How do I go about getting access to my daughter? Help needed

beckett110

Hobo 28 - At present I have been seeing my daughter regularly it was just yesterday that she started being funny again. She originally said that I could see them both on Tuesdays, Thursdays, Saturdays and Sundays which I was happy with, then last night she wanted to change it as her son (previous relationship) wouldnt be there but I said I wanted to stick to the days we agreed. That was when she said "take me up court" amongst other things.

I expect that she will probably change her mind later as in the past when she suggested seeing her on the set days she text me the day after asking if I wanted to see the kids and when I told her it wasnt my day she told me that she only said that to hurt me. The main problem is that I cant carry on being told that I cant see my daughter every time she gets in a mood.

Zara33

arthur_dent wrote: »

When will this country grow up for heavens sake.

To any women who are not allowing the (decent) fathers of their children access, grow up and get real. I am sick to death of reading cases where the poor dads are used as little more than a wallet.

Children have two parents and assuming that they have both been good parents up to the split then they should both be good parents after the split.

If only life was so simple :rolleyes: there are numerous father's out there that actually don't give a dam about their child, they quiet happily walk away from their child and never look back! No contact whatsoever.

Poor dad's ermm sorry but that just doesn't wash the child is the poor person in all of this and if women have to get child support to help pay for the upkeep of their child then so be it, why should the pwc not get this? The child is entitled to two parents yes but let's be realistic about this many father's walk away and spawn further children not giving a dam about their other children.

Scarlett1

beckett what are the reasons for your ex withholding contact, is it a money issue ? I know you are filling in CSA forms but that dont mean you cant pay her anything in the meantime, and it shows willing if this all goes legal.

beckett110

Scarlett1 wrote: »

beckett what are the reasons for your ex withholding contact, is it a money issue ? I know you are filling in CSA forms but that dont mean you cant pay her anything in the meantime, and it shows willing if this all goes legal.

Its not a money thing as I currently buy whatever is needed for my daughter, my ex is being funny because she can. She never gives a reason other than slagging me off. She has now said that I can see her from half 4 till 6 tonight. Ive tried getting through to citizens advice on the phone but it is constantly engaged so I am going to have to go down there on monday for the drop-in session and get some advice.

The only thing now is that I dont know whether to still try and get it sorted through the courts or whether I should try and keep things civil and sort it through my ex.

arthur_dent_2

Zara33 wrote: »

If only life was so simple :rolleyes: there are numerous father's out there that actually don't give a dam about their child, they quiet happily walk away from their child and never look back! No contact whatsoever.

Poor dad's ermm sorry but that just doesn't wash the child is the poor person in all of this and if women have to get child support to help pay for the upkeep of their child then so be it, why should the pwc not get this? The child is entitled to two parents yes but let's be realistic about this many father's walk away and spawn further children not giving a dam about their other children.

I don't disagree that it is the child who comes first at all times. I hardly think that taking away access to a perfectly good and willing father is putting the child first. Women should get fair maintenance from the fathers of course they should, I am not saying that they should not. Fathers however deserve to be treated with respect and not denied access when they are trying to do what is best for the child.

Why should the good dads suffer because of the way a minority of fathers behave.

Oh and by the way it is parent with custody and should therefore be equally as likely to be the father as it is the mother.

Zara33

arthur_dent wrote: »

Why should the good dads suffer because of the way a minority of fathers behave.

I actually believed this also until you read the same thing over and over again, in this forum and other forums. I thought i was in the minority but actually there are many more mothers out there in exactly the same situation as me.

For twelve years my son has had virtually no contact with his father, by virtually i mean he seen his son twice when he was a baby and then he phoned once when my son was 7 and thought it would be extremely funny to mock a child who has autism.

Then out of the blue i get a delightful email telling me he will have great pleasure when his new girlfriend gives birth as it will reduce the child support he pays :rolleyes:
Girlfriend has baby and he can't contain the delight by posting the details on another site that we both use only to exclaim he has one beautiful son :mad: ermm wrong actually you have two son's just you forget the other one, so i'm sorry if my response is kinda biased but there's the reason!

OP sorry for taking your thread over i apologise.
I do wish you the best of luck, do everything you possibly can in your powers to carry on having contact with your child.

beckett110

Zara - I have witnessed both sides of it as my wifes ex is worse than that as her other childs dad doesnt see him at all. When she was about 8 months pregnant with him her ex beat her up and tried to kill the baby but he got let off when it went to court. He has since had another child with someone else that he doesnt see and currently has another on the way with another woman so I know how some men are. The way I see it is with a dad like that the kids are better off without them.