Is relate worth the money?

halia

£45 is alot of money plus we'd have babysitter to sort out on top of that. Is it really worth it? (ie does it help) are there any other options?

How well trained are the therapists?

skintas_2

i have gone to relate, yeah the £45 is for first consulation then its £25 im on the waiting list. i have to pay a babysitter to. i paid £10 a contribution, ask if you can do the same. as i cant afford the whole amount either, good luck

ailuro2

Well, if it keeps you together it will be worth it...running two homes costs a lot more than £45- sorry if that sounds a bit flippant:o it's not meant that way...

Best wishes, I hope you find it helps.

eggspert

One can always asks what qualifications the specific therapist has; legal use of the word therapist in the U.K., means that the fellow has qualifications of some sort.

when told what the qualifications of the individual therapist are, look these up on a website and see how comprehensively this sort of therapeutic intervention, matches your personal requirements and what you reckon is the area the therapists qualifications deal with most suitably.

Remember one can dislike a therapist in a personal way, in which case, you can get a different therapyst at the same place; who's personality you like better.
If two therapists have the same qualifications; then the only difference will be in the personal-relations the patient prefers, ie:

if one therapist has brown hair and the other not brown, and brown hair reminds you of something you don't wish to be reminded of then one ought to go for the non brown-haired therapist, so as to not have anything that may detract from the exchange of data between you both.

Therapists don't onsider about any personal aspects of a patient they are trained not to.

cheers.

references: reading books and looking on the internet for data.

Pink_Socks

A few years ago, my ex and I paid £25 - but we still ended up splitting! I carried on going to Relate for counselling and just paid £5 as that was all I could afford.

Personally - would recommend Relate - it did wonders for my self esteem.

quietheart

halia wrote: »

£45 is alot of money plus we'd have babysitter to sort out on top of that. Is it really worth it? (ie does it help) are there any other options?
How well trained are the therapists?

A couple of my friends credit relate with saving their marriage. If you need it I'd go for it.
Is there anyone who could babysit for you and you babysit for them when they need you. I've never paid for a babysitter as I set this up with other mums from baby clinic and have done it now they are at school as well. Saves a fortune.

mountainofdebt

I went to relate,alone, about seven years ago as hubby and I went through a really horrible patch and I think - looking back on it were on the verge of splitting up.

During my session with her, I found I could talk to her about things that I couldn't talk to hubby about without kicking off WW3 and could be honest about my feelings regarding these matters.

I found that one session, on its own, a great help in putting those events into perspective for me.

wifeforlife

I thought relate was fantastic, we only paid a contribution to it though and it was £10 a week when we attended last year. They did say it was only a contribution though and if we couldnt afford it we didnt have to pay anything

Cate

absolutebounder

eggspert wrote: »

One can always asks what qualifications the specific therapist has; legal use of the word therapist in the U.K., means that the fellow has qualifications of some sort.

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I never like the word Therapist as in a few cases a person who has been sexually abused sees the word as The Rapist which brings back nasty memories. god knows what psychotherapist does to some people. its much better to be a consultant.
On the serious side if it holds the marriage together then relate is well worth the money but I think people often dont think why it is that they can say things to a complete stranger but not to their partner. Communication is the key to a happy relationship.

me_and_me_monkeys

when I first started coming on these boards, i had asked my husband to leave and didn't want anything to do with him at all. We had a few sessions with relate (i had a couple with them on my own) and we started talking. Things ain't perfect, but we are back to being a family and its still getting better. So I would have to reccomend them.

Mrs_A_4

Yes yes yes!
They are brilliant and are currently helping me work out a tonne of stuff that I never knew I needed to consider. In a good way, of course!

I am totally utterly skint but offered at the first session to pay a fiver (borrowed!) and have stuck to that since. If I ever get out of debt or win the lottery I plan on giving them a bung to make up for it.

DO go, but be prepared for a long wait for a regular appointment.