Enjoy Locarr's interesting thread Elite

TrulyMadly

Evening paw sniffers,

Just reading back about tales of elderly nans and mams and how demanding they can become. Of this I have no doubt having experienced it first hand myself.

What I wonder is....how do we stop ourselves becoming "them" , people who are needy...the next generation.....the people our children will care for and support.
How do we retain our independence and dignity and build solid "healthy" relationships with those younger than us, all the while remaining reasonable, patient and loving.

Or should I just resign myself to navy elasticated trousers:o

ilovetoshop

TrulyMadly wrote: »

Lotsobear......welcome:T

You were so lucky finding one of our highly trained field operatives:j

Thank goodness you didn't bump into Nerfy who's just passed his First Level Operative Personal Shopper ( FLOPS )

Or David who has just moved up to SLOPS .....Second Level Operative Personal Shopper.

You were extremely lucky.... But congratulations on finding us:)

That made me :rotfl::T

karlie88

ilovetoshop wrote: »

Evening:D

Thanks aau1 ..silly auto correct


Having a stressed day , I know everyone has their problems and a lot of people's are far worse than mine,but today's one of those days where I just want to scream.
Every now and then nan has these moments where she is just really nasty and nothing I do is good enough , I have been up there this morning for 3 hours done her washing and cleaning cooked dinner and then I went to work then got the children from school then went back up and cause I only stayed an hour she started telling me she might as well be dead.ive told her if that is how she feels then it is worthless me doing what I do if it doesn't make her any happier but she then justs chucks insults at me and the children then refuses to listen to what I'm saying and then pretends she can't hear me and now I'm the one coming away feeling guilty but there isn't anymore I can do, I am there as much as I possibly can be :(

tweets

ilovetoshop wrote: »

Oh my it is all to familiar,nan tries to tell her neighbours she never goes anywhere or sees anyone and they no that's not true as they see me there everyday
I try to explain to nan that if she went to some of the clubs they have on offer here she might make some new friends and might enjoy herself but she refuses as she says they are for old people :cool:

My mum will be playing bingo now in the common room

She goes to all the clubs and gets her lunch made think its 4 times a week that's also in the common room she also goes in town and to T's and A's . The other week four of them went to Bury on the tram. But mum never goes out nor sees anyone. :rotfl::rotfl:

fairclaire

ilovetoshop wrote: »

I understand all this,like I said sometimes I just break,I think I'm tired as well which doesn't help.
I work 30 hours a week plus look after nan on my own plus trying to keep my home and family going and I think it's all starting to get a bit much for me and has been for a while

I think this could be a few ladies around here at the minute

TrulyMadly

gocat wrote: »

A vs T delivery this afternoon apg £9.68 Plenty of Ryvita. Let the diet begin :rotfl:

1 x ASDA Orange Loose £0.30 £0.30
1 x ASDA British Semi Skimmed Milk 4 Pints (2.27L) £1.00 £1.00
1 x Ryvita Sesame Rye Crispbread (250g) £1.29 £1.00
1 x Ryvita Multi-Grain Crispbread (250g) £1.29 £1.00
4 x Buxton Natural Still Mineral Water (8x500ml) £6.00 £5.96
1 x Seriously Strong Spreadable Lighter (125g) £1.48 £1.00
1 x Ryvita Sunflower Seeds & Oats Rye Crispbread (200g... £1.59 £1.00
2 x Ryvita Fruit Crunch Crispbread (200g) £3.18 £2.00
1 x Ryvita Cracked Black Pepper Crispbread (200g) £1.59 £1.00
1 x ASDA Blackberries (300g) £3.00 £1.03
1 x ASDA Mixed Weight Free Range Eggs (6) £0.97 N/A
1 x ASDA Chinese Takeaway Prawn Crackers (40g) £0.50 £0.15
2 x ASDA Carver Ham (250g) £5.00 £2.94

Is there a multi not showing on the Ryvita gocat?

underperky

TrulyMadly wrote: »

Evening paw sniffers,

Just reading back about tales of elderly nans and mams and how demanding they can become. Of this I have no doubt having experienced it first hand myself.

What I wonder is....how do we stop ourselves becoming "them" , people who are needy...the next generation.....the people our children will care for and support.
How do we retain our independence and dignity and build solid "healthy" relationships with those younger than us, all the while remaining reasonable, patient and loving.

Or should I just resign myself to navy elasticated trousers:o

Some how I can't see you in navy elasticated trouser's


Maybe tartan or black but never navy

80934

ilovetoshop wrote: »

I understand all this,like I said sometimes I just break,I think I'm tired as well which doesn't help.
I work 30 hours a week plus look after nan on my own plus trying to keep my home and family going and I think it's all starting to get a bit much for me and has been for a while

There is a lot of support you can get when you are a "carer" - My local doctors surgery gave me some leaflets and the local council have information too. I hope you manage to get some help.

tweets

TrulyMadly wrote: »

Evening paw sniffers,

Just reading back about tales of elderly nans and mams and how demanding they can become. Of this I have no doubt having experienced it first hand myself.

What I wonder is....how do we stop ourselves becoming "them" , people who are needy...the next generation.....the people our children will care for and support.
How do we retain our independence and dignity and build solid "healthy" relationships with those younger than us, all the while remaining reasonable, patient and loving.

Or should I just resign myself to navy elasticated trousers:o

From M&S Mum says they the only ones that wear and wash well

Tinyshoes

ilovetoshop wrote: »

Oh my it is all to familiar,nan tries to tell her neighbours she never goes anywhere or sees anyone and they no that's not true as they see me there everyday
I try to explain to nan that if she went to some of the clubs they have on offer here she might make some new friends and might enjoy herself but she refuses as she says they are for old people :cool:

I could have taken those words out of my mum's mouth about going to clubs, my mum was never old. I did manage to persuade her to try somewhere with me going with her for first time, had to get the all clear though to do it but I explained would never get her there in first place otherewise. It worked a treat. Day out once a week with a cooked meal, gave me a lovely break.

ilovetoshop wrote: »

I understand all this,like I said sometimes I just break,I think I'm tired as well which doesn't help.
I work 30 hours a week plus look after nan on my own plus trying to keep my home and family going and I think it's all starting to get a bit much for me and has been for a while

Sorry hun, now I have read that back I probably sounded a bit patronising.

It sound's like you need to get some help from somewhere, even if it is only half hour a day, has your nan been assessed for any care, no one is superwoman. I could not have held a job down as well as look after my mum. :eek: