How do I contribute to this relationship?

[Deleted User]

A beautiful heart and mind, love and laughter is more important for happiness than a beautiful face and body

Izadora

Brallaqueen wrote: »

Thank you very much for your comments, everyone. I'm taking them all on board and trying to sortout how I'm feeling. It's all very new and I've been single a long time, so still feeling my way a bit in terms of this new relationship.

I'm still mulling things over in my head

Oh, I remember that feeling well!!!
I'd been single for a very long time when I got together with my boyfriend and it took me a good six months or so not to spend the majority of the time we were apart convinced that I wasn't good enough/had nothing to offer him/he was going to dump me etc.

I know how difficult it is but try not to mull too much, overthinking things was guaranteed to send me into a mini-meltdown in my head. I don't know how or why I (mostly - I still have my odd ridiculously insecure moments) got over it but you'll get there in the end and it's so much better to enjoy your time rather than worrying about what could go wrong

mgdavid

justme111 wrote: »

You sound like every man's dream !

+1

it's really simple (like us blokes), you are fanciable for one or more multitudinous reasons, it works so don't question it.

puppypants

Him cave man! Simples. xx Enjoy! x

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Part of the issue is maybe your own feelings of self-esteem. He's lucky to be with you - have you thought what a catch you are? You are bright, humourous, attractive and desirable. He's probably pinching himself to check he's not dreaming!

Pinzy

Have been there - and still am a bit, and we're now married! Had to repeat a mantra - "don't think about what going to happen, just enjoy what's happening".

I still feel he does a lot more than I do, but there are many reasons behind it, and I've always thought that you can't define why people care for you - one person may find something attractive about you that is completely different to someone else. Switch your mind off, even if you have to repeat it to yourself. It sounds like you bring out the best in each other (you may not realise what you do for him, but it's obviously something!), Enjoy!

kwmlondon

Sounds like you have a good relationship.

It's not what you bring to it, it's what the two of you make by being together - the sum is greater than the individual parts. The two of you is something new, something that didn't exist before and doesn't when you're apart.

Good luck!