what to do?

sadandlonely

Ziggazee wrote: »

Yep......your friend needs to get a grip. This kind of situation is going to come up numerous times over the years (when the child goes to school, etc).

Not very helpful comment really

Ziggazee

Don't post on here if you don't like people to have their own opinion.

sadandlonely

Make-it-3 wrote: »

This is silly, a one year old doesn't understand the concept of birthdays or friendship. This is about the adults asserting their territory.

First birthdays are for the parents to celebrate surviving the first year.

If your friend wants to return the favour of inviting "her" mummy friends to a celebration then just pick another day and get on with it.

If this was about adults asserting their territory, she would be spending a couple of hundred pound like i have seen some of the mothers do!

I will tell her in nice terms what people have said here.

Not like many who have been a bit blunt!!

Wont post here again on this topic and shall look at getting it deleted as from this post, i was looking for nice advice and not rude!!!

flea72

So shes messaged everyone, but 4 other friends have already agreed to go to the other party? Then the other woman must have sent her invites out first and your friend wasnt included, otherwise she would have known

Clashes of parties will always happen. You either have to get jn really early, or accept that sometimes people will play favourites.

DD has a girl in her class whos bday is the day after hers, her mum always sends out invites 6wks in advance, so she can get in first. Im past caring now. We just do the party when it suits us.

mrcow

This sort of thing happens all the time.

If she wants people to come to her party, change the date.

If she's not fussed, then keep it the same.

The children involved aren't going to know or care anyway.

Talukdar

Your friend can celebrate twice. One in the original day of his sons birth and then few days later with all of her friends.

HPoirot

sadandlonely wrote: »

It is my sons first birthday in June and I want to throw him a little party. I am thinking of doing a teddy bear picnic but am a bit unsure of a few things.


His birthday is in June, I would like it outdoors but if the weather turns bad, we need shelter. Now would it be better to have it in our back garden where we can use the house or we have a local country park where there is shelter but I am unsure whether we could use this.


We will be inviting around 10 babies approx.


I will have a few activities such as toys and a ball pit to take with us. Are there any other activities that we could do?


I have got someone making the cake. For favours, I was thinking of little teddies as gifts rather than party bags.


What food could we offer? Thinking teddy bear shaped sandwiches and cookies, fruit, cheese, breadsticks and crackers.


Any help much appreciated, if I have missed something I'm open to any ideas!


Thank you :):)

Isn't it your son's 1st birthday in June, was he born 1 day short of Father's Day?

Ziggazee wrote: »

Yep......your friend needs to get a grip. This kind of situation is going to come up numerous times over the years (when the child goes to school, etc).

sadandlonely wrote: »

Not very helpful comment really

Ziggazee's advice above is one among the very helpful comments on this thread.

sadandlonely

HPoirot wrote: »

Isn't it your son's 1st birthday in June, was he born 1 day short of Father's Day?






Ziggazee's advice above is one among the very helpful comments on this thread.

No my sons birthday is late june. All the babies are around the same age

TopQuark

sadandlonely wrote: »

those 4 babies including the little girl are good friends with her son.

I very much doubt that. Babies under the age of 1 don't have 'friends' or even understand the concept of them, let alone 'good friends'!

As others have said, this is about the adults, not the children. Just have the party, if it is really necessary anyway, the following weekend. Seriously, I cannot believe people get so stressed out over such non-issues.

Pollycat

sadandlonely wrote: »

If this was about adults asserting their territory, she would be spending a couple of hundred pound like i have seen some of the mothers do!

I will tell her in nice terms what people have said here.

Not like many who have been a bit blunt!!

Wont post here again on this topic and shall look at getting it deleted as from this post, i was looking for nice advice and not rude!!!

I think you've probably been sympathising with this friend about this double-booking and it probably hasn't helped her to see that it's not really her 'worst fear' come true.

It's something that should be able to be sorted out pretty quickly, amicably and without long-lasting distress to the birthday boy - who won't have any idea of what day his party is actually held on.

I also think you need to understand the difference between people offering their opinion and being 'rude'.