my mum wants to take my 3 year old on holiday with her...

TheWaltons_3

If you and your Mum don't get on you would probably find her disagreeing with any stipulations you have about your daughters routine - i.e you may say no sweets until after dinner, whereas your Mum may let her have sweets whenever, or vice versa, she may be stricter.

If she is argumentative and quarrelsome and treats you like a kid, I should imagine she would do what she pleases with your little one much to your chagrin.

I would definitely not let my DD go with someone like this.

Kimitatsu

No no no no no!

Sorry but she is too young, and if you are not 100% confident in your mum then you will never be relaxed about it.

You are doing the right thing, after all you wouldnt leave her with anyone else if you didnt feel happy would you? Blood relative or not makes no difference, trust your gut instinct, it is rarely wrong.

I wouldnt let my mum and dad have my boys for a week, and they are 8 and 10! They would all be miserable, and I would be worried sick!

Let your mum down gently, just pointint out that you DD is too young for that length of time and she has not been away from you for that long before. Also if she is abroad its not just around the corner if she is not happy.

Katie~baby

My mum had my dd for a week when she was 18months. I went on holiday and she had her for me. I dont think i would let her take her out of the country though, it just wouldnt feel right. Mind you these days she dont even have her for a day let alone offer to take her away lol

You know your mother well enough to know how she would care for your child and if you think sh would not care for her well enough then its simple the answer is no. Im guessing if you dont see her much then the relationship with her and your daughter is not a close one? Maybe you could say that you dont feel comfortable having your daughter away from you for a whole week and maybe your mum could take her for a few days out in this country?

Deals_2

glad to see i am not utterly bonkers or not a nice person then!!! i was feelign really mean!

Curious_George wrote: »

LMAO! well said!

Deals - I wouldnt want my mother taking my daughter on holiday in this country without me (which aint EVER happening) let alone abroad and my DD is 7,

when i look at my mother sometimes and hear the utter !!!!!! that comes out of her mouth im surprised all 3 of us kids survived!
(none of us like her around very much... but hey, we are all alive! lol)

Carmina_Piranha_3

i get on with my mum and my inlaws but i would not allow a 3 year old to go away from me for more than one night. actually, neither of them had my son until he was 8.

it's a difficult situation if you don't get on, we tend to go to places with my parents or inlaws and all holiday together.

if you don't get on with your mum then you don't need to send your daughter away with her - granny can still keep in touch but in small doses at times chosen by you. that way granny can still be part of the child's life if she abides by your rules. you are the parent, don't feel bad about this whatever option you choose.

ailuro2

A man at my work's mother looked after his son for two days when he was about three years old- his Dad still iaughs that his son keot harping on that he got sent to sdtay with gran for a whole summer- time is very long when you're that age- a day can seem like a lifetime.

I'd say no- by all means invite your mum to visit with you for a day or two, but a BIG NO to her taking your DD anywhere.

ooobedoo

I would trust my mum, but my MIL....aghhhhhhhhhhh...NO WAY in this world