rememberance table

littlesnuggy

Anatidaephobia wrote: »

Of course you don't need to make a "public display" of remembrance but I don't see anything wrong with it if that's what someone wishes to do.

The OP posted on here asking for opinions though, so all I've done is given mine. The OP and her daughter will decide what they want to do and I'm sure there won't be anything wrong with whatever they choose

Anatidaephobia

littlesnuggy wrote: »

The OP posted on here asking for opinions though, so all I've done is given mine. The OP and her daughter will decide what they want to do and I'm sure there won't be anything wrong with whatever they choose

Of course. I wasn't objecting to your opinion, just also contributing mine for the same reasons you did

heartbreak_star

I think it's a lovely idea

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TBagpuss

I think it's fine if it what your daughter and her fiance want.I would however suggest that your daughter and son-in-law to be speak directly to the immediate family of the people concerned so that they know what is being planned - if the widow or widower concerned isn't comfortable, I would not include the photo of their spouse.

An alternative is to have their names included in a toast to 'absent friends'.

I personally would not display the photos and probably wouldn't mention someone specifically unless they were very close to one of the couple (I had a friend whose Mum died a couple of months before the wedding took place. She was mentioned several times in the speeches and also in the vicar's address during the service) but I think this is very much down to what the couple want, and whether they are sure that the immdiate families of those concerned are also happy with the idea.

DomRavioli

I'd be creeped out a little if I went to a wedding with a remember the dead table.

It is supposed to be a celebration of the joining of two people, and whilst it is nice to remember those who aren't there, you don't want a permanent reminder in the form of photos; if someone put a photo of my grandfather who has been dead for 24 years, I'd literally kill them, as would half of my family.

I would ask the families involved, as it is their feelings which need to be taken into consideration, as it could really upset someone. There are more subtle ways to include the deceased in a wedding, which won't cause offence or someone to go Coco Loco.

themull1

I dont think its a good idea, its like a shrine - why does anyone need a table of pictures to remember loved ones? A wedding is for the couple - not reams of dead people in pictures - what next, everyone walking past with bowed heads looking suitably sad?

Anatidaephobia

I think the only problem with the idea is the fact that some people have negative connotations with death and don't like to think or talk about the dead. In other cultures, it would be more likely to be seen as a nice, happy thing to remember someone and it wouldn't be remotely sad at all. If the couple are happy with the idea then that's all that really matters.

Trixsie1989

We are going to put a candle that I've had made on top table with us representing my mum, I think if it's what bride and groom want to do then go for it I've been told my candle is a bad idea and will upset ppl but at the end of the day it's what I want to do and I want my mum to be there so this is as close as it gets xxx

northern_munky

I photograph weddings and see this a lot now. Sometimes candles lit and sometimes framed photos of relatives who can't be there. They are usually on the table with the postbox and guestbook. I think it's a lovely touch.

minimacka

My SIl lit a remembrance candle on the top table for her dad who has passed away. I thought it was a nice touch.


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