think of you snuggled up in bed and thats probably where he wishes he was right next to you.

Dont worry, he will be home soon

Hugs xx

fsdss

hi poppy

you need to boost your self esteem, he's with you because he loves you.
start by writing 10 good things about yourself such as

1. i have bagged a gorgeous husband
2. i have beautiful children
3. i never go through the day without displaying affection
4. I'm not happy with my body shape but-boy- can i use it!!
5. i love my family
6. my family love me to peaces
7. i can express myself openly
8. i can trust my husband
9. my husband can trust me
10. i am still having sex often even after having 3 kids, and i excite him

Penny_Watcher

OK - so let's weigh it up then.

Do you think he'd really risk everything he has with you and your children for a drunken fumble with a p*ssed slapper? :rolleyes:



























No, I don't think so either.


After the kids have gone to bed have a relaxing evening. Light some candles in the bathroom. Take a nice warm bubble bath. Chill out. Watch something you want to watch on TV. In short, spoil yourself young lady. After all you deserve it.

Tom_Saunders

poppyscorner wrote: »

evening all,

hubby has gone out tonight on his mates stag do and I am worried I never used to be like this but three kids later and I hate my body I feel really fat and sometimes wonder what he sees in my I think he is gorgeous and a real catch I know I am biased but thats what I think I am not depressed I have always had body issues and I don't think he would stray he tells me every day he loves me and kisses me three times every night before we go to sleep but sex is few and far between and doesnt last long he also has really big issues with my smoking not saying I dont but he very often makes me feel dirty for doing it this puts a stress on our relationship we have split up once before and it was very hard to be apart from him he says he only wants me he has me and our boys and he loves us all to bits but I can't stop worrying anyone else feel like that?

Sorry if too heavy for sat nite

Poppy x

Sex ? Poppy you said you do it 3 times per week, that is NOT few and far between.

DIRTY_CASH

We all hate our bods.... I mean if you can find me a woman who loves everything about her body... I not only would be surprised... I d probably slap the smug !!!!!!!!
Seriously its a corny old cliche but you have got to love yourself to get the old sexy feeling back. I bet you have got something that most women would kill for - a great man and smashing kids is a start - but what about great hair, or large eyes, small waist, great bust etc etc capitalise on it and feel good about yourself.
As for sex - you get it a darn sight more than most!!!!!

poppyscorner

Tom_Saunders wrote: »

Sex ? Poppy you said you do it 3 times per week, that is NOT few and far between.

Tis if you want it 3 times a night:p

Tom_Saunders

poppyscorner wrote: »

Tis if you want it 3 times a night:p

If you want or need it three times per night you must have serious insecurities. I can't belive anyone needs that.