Small Company Boss

xcarlyx

Hi All,

Im an employee of a small company. My boss/director of the company appears to pick at everything I do - and its getting me down. I am trying to look for a new job but its not easy to walk out of one job and into another.

In the past:
My boss has called me stupid on two separate occasions.
Accuses me of doing nothing most of the time - which is not true as I enjoy keeping busy whilst at work
Says I cannot do my job properly
Says Im a no hoper - if I cannot do certain things right
Said I'm losing the plot
Says I lie about back ache

And yesterday... apparently I'm giving the company a bad image for sending an e-mail in the wrong order
Then afterwards he said I've been a problem for the company ever since I got there and then afterwards said "You need to waken your ideas up"

A few months ago - he also was on about making some of us redundant - which depressed me a lot. Then a few weeks after he said he didn't want to cause unnecessary worrying.

I'm sure some of you will have different opinions on this. But sometimes he just gets me down and I know if I walk out I'll be unemployed and back on the job centre - which I would just get bored of not working.

**Note: I am the only woman within my workplace. I think my male boss has a bad home life - e.g a girlfriend that controls him - as he seems to run to her beck and call**

trailingspouse

You need to stand up for yourself. Please take a look at the Everyday Sexism Project. You'll find you're not the only one out there with this type of boss.

[Deleted User]

Forgive me have you tried applying for other jobs or taking training outside work - maybe boast your confidence, that is what I'd do xx


PS - my place is kinda weird too! I don't know whether to laugh or to cry, it's almost like you have to earn respect to have all the functions to been able to do your job! yeah not kidding at the moment I don't have access to all the buttons on the system because that is the way it is... v embarrassing someone is on a right old power trip, it's the customers I feel sorriest for, all because I replaced someone that had been 'naughty' incidentally this was the lad they wanted to employ over myself once before, my response will be we're not in the film ANNIE, love! if anything comes of that

emsywoo123

OP, I do feel for you. My boss used to ask me EVERY month before he gave me my wage slip if I had had my visit from Mother Nature that month (he put it far more crudely) because I could "think again" (again, more crudely) if he was paying me for maternity leave. :eek:

He also used to say that as I was the highest earner commission wise in the office, he was going to find some way to re-set my percentage structures as he was getting "annoyed" (I am sure you can guess they were not his words!) to pay me less.

I ignored him. But after 2 years I took everything I had learnt from that barstewards company and set up in competition. 4.5 years later I am still winning :T

makeyourdaddyproud

Mind games applied with the sole intention of getting you to leave outside of the scope of redundancy.

Don't fall for it.

BitterAndTwisted

One of the main reasons why some people run their own businesses is that they would be unemployable otherwise. And some of them are outright bullies who have no concept of respect or decency. I've worked for a couple in the past and the only solution is to make plans for an onward move or suffer a deep and profound knock to your self-respect and confidence.

Wax effigies with pins stuck in them are quite satisfying in concept but don't always work. Unfortunately.

makeyourdaddyproud

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

One of the main reasons why some people run their own businesses is that they would be unemployable otherwise. And some of them are outright bullies who have no concept of respect or decency. I've worked for a couple in the past and the only solution is to make plans for an onward move or suffer a deep and profound knock to your self-respect and confidence.

Wax effigies with pins stuck in them are quite satisfying in concept but don't always work. Unfortunately.

Yes, but you can't escape the unfairness of unbridled capitalism.

It was a lot worse 100 years ago.

At least class demarcation is not so rigid.

Argue with your boss back then and you starved to death. Quite literally, in fact.

cavework

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

One of the main reasons why some people run their own businesses is that they would be unemployable otherwise. And some of them are outright bullies who have no concept of respect or decency. I've worked for a couple in the past and the only solution is to make plans for an onward move or suffer a deep and profound knock to your self-respect and confidence.

Wax effigies with pins stuck in them are quite satisfying in concept but don't always work. Unfortunately.

Others have put their neck on the line and provided an income for employees and do not behave in this way


OP you need to tell your boss to start acting like the head of the company. You don't have to quit , you can stand up for yourself..
tell him straight you may be female but your not his mummy and when he spits his dummy out of the pram , you are not employed to pick it up..
TC

xcarlyx

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

One of the main reasons why some people run their own businesses is that they would be unemployable otherwise. And some of them are outright bullies who have no concept of respect or decency. I've worked for a couple in the past and the only solution is to make plans for an onward move or suffer a deep and profound knock to your self-respect and confidence.

Wax effigies with pins stuck in them are quite satisfying in concept but don't always work. Unfortunately.

I agree that he would unemployable - trying to look for new

cavework wrote: »

Others have put their neck on the line and provided an income for employees and do not behave in this way


OP you need to tell your boss to start acting like the head of the company. You don't have to quit , you can stand up for yourself..
tell him straight you may be female but your not his mummy and when he spits his dummy out of the pram , you are not employed to pick it up..
TC

Thanks hun.. gonna try and stand up for myself

AP007

OP and if it was that bad really the boss would have fired you by now.

xcarlyx

Tried standing up for myself was told to not speak to him like that. Just because I said I cannot change things that I've printed off.