Moving..........

Orville

Just after some advice.

My ex has had problems in the past and I ended up taking our son on full-time and moving away.

She had to have her pelvis re-built with metal a while ago after a fall. She is now with another bloke who has a drink problem.

I have received a call from her saying that there is a problem with the metalwork in her hip becoming detached (or something like that) and chances are she is going to need six months off work to recover after what looks like is going to be another op..

Now i was planning on moving back into the area next year after completing level 3 of my college course (currently doing lv2).

I have been told by my tutors that it really isn't worth me doing a level 3 because of my age, 42. Most lv3 students are in an apprenticeship and are paid to do it by their employers.

I was thinking of maybe doing another lv2 course next year so i could combine that with my current course hopefully putting me in a better position to get a job.

I currently work part time 22 hrs a week.

I am thinking with this news from my ex that because she will be laid up and her partner drinks, it will be hard for her to cope etc with the other 2 children she has. My son wants to go back there so i am thinking of bringing my move forward and maybe doing a course in that area next year.

I would like to know where I would stand with regards to benefit claiming.

I understand I would be giving up my job voluntarily, but would the reason for me going back down, her operation and in-ability to deal with the kids properly be good enough reason for me not to be sanctioned with a up to 26 week penalty I think it is. If i was sanctioned, can i get a hardship payment..? Can you still get Housing Benefit if you were to give up your job?.The b/f is a drunk and wouldn't be able to drive etc to deal with them, so they can come live with me during the week and go to her for weekends etc.

I would also like some advice on doing a secondary course and how that might affect a benefit claim. One of my friends where i live now claims JSA but is on a full-time course. Would i be able to do this.?


Thanks for any advice.

cattie

Are you father to the other children living with your ex? Only I wouldn't have thought an ex partner having problems with her new partner & kids that you are not the father of would be good enough reason for the DWP.

If this is the case, unless you would like to get back with your ex I would be very wary on giving up your job & moving close to her. You seem to be doing well at the moment, working as well as studying to give yourself a better chance of a decent job later on. It doesn't seem wise to think of giving up this chance & also your independence to move nearer your ex just to basically be a childminder.

You obviously have a caring nature, but I think in this instance you need to be putting the welfare & future of both your son & yourself first before anybody else if these other children are not yours.

Orville

cattie wrote: »

Are you father to the other children living with your ex? Only I wouldn't have thought an ex partner having problems with her new partner & kids that you are not the father of would be good enough reason for the DWP.

If this is the case, unless you would like to get back with your ex I would be very wary on giving up your job & moving close to her. You seem to be doing well at the moment, working as well as studying to give yourself a better chance of a decent job later on. It doesn't seem wise to think of giving up this chance & also your independence to move nearer your ex just to basically be a childminder.

You obviously have a caring nature, but I think in this instance you need to be putting the welfare & future of both your son & yourself first before anybody else if these other children are not yours.

Hi,

It was always my intention to move back. My son misses his half brothers and his mum which is understandable. The guy she is with now is the father to the eldest child and an alcoholic. All the children bear my name. The other one (one in the middle) is not his. He sees me as his dad and always will. I brought them both up roughly for 8 or so years. We had their names changed by deed pole to mine. There are constant rows between them, the middle child and the b/f and he has often said he wants to come live with me. This has just accelerated the decision.

She told me tonight it looks like it's going to be a hip replacement at some point as well so not looking good for her in the near future..

The kids without this news would have been staying with me for a number of nights during the week to get away from the stress of living with the b/f. The course will be finished in a couple of months, i have finished all the pratical parts which leaves just the theory. This can be studied at home through on-line access to the college website and all i would need to do is go back for the exam so no problems there.

Indie_Kid

Does she receive DLA at mid or high rate care or either rate of PIP daily living?

Orville

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Does she receive DLA at mid or high rate care or either rate of PIP daily living?

No,

She's on 30k a year as an NHS accountant and i am guessing would be paid for the time off, or a good proportion of it.

Lioness_Twinkletoes

Friend of mine had both hips replaced and was only off work for six weeks. She was in hospital for three days, total.

I think your reasons are pretty feeble and you'd be sanctioned.

Orville

Lioness_Twinkletoes wrote: »

Friend of mine had both hips replaced and was only off work for six weeks. She was in hospital for three days, total.

I think your reasons are pretty feeble and you'd be sanctioned.

She told me six months..


I will be going off sick soon

27/03/2014 21:22

why

27/03/2014 21:23

Cos I need another op

27/03/2014 21:23

for your pelvis?

27/03/2014 21:23

My plate has snapped and pelvis
Is unstable

27/03/2014 21:24


ok when
27/03/2014 21:25

Have to see dr next week
I will be off for 6 months approx

ok no worries..
what are you going to do workwise then?.

27/03/2014 21:31

I have to backstep. I couldn't even walk last week. Now back on crutches

That is copied from our chat. I have removed our names hence the gaps.

I am under no illusions i will be sanctioned, just trying to maybe gauge the length of time.

When she was in hospital last time it was for about six months so i am guessing because they would be putting in a new plate they would have to unscrew everything, take it out and replace it etc hence why she says approx. She was also in this like frame which was screwed into her so she couldn't move. It's kinda hard to explain but she went from a top bedroom window and landed spread eagled on a stair rail from the back door to the garden path. This rail was metal and no wider then say a ruler..? The impact smashed her pelvis to pieces.

She mentioned the hip replacement in a different conversation. The plate holds her PELVIS together. The hip replacement will be after this upcoming op...

Lioness_Twinkletoes

Just playing devils advocate. She also has a partner who lives with her. Your opinion of his ability to care for her will be irrelevant.

Orville

Lioness_Twinkletoes wrote: »

Just playing devils advocate. She also has a partner who lives with her. Your opinion of his ability to care for her will be irrelevant.

No it's not his ability of him to care for her i am concerned about. It is the fact he is a drunk and can't even look after himself. He can't drive for starters because he's always over the limit etc, she usually does all that. The kids won't be able to get to school etc or do any activities. She certainly can't travel to see our son who lives with me, I am 200 miles away. The middle son does not get on at all with the b/f. I just think it would be best if I brought my move back there forward a year in light of this as she has said she's going need all the help she can get.

I fully understand what you say. All i am trying to say is that my reasons are valid and that i am not just jacking my job in.

If it makes any difference, just so your not thinking i am going back there to be on a life of benefits, I have applied for a few jobs just yesterday over there so this conversation might all be in vain anyway. :-).

Housing_Benefit_Officer

Unless you get Child Benefit your HB will be restricted to the 1 bed LHA rate.

Unless you are treated as a single parent if you become a full time student you will be disqualified from claiming HB.

We won't care for the reasons why you gave up your job. We are only interested in your financial and household circumstances.

Orville

Housing_Benefit_Officer wrote: »

Unless you get Child Benefit your HB will be restricted to the 1 bed LHA rate.

Unless you are treated as a single parent if you become a full time student you will be disqualified from claiming HB.

We won't care for the reasons why you gave up your job. We are only interested in your financial and household circumstances.

Yes i do get cb as i am the fulltime parent to one of the kids.