Moving..........

cattie

I think before deciding what you are going to do, you need to read this http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Hip-replacement/Pages/Recovery.aspx

As another poster mentions, recovery period is approx 6 weeks for hip replacement if this is what your ex is going to need.

A friend of mine has recently had hip replacements done too & it was done on the Monday & she was discharged on the Wed morning.

Agreed she was pretty immobile for the first 3 weeks, hobbling around the house & needed to sit down often, but after that she could get around pretty well on hand crutches & then progressed to a stick when going out.

Orville

cattie wrote: »

I think before deciding what you are going to do, you need to read this http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Hip-replacement/Pages/Recovery.aspx

As another poster mentions, recovery period is approx 6 weeks for hip replacement if this is what your ex is going to need.

A friend of mine has recently had hip replacements done too & it was done on the Monday & she was discharged on the Wed morning.

Agreed she was pretty immobile for the first 3 weeks, hobbling around the house & needed to sit down often, but after that she could get around pretty well on hand crutches & then progressed to a stick when going out.

Hi,

Sorry i thought i corrected myself. Her hip will be replaced at a later date. What has happened is that she has a metal plate holding her pelvis together with screws etc after the accident. It is this plate that has snapped inside her. This from what i can gather will have to be replaced which means basically going back to square 1 with a op and hefty recovery period.

pmlindyloo

To save a lot of argument let us take it that your ex will require 6 months off work.

The only way I can see this working is if you and your ex agree about the care of the children. If she agrees for the middle one to come and live with you and relinquishes her CB and Child tax credits(if relevant) you can then apply for CB and child tax credits for the middle one in your own name.

Then, if you need to apply for JSA this may be seen as a good cause for resigning/moving. However, only a decision maker can make that call. if you can show that you have applied for jobs in the new area this would help.

If you go this route and take over the care of the 'extra child' then you would be entitled to either the 2 bed or the 3 bed rate of local housing allowance.(depending on their ages/sex) You can apply for HB and CT support based on your low income and as long as you meet the eligibility requirements regarding savings.

I think your main problem might be finding somewhere to live with having no job.

Hope things work out for you and the children.

busymumy

If she is having a plate replaced in her pelvis then of course its going to take 6 months plus to recover. It can be a very difficult operation and you need ti be immobile for a length of time.

Its nice to see a guy who is concerned about the children, even if they are not yours and I commend you on that.

If you have an agreement with your ex that the children can come and stay with you and you claim the CB and Tax credits for all children then I can see no reason to sanction you, you may even be able to claim Income Support as a single parent rather than going along the JSA route.

I would discuss this with your ex partner and find out what she actually wants you to do, but don't rush into anything and sacrifice what you already have when she may not even want you to interfere.

dippy3103

Bless you- what a lovely guy you are.

I should imagine she'll get full sick pay. So could she pay you some maintenance? It would be disregarded as income on hb.