Working Full Time - Mums??

Alchemilla

Lots of great advice here.

I would tune out people's views (meaning SIL here) since there is always someone who wants to tell you you should work more/work less/not work outside the home. It says more about them than you.

Can you cope with the inevitable relaxing of your high domestic standards?

Have you discussed with your DH who takes time off in case of child illness? We take turns in that case but I know some full time working women whose husbands will not.

Good luck in your second interview. X

Mojisola

masonsmum wrote: »

I can be quite OCD with regards to my housework and routine, DH says I just need to not let it bother me and says he will help more with regards to making packed lunches, washing etc.

You're both going to be working full-time - your OH shouldn't be "helping you" - the work at home should be shared equally.

It can be hard for the FT worker who previously had someone at home to adjust to pulling their weight at home but I'd say start as you mean to go on - if you carry on doing the bulk of the childcare/home management when you start back full-time, you'll be doing it for ever.

I'd also suggest a cleaner. Set out exactly what you want done and to what standard (so that you don't end up repeating the work) and, if one doesn't meet your standards, try someone else.

From experience, I'd also say have a regular review every three or six months. I've get to have a cleaner who didn't slip a bit from the original agreement.

marywooyeah

surfsister wrote: »

surely the key to both partners working full time is both sharing the chores - not the woman rushing around to do them all. or am I missing something here?

I suppose like most things different things work for different people - some couples share the housework equally and in other couples one partner does more than the other.

The OP asked how people have managed to have children and work fulltime and posters have provided their personal experiences. I think it's quite interesting to see the varying experiences.

WelshDragoness

i think that it's 'horses for courses', if you want to work fulltime and are financially so much better off, you should do so, I am a single parent to two children,(widowed) but have always worked fulltime, my parents have helped enormously with childcare.
My job cannot be done part-time, but then again I wouldn't want to, I am fortunate enough to be able to claim minimal tax credits due to a reasonable salary, but I can't say i'm rolling in cash by any stretch of imagination.You will naturally get into some kind of routine for cleaning etc, and I make sure i do all my chores on Saturday when my children are out with friends, this gives us a family day on Sunday. At times things are hard, I get tired and there is no-one else to share the load, but my children are getting older and I ask them to do certain chores, my eldest can iron etc, they both keep their own rooms tidy, I work hard in my job when I am there, and that means my boss is a lot more agreeable when I need to be off for school events etc. Full time is fine for me, I like the social aspect of work too, it keeps me sane, no work would be hell for me, so my advice is go for what you want, not what others think you should do, Good Luck:)