What to do with an intimidating mum in the playground

tonycottee

Tell a teacher?

Seriously though - show no fear. I work in a job where people try to intimidate you, and if they see weakness they pounce. I try to be polite as possible and keep eye contact.

trailingspouse

+1 for being nice. And in particular, praise her kids. She craves it. If they're not especially gifted or likeable, say something fairly boring such as 'Gosh hasn't he grown' or 'That's a nice jacket'. Just something positive. It has to be worth a try.

I used to be a teacher, and believe me these parents turn up at parents evening in the same mood. Saying something nice/positive used to diffuse the situation like a charm.

DigForVictory

If she's pushing at you, then "drown the b!tch in honey". Just make so nice & sweet you could sell it to Disney.

+1 for talk to school though & whether they have a policy for unsociable behaviour on school grounds by parents.

emweaver

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

I wonder if you can all give me some advice.


There is a particular mum at school who seems to be slightly out of control in terms of behaviour.


She fronts up to other mums on slightest issues. Her children are ultra precious and can do no wrong.


Myself and some other mums have over the course of a year had issues of her fronting up to them over very minor issues, both in and out of school and then creating intimidating moments when she sees us on our own as we all go about our day to day lives.


Me I have just smiled and looked through her as if she doesn't exist, not rise to the event get on with whatever activity I am doing.


This week she behaved badly towards my friend, I witnessed it from a far, and walked home with her after school she was really shaken up, but it seems to have stirred the craziness within the woman again, and has started getting intimidating again towards me.


I wonder if people have any suggestions as to how to handle it all. Today she stood in my way as I was walking through a door at an after school club, and I managed to side step into the wall missing her by cm but I feel she is wanting me to bump in to her so she can rise and create a scene.


It is absolutely hideous. It is a small community so unfortunately she seems to pop up everywhere.


To make matters worse she seems to be friends with an equally intimidating woman at school so the two of them together could be termed the !!!!!!


Any hints? I feel so intimidated but want to find a way of not reacting to her behaviour

Reading this I could swear you live local to me as I have the exact same issue.

I had a word with the school and turns out loads of other parents had too and they had a word with her.

jackyann

She may crave attention, but my advice would not be to have any more to do with her than you have to.
Those who say be nice to her may be right, and it may sometimes work; but I am afraid that if she is unstable, she may glom on to anyone who is nice, and drag you into awkward situations.
I would be polite & pleasant when necessary, but be on your guard. What I would be very careful about is any sort of gossip. If others talk to you about her, agree that it is very difficult, but say that talking about her gets you nowhere & may backfire.

Any intimidation or unpleasantness that involves children, or directly affects the school, inform the Head, copy to Governors. Anything involving adults especially outside the school premises, i agree, go to the PCSO. I have been very impressed with their hand,ing of difficult situations.