What to do - hen do/wedding reception?

hazyjo

Is the hen weekend far from you? Could you just meet them on one of the days, or is it somewhere you'd have to stay overnight?

As above, I'd go to the wedding reception over the hen weekend.

Re presents - if they ask for cash, you don't have to give cash. I remember someone bought us a freestanding bird feeder and there was a nice photo frame, and a friend paid for us to go to a lovely restaurant. Several other bits and pieces - and we were just as grateful for those!

Check out groupon deals, etc. Might be somewhere you can send them for a meal for a very reasonable price, or just get them something you think they'd like. Even some nice placemats (presuming they have a table!), or maybe a wedding keepsake box.

Some lovely things on www.mollieandfred.co.uk (and some wedding gift ideas under GIFT IDEAS), and always good deals on Amazon.

Jx

burnoutbabe

I;d go for the hen do over the wedding reception (I assume that's just the evening thing and not the whole day?)

you'll have much more time with the bride on the hen do than attending an evening thing.

(if its the whole day invite including the actual marriage, i'd attend that over the hen do)

newcook

is the hen do an evening on a pub crawl or is it something that has been booked and deposits made etc? if you have already had to pay out monies for the hen do, dont expect it back!

as others have said though, is there a possibility you would be able to do both with cheaper accomodation or a groupon etc?

aileth

I'd go to the wedding over the hen do.

I really for the life of me can't understand the fuss and so-called importance of hen or stag dos.

LEJC

can I perhaps clarify what you mean by reception....are you invited to the venue and all day or just an evening reception?


I guess if its all centred around what you can afford which bit of the wedding celebrations would you prefer to attend?


the hen do I assume is closer to home for you and wont involve an overnight stay or perhaps a new outfit etc...
If it were me I would opt to attend the hen do and perhaps send a card with a nominal voucher as a wedding gift...


although I would check the wording of the invite as it does seem a little strange that someone you have not had a great deal of contact with suddenly wants you to share their special day with them especially if you are being invited to the whole event.....its more common for those who are not family or particularly close to the bride and groom to be invited to an evening reception rather than the whole day.


That was certainly the case when we got married...we held an afternoon reception for 56 close friends and family anf a further evening reception for 250