Noisy neighbour upstairs, help

loveandlight

Christal
We had more or less the same problem you are having except a lot of the noise we had was because for over a year they were leaving their child unattended to cry all through the night, night after night for hours on end and then the child would continually cry for hours and hours every day. It was heartbreaking to hear. I was even physically attacked out of the blue by the mother as well. We got it sorted out in the end and they have since moved on. I have sent you a pm.

I agree with scrummymummy as well.

60north

how difficult

I wonder if you could invite your downstairs neighbour up for a freindly drink one evening and get their take on it.

Seems to me it would be contructive if you did it without blame and all three of you worked on the building insulation problem ...you must be prepared I think to take this on.

If you find you neighbour thinks your neighbours noise is excessive then perhaps all three of you - why not invite the top floor down for a cuppa at this stage(or more - anyone else around in your building)
could write a strong joint letter to housing about the building and join together in sorting out what appears to be the root of the problem.

Seems to me there's a lack of lightness/humour in all this ...with a bit of luck and possibly one or 2 more smiles you might all end up liking each other ... one thing appears certain the tactics you are using at the momment aren't getting any result - so theres no point in getting in any further tizz in that direction.

Hope something works out for ALL of you

happy summer

littlesos

I have to agree with the others who have said it sounds like you are being unreasonable.

You've said that your lower neighbour has no problems with you, you take this as being because you make no noise at all. I think it's more likely that you are making exactly the same amount of noise as your upstairs neighbours are, but your lower neighbours accept that if you live under someone then there will be noises.

I can't believe that they stomp through the house purposefully to annoy you, all the time! OK maybe if you approached them and they were cross they would stomp, but no-one would be able to keep that going 100% of the time.

jamesd

I suggest asking the housing association to request that building control do a test of the sound insulation to verify that it complies with the standards. It seems most unlikely that it does and the housing association would presumably be able to recover the costs of correcting the faulty construction from the builder.

Headintheclouds_3

I can sympathise with the OP; I've always had noisy neighbours of some variety (I grew up in the countryside, so when I moved away to the big city I became sensitive to noise!) but having lived in a flat for the past 6 years with people in first the flat above me, then the flat below (same flat, if that makes sense - I moved from the first to the third floor) who let their kids run riot after school, I feel your pain. There's little worse than coming home from work to Thud Thud Thud on your ceiling or floor. My solution was to wear earplugs at all times and live, eat and sleep in the furthest room from the hallway which, frankly, is no way to live. Now I have just bought my first house (end terrace, natch) and look forwards to some Peace and Quiet.

Having said that flats are, by their very nature, noisy. My rented place was built out of cardboard and sticky backed plastic in 1991, and the sound carries terribly. I've banged on the ceiling/floor more than once, but it really doesn't help with neighbour relations. I know it's tough but, as others have suggested, you may want to try mediation of some sort - either speak to the neighbours directly or to whoever owns the place.

The thing to remember is that they are not doing it on purpose. We all made noise as kids (I dread to think what my countryside neighbours must have thought of the 14-year-old me - playing rock music until midnight with my window open) and had no conception of how the adult world worked. I know that this is no consolation, and if you really can't live with it then work out what you can do to escape.

Best of luck - please PM if you want xx