Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

I think this is where you have to "be the parent". Good parenting is all about putting your foot down and guiding children to the best outcome, so you get to have your own way with them thinking it's their idea .... now roles are reversed and you need to figure out a way to get your parent to think it's their decision to do it .....

Having said that - it's not easy. Any form of moving, and especially downsizing, comes with a huge dollop of reality check - there simply aren't the right places for sale out there! The right one never comes along. Per sq ft, when downsizing, you really don't feel you're getting your money's worth at all. If you have a £200k 3-bed house it's a shock that a £100k house isn't half the size, but 1/5th of the size.

My non res p has also decided to stay put now, after getting a decent offer.


The market is too sticky, Nothing suitable coming on to move too in suitable areas and compromises are too great. . I suggested, and non res agreed, that a year of stability might be worth a whole load more in peace of mind.

I think staying put till the idea that something really smaller might suit is a good one.

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

My non res p has also decided to stay put now, after getting a decent offer.


The market is too sticky, Nothing suitable coming on to move too in suitable areas and compromises are too great. . I suggested, and non res agreed, that a year of stability might be worth a whole load more in peace of mind.

I think staying put till the idea that something really smaller might suit is a good one.

That's why I ended up "buying a house, any house" - nothing 'right' coming up, limited number of houses at all in my target areas. I'm buying in an area that I'd previously decided I didn't want to live in (it's 20 miles too far east, so adds considerably to my westward journeys) and that extra 20 miles added to all forays can take a mind-numbing extra hour each way which is annoying.

I bought a house just to be able to "get on with things" as I've been in limbo too long. If you don't know where you're going to be living you don't want to "join" anything locally, or explore, or get to know the area because you don't see the point if you'll be uprooting again.

So I've done it to get out of limbo .... and to finally unpack some boxes that've been sitting boxed up since 2007. It'll be nice, for example, to finally have all my clothes in one place and unboxed, so I will finally know what I've got and be able to try it all on and see if it still fits or should be turfed out .....

I've been mostly dressing myself in a small subset of the total haul - and most of the haul is probably really not good, not suiting madam and not fitting madam.... but madam's been lugging it all about regardless.

lostinrates

I think I need to ask doozer's advice about something.

I have a roofer coming to look at minor repairs on main roof soon, but it occurred to me maybe we should just .....do what ever we need to do to get ready for conversion .....strip, remembrane, stick a dormer in the back..........but not sure what else needs doing......

PasturesNew

Every time I walk into town or drive into town I have to stop at some traffic lights .... and there, alongside, is a pub with a chalkboard outside advertising something that's niggling me.....

All you can eat, Full English breakfast buffet, £3.95. 8am-11am.

And every morning, about now ..... I think ... "mmmmmm"

purch

PasturesNew wrote: »

Every time I walk into town I have to stop at some traffic lights ....

You don't have to stop you know :eek:

PasturesNew

purch wrote: »

You don't have to stop you know :eek:

Well, this is true ... but I'd only do that once. Even walking you have to stop .... to see where the traffic's going, then leap across on a red light

vivatifosi

£3.95 is not posh alert territory and won't break the bank. Make it a one off treat for buying a house. Go on... you know you want to...

PasturesNew

vivatifosi wrote: »

£3.95 is not posh alert territory and won't break the bank. Make it a one off treat for buying a house. Go on... you know you want to...

Such has been the pull ... I've been contemplating starting a local group of scoffers ..... say a group that meets every 1st/last [whatever]day of the month just for breakfast

I think it should be almost compulsory on Summer Sundays. Big scoff, then off to the beach with a full belly Hopefully, with the kayak ... for a day's paddling. Of course, the reality is that it'll rain most summer Sundays, it always does; it's only ever sunny 3 Sundays a year I suspect.

vivatifosi

PasturesNew wrote: »

Such has been the pull ... I've been contemplating starting a local group of scoffers ..... say a group that meets every 1st/last [whatever]day of the month just for breakfast

I think it should be almost compulsory on Summer Sundays

Get you! You'll turn into a lady wot breakfasts! Why not if you enjoy it...you'll get out, get to meet new people... when do you start? I feel a recce maybe required sooner rather than later... just to check it out..

purch

Don't be one of those people who goes to an all you can eat buffet, and then only has a slice of toast, a mushroom and half a grilled tomato.

Make sure you eat enough so that they put a picture of you over the bar, with a warning to lock the doors if they ever see you coming back !!!