I'm so unhappy

needing-help

I have posted before that my husband is leaving in June. We decided he would wait until then as my son is doing his gcse's.
We seemed to be getting on ok but then I refused to let him grope me a few days ago so now he barely speaks to me. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells all the time. I've spent the past few days trying desperately to keep things as normal as possible for the kids while trying not to cry at the drop of a hat.

victory

Do you want him to leave? Is it his idea or yours? Is the marriage not repairable with counselling? What has happened for him to be leaving?

whitewing

Do the children honestly have no idea that anything is amiss?

I haven't seen your other posts so don't know the background.

I would think for you and your husband that the waiting is intolerable, but I admire you for trying to lessen the impact on your son.

needing-help

In my heart of hearts yes I want him to go. It was his idea but I've wanted it for a long time I've just been too scared to do anything.
Basically he's a bully he can be really nasty one minute then lovely later. The ignoring me is nothing new he uses it to punish me if, in his words, I p**s him off.
He calls the kids some horrible names as well
We tried counselling last year but it didn't help.

needing-help

Whitewing I don't think they do as he has always been moody and can go days barely speaking to me.

whitewing

Whose idea is it to delay the move out then? His?

needing-help

Yes it was his idea but I didn't put up a huge fight. Maybe he thought I would.

whitewing

Assuming that you agree with him moving out at a later date, why don't you start dreaming about what you are going to do when he does? Even if it is simple things like fresh flowers to look forward to? Have a notebook....it will help you look forward.

Mojisola

needing-help wrote: »

I have posted before that my husband is leaving in June. We decided he would wait until then as my son is doing his gcse's.

We seemed to be getting on ok but then I refused to let him grope me a few days ago so now he barely speaks to me. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells all the time. I've spent the past few days trying desperately to keep things as normal as possible for the kids while trying not to cry at the drop of a hat.

So the marriage is over and he is leaving in June but still expects you to have sex with him in the meantime?!

No-one should be walking on eggshells in their own home. If he can't behave like a flat-mate rather than a spouse, he should be leaving now.

victory

needing-help wrote: »

In my heart of hearts yes I want him to go. It was his idea but I've wanted it for a long time I've just been too scared to do anything.
Basically he's a bully he can be really nasty one minute then lovely later. The ignoring me is nothing new he uses it to punish me if, in his words, I p**s him off.
He calls the kids some horrible names as well
We tried counselling last year but it didn't help.

So he is a bully and you want him to leave and there is no hope for the relationship having tried counselling, him calling his kids horrible names is totally unacceptable and his behaviour towards you equally so , so why would you want him around for even one more second let alone another 2 months?:eek:

The kids could be pleased not to have to endure his terrible behaviour any longer now rather than waiting even more time

victory

needing-help wrote: »

Yes it was his idea but I didn't put up a huge fight. Maybe he thought I would.

Why would you if he is such a bully? I take it he has no issues himself with his terrible behaviour?