Noisy neighbour upstairs, help

ooobedoo

I am cringing as when Mr ooob and I got married, we were on the top floor and we never realised the noise carried as much as it did, wasn't till I was downstairs delivering christmas cards I heard mr elephant foot(mr oob) walking about and know just how much they must have heard, including me singing, dancing round my kitchen and what newlyweds do alot of.....arguing obviously!!!

red74

We live on the top floor of a converted victorian house, and I'm pretty sure the people underneath can hear us walking around because we can feel the floor vibrate (it's not just us being clod-hoppers, we get vibrations from the the downstairs fat too). We can hear a lot of noise from the downstairs flat (his particular speciality is slamming doors and then running hell-bent down the stairs, every morning at 7am so he can move his car and then run back upstairs and slam the door again), and we just kind of assumed they were a bit noisy, haven't seen fit to complain, it's just part and parcel of cr*ppy flat living.

However, I wanted to die the night I was in bed when I heard the guy in the flat below cough, not a loud hacking cough, just a little, clearing the throat kind of cough. Then it hit home just how much we can really hear each other...talk about a passion killer...

Christal_2

Nicki, I'm really surprised that you just seems to miss some of my points, for example I mentioned I have been civilise and politely talking to them for more than half a dozen times when the noise became unbearable, and nothing happened. For example I also said they were dropping very heavy stuff "for fun" at late night, I do consider dropping once or twice is accident, but try dropping something once every 5 seconds for 3 mins and I'm sure no one can say that's an accident!
By the way, after my downstairs neighbour came up stairs about my banging, I apologised to him and explained why, being so nice and helpful, he suggested to go upstairs and talk to my upstairs neighbour with me as I told him all previous conversation I had with them had resulted in nothing.
We went up, knocked, knocked again, then knocked again, waited for about 5 mins, and guess what happened, nobody came to the door! I really really wish you could live in my flat for one day, and talk to the couple see what can happen.

lynzpower

Dont you think that your complaints are antagonising them?

banging on the ceiling, constantly hasssling them about their walking about?



By asking them not to live normally (walking talking, child moving) you are effectively impairing thier quality of life. My mates neighbours also requested that they only hoobver in the afternoons- tricky as both of them were at work then. Who on earth takes it upon themselves to dictate to neighbours what they can and cant do in thier own homes?

Living in flats is all give and take. If there is a legitimate problem then environmental health/ neighbour disputes will deal & prosecute if it comes to that. If there is "no case" then probably you are being unrealistic and somewhat unfair.

pieceoffluff

i lived in a poor converision where i got a new neighbour who liked staying up playing music at 3-6 in the morning. tried asking nicely for over the first month they moved in and just got it louder.

sometimes the nice approach does'nt always work after getting a dose of their own medicine for a while at times they wanted to sleep/quiet we soon came to a compromise of no noise at certain times of the day in certain areas of the building

telfordwhite

Christal wrote: »

Nicki, I'm really surprised that you just seems to miss some of my points, for example I mentioned I have been civilise and politely talking to them for more than half a dozen times when the noise became unbearable, and nothing happened. For example I also said they were dropping very heavy stuff "for fun" at late night, I do consider dropping once or twice is accident, but try dropping something once every 5 seconds for 3 mins and I'm sure no one can say that's an accident!
By the way, after my downstairs neighbour came up stairs about my banging, I apologised to him and explained why, being so nice and helpful, he suggested to go upstairs and talk to my upstairs neighbour with me as I told him all previous conversation I had with them had resulted in nothing.
We went up, knocked, knocked again, then knocked again, waited for about 5 mins, and guess what happened, nobody came to the door! I really really wish you could live in my flat for one day, and talk to the couple see what can happen.

Christal I think the problem is you don't see anyone elses point of view. If your posts are an indication of what you are like in real life god help the nieghbours.

I have more sympathy for them to be honest.

PROFESSIONAL_LANDLORD

Recently we were upgrading a flat and the 2 kids were I guess jumping from the setee onto the floor and running up and down the hall, the racket was something else, I went upstairs chapped their door and said " excuse me but I'm working downstairs and I can't hear my own hammering for the noise your making " the father said " their just kids blah blah " I said " sure mate but it's not a playground either, why don't you take your kids to the park "

Sure people should be able to live their lives, BUT a bit of common sense/consideration helps.

I would Insulate the ceilings, can be done using metal framing rockwool & plasterboard worth every penny.

DenBo_4

:rolleyes: Its not just flats that are noisy either, I moved out of my housing association house because of the noisy neighbours, I got on really well with them but with 3 kids they just couldnt help but make a noise. I moved into my Victorian house with 9 inch walls a year ago, its so much quieter BUT I hear my elderly next door neighbour, he gets up at 4.30am and then I think he rearranges all the furniture in his house! and I'm sure he has wooden floors!! Nightmare :eek: , he keeps going till about 9am then he goes off out. The other side is a young policewoman who works shifts, she likes to have fun and make a noise sometimes. BUT both sides are lovely people and I would rather put up with their noise and be friends with them than complain. Lets face it, to have quiet neighbours you would have to live in a detached house in a field! I think its best to just try and live with the noise, make adaptations as you can and then ignore the noise. It's what we all have to do.

oldMcDonald

Just to add, I used to have a horrendous neighbour - music from 9am to 3am with a bass so loud you could feel it come up through the sofa, drunken fights in their garden in the middle of the night - it was awful. That was 10 years ago, however I am still living with the fall out. You can become very sensitive to others noise and get quite obsessive about stuff which you would have previously not even noticed.

My current next door neighbours are fantastic - we hardly know they are there, but I still get really wound up and upset if I hear them in the garden or hear music their teenage son is playing (this is never for more than a few mins and is always during the day, never at night). I have to talk myself through it and remind myself that it is nothing.

What I'm trying to say is that, once decided that a noise upsets you, you can't let go of the feelings attatched. I think that some normal noise is always to be had from a neighbouring property and that it is easy to over react and hear things much worse than they are.

To the OP, I'm not doubting that things are as loud as you say, but advise you to try hard not to focus too much on it as once you have, even the quietest noise can eventually become too much.

wisbech_lad

How inconsiderate of them to have children! Don't think there is anything you can do, because frankly it sounds if they are being reasonable.

Have you tried using earplugs when you sleep?