Finding Lost Relatives...Advice?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

NatMast wrote: »

Nope, my biological father and mother never married. I have been born and bred in Leicestershire too.

Sally Army won't help, then.

DigForVictory

So maybe ask your mum to leave a letter with the Will, of what she can recall? Still painful for her, but leaves her some privacy & she can leave information for any grandchildren. (How I got the genealogist 'licence' - grandsons coax tales, physically trigger memories in how they look, move, laugh - so consider them a perishing awkward bio-weapon in your arsenal?!)

All the best of luck, and maybe adjust your own social network so your Dad can find you?

NatMast_2

My mother will probably be around a good 20-30 years more fingers crossed so that seems like a long term goal.

Thank you for your opinion, it is appreciated. It would be strange to adjust social media to my birth name as nobody else is aware of it. I have enabled myself to be found if you type in my real name though so who knows?

He may very well have moved away from Leicestershire, who knows. I think I'm wishing myself some luck in locating him. I certainly wouldn't just turn up at his door though or anything so soap drama-like.

Mojisola

We occasionally get a letter in the local paper from someone trying to find relatives or friends from way back.

I wouldn't say you are looking for your birth father - just something like "Trying to trace John Smith whose was born around XXX, his parents lived in XXX area/road, plus any other little details that might trigger memories."

I saw one of these and knew that my parents' neighbour's husband had worked at the same firm at the time named in the advert. She contacted some of her (now deceased) husband's friends who had worked with him and, after passing the information around several people, they were able to contact the person to let him know someone was looking for him.

The social network existed long before the internet came along. If the modern methods haven't worked, try the old-fashioned way.