A dinner lady has pulled out my child's tooth, am I overreacting?

DawnW

carlamarie wrote: »

Thanks everyone for taking the time to comment,whether with or against me!
As I have said I am not going to say anything to the school.

I have asked for opinions and recieved them, and on that note I am not commenting no longer on this thread.
Have a good evening all

((Hugs)) OP, I can understand why you were upset. I am from the older generation too, have 3 children, and have been a teacher, and do recognise that 'things' are different now, for better or for worse, but of course, this is all you have known, and no, everything was not necessarily all great years ago!

A thought though, your little one had a bump, and her interpretation of the incident might be a bit different from an adult's. She says there was only a little bit of blood - the DL might have said that to make her feel better and avoid her panicking. Some children get quite upset when they hurt themselves and bleed. The tooth might have literally come out as she was examining it - that might be interpreted by a child as 'pulling it out'. I am not suggesting that your child was not telling the truth, just that there are different interpretations possible of a small incident. If you are unhappy, you might mention to your daughter's teacher that you were surprised that her tooth had come out as it hadn't seemed very wobbly, you understand she had a bump and could they tell you exactly what had happened. Hopefully they can explain and this will make you feel better. The main thing though is that she is ok, and was not upset, so seems to have been looked after by a caring person who made sure she was safe.

On the other hand, I do sympathise with school staff who have particularly thankless jobs at the moment .

And little children's baby teeth come out all the time Mine had gaps for quite a long time I remember :rotfl:

meer53

Definitely over reacting.

Why would you expect a phone call ? The bump obviously wasn't serious or there would have been an accident form. Surely the OP wasn't expecting a call about the tooth ? :eek:

Maybe the bump knocked the tooth out and the dinner lady just took it out of her mouth ? I take everything my daughter tells me with a huge pinch of salt !

Willowpop

globetraveller wrote: »

The lunchtime staff spent ages at the end of lunch filling in forms and phoning parents over trivial falls and accidents. Now, there are times when it is totally correct to inform parents or to ask them to come up but 90% of the time its just done incase the school gets sued.
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There is indeed sometimes too much reporting that has to be done that it has a negative effect....my DD's nursery reported every single little thing and I practically got a phone call whenever she sneezed and could i come in to nursery. Once I got a call to say she had bumped her head as I was on the way to the post office. I said I would be there ASAP, went into the post office and posted my parcel and then headed down to nursery. My DD sat there with an egg sized lump on her head!!! I felt so guilty, but I just assumed it was the usual non accident accident phone call! Doh.

IrishRose12

carlamarie wrote: »

I'm not bothered that my daughter has a gap and I am full aware that a gap will appear where a tooth once was. Contrary to belief on this thread I am not stupid.

I actually meant an accident sheet about hitting her face, if I get one for her numerous paper cuts/walking into tables etc. I kind of expect one if she's hurt her face. In the accident sheets there is space with whats happened and any treatment given. I would have thought I'd get a not saying she's hit her face and as a result, her tooth was pulled out.
As I've said I would have liked a phone call. But to not get a phone call and then no accident note either?!

OK forget about the tooth for the minute. Can I ask then, is there any marks at all from the fall today??
Also I'm assuming that this happened at Lunchtime seeing as it was a dinner lady/supervisor. So she is responsible for looking after your child at lunchtime, unless there are classroom assistants out in the playground also, but even at that, it's her job to look after your child outside.

heavenleigh

I'm actually astounded at the responses to this question from the OP....I would have expected the majority to think hell no they can't do that!
I have 4 children aed 15, 13, 8 and 6 and as you can guess the tooth fairy has paid alot of visits over the years (none to the youngest yet)
I'd be furious, if some dinner lady stuck her hand in my childs mouth and pulled out a wobbly tooth.
Looks like me and the OP are in the minority, but was she wearing gloves? were her hands sterile?....You don't go to the dentist without them putting gloves on. Don't get me wrong i'm not a germophobe my kids go out in the garden and pick up worms as good as the rest but has a stranger (to the parent) got any right to do this?
Milk teeth come out when they are ready, when your child is eating an apple or wobbling it themselves, even parents shouldn't pull them out before they are ready!
Been here long enough to take the back lash do your best xx

helzbelz_57

if it came out without any resistance or pain then it was ready.

heavenleigh

Not if someones fingers were around it!

helzbelz_57

yes. that was my point. if it came out without resistance or pain while she pulled it then it was ready. makes no difference if fingers or whilst biting on an apple- if there was no resistance or pain then it was ready.

j.e.j.

The tooth was almost certainly 99.9% out anyway if it came out so easily. If there was any resistance or pain the little girl would have said and kicked up a fuss (hm, I wonder who she takes after..:p)


Why do parents get so stressy (genuine question, not having a pop at you, OP)? I was on the bus not so long ago when a woman got on and without further ado started shouting at the bus driver f-ing this and f-ing that.. because the bus was late and her little boy was 'waiting in the playground crying'. The driver told her that no he wasn't late, probably the bus before it hadn't showed up, at which point she starts dialling the school in tears on her mobile phone. I mean, FGS.. get a grip.

And they wonder why the kids grow up over-reacting and not able to cope with life's little frustrations!

meritaten

heavenleigh wrote: »

I'm actually astounded at the responses to this question from the OP....I would have expected the majority to think hell no they can't do that!
I have 4 children aed 15, 13, 8 and 6 and as you can guess the tooth fairy has paid alot of visits over the years (none to the youngest yet)
I'd be furious, if some dinner lady stuck her hand in my childs mouth and pulled out a wobbly tooth.
Looks like me and the OP are in the minority, but was she wearing gloves? were her hands sterile?....You don't go to the dentist without them putting gloves on. Don't get me wrong i'm not a germophobe my kids go out in the garden and pick up worms as good as the rest but has a stranger (to the parent) got any right to do this?
Milk teeth come out when they are ready, when your child is eating an apple or wobbling it themselves, even parents shouldn't pull them out before they are ready!
Been here long enough to take the back lash do your best xx

ahhhh - the archetypal parent who kicks off! who will 'sue' if their precious child has a finger laid on them - even if its to help them.
You certainly haven't done yourself any favours posting on here - where sensible people are.
People like you are the reason our kids cant get a hug or cuddle when hurt or upset.
People like you are the reason they cant get a plaster put on a cut or graze.
People like you are the reason parents are called in to school for minor matters.
people like you are the reason staff have to fill out forms over minor incidents.
Proud of yourself? I think you are.