Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

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lostinrates

tomterm8 wrote: »

I've always dreaded the idea I'll end up needing the doctor after a spot of bramble removal.* People have looked at me strangely in the past because of it. I think I have a reputation

* Er... not because of the bramble. Which is safe(ish). Just because of general illness.

I bruise very easily ( which might be a symptom of an issue) but I heal very quickly from injuries, which confuses things.

DH has psoriasis . He has one large plaque area we call 'scrapie' because the first time he visited my home a friends ram scraped his leg in a bid for attention. His body bears the marks of all damage really. Yet......he insists on gardening. Including clearing brambles, in as few clothes as possible, because the sun exposure is also the best treatment.


I am feeling a bit grim. I cannot seem to kick myself out of the doldrums for long. I'm really getting p'd off with myself about it. ( have dithered about sharing this)

Nikkster

PasturesNew wrote: »

Well, this morning it's pee'd it down, then the sun came out, then it went dark, now the sun's out ....

I sat and thought "I should go out to a car boot", but couldn't muster the enthusiasm to pay to park in a sodden field and traipse round looking at old tat neither I nor the current owners want.

Despite my best efforts to resist acting like a grown-up, I think I am a short step away from going round car boot sales. I did actually pass a sign for a car boot and had a momentary 'ooh that could be worth a look around' before I came to my senses (I have enough of my own tat for now).

Today has been another milestone day. I've just made my first solo visit to the tip (that hasn't been accompanying a parent). I got rid of the loft insulation that had been used to fill the gap in the doorway that had been blocked up.

Also yesterday, when it turned out not to rain (as was forecast), I mowed the grass in my small front garden for the first time. I'd been putting it off mainly because there is often traffic waiting outside the house (nearby traffic lights), people walking past and a bus stop directly outside my house. I am not one for an audience, esp when dressed for gardening. But the grass was out of hand and needed something doing to it.

I feel like I need to do something irresponsible to counterbalance it all!

Edit: here is a 'before' pic I'm only surprised I didn't find an abandoned shopping trolley or similar in there.

neverdespairgirl

Generali wrote: »

I would however sometimes be approached by a bloke in a cheap suit from an unmarked panopticon-style office who would take my passport off me for a few minutes and just leave me standing in the middle of the arrivals or departures lounge (normally arrivals). It was a little disconcerting at first but it just gave me less time to wait once I got to the luggage bit.

Israeli security for flights and immigration seems to work quite a lot on risk profiles.

OH and Isaac together clearly aren't seen as a risk - Israeli citizen chatting away in Hebrew to his son doesn't bother them at all.

Israeli citizen with British citizen partner talking in English with their son seems to ring a warning or two, they quite often talk to OH in Hebrew first, and then double-check with me in English. My reply of "yes" when asked once if we'd been given any presents when we were in Israel still causes hilarity among OH's relatives, because it lead to Hebrew baby books being swabbed for explosives. Any idiot (apart from me) apparently knows that you lie about this one.

Doozergirl

lostinrates wrote:

I am feeling a bit grim. I cannot seem to kick myself out of the doldrums for long. I'm really getting p'd off with myself about it. ( have dithered about sharing this)

You're creating a vicious circle there. Remember it's okay not to be okay and don't get angry with yourself for that. We are our own worst enemies.

The voice in your head that is angry with you isn't 'you', because you wouldn't be angry with other people for feeling down and you'd certainly never talk to people that way. It's a mind monkey - ignore it or tell it to pipe down, because it is making you feel even worse!

Easier said than done, but reading half of 'The Chimp Paradox' helped me. I only seem to be able to read half a self development book.

lostinrates

Doozergirl wrote: »

You're creating a vicious circle there. Remember it's okay not to be okay and don't get angry with yourself for that. We are our own worst enemies.

The voice in your head that is angry with you isn't 'you', because you wouldn't be angry with other people for feeling down and you'd certainly never talk to people that way. It's a mind monkey - ignore it or tell it to pipe down, because it is making you feel even worse!

Easier said than done, but reading half of 'The Chimp Paradox' helped me. I only seem to be able to read half a self development book.

Its really not ok for me not to be ok ATM sadly. I have to get some stuff done, even if its to put stuff in place where I can do nothing. We've been doing house work all morning, because I simply cannot keep up through the week, which also puddles me off. I actually quite enjoy cleaning, well, of not cleaning, getting things clean, and it !!!!es me off I cannot use a vacuum without feeling like I'm going to die. It also annoys me that to do what I alone think of as ' one fit capable woman in an hour' takes the two of us all morning.

I'll get over it I'm sure.

Doozergirl

You have huge amounts of house and animal keeping to do that anyone would struggle.

The fact that your gorgeous, fit husband takes all morning woth you means you're setting your expectations too high - you're bound to let yourself down in that case. If you can't do it, you can't do it!

The conversation about not doing the things that only need doing again spring to mind. Perhaps you need some paid help for things if you are constantly running yourself into the ground. The day I realised that all the people I know, almost without exception, with clean houses have cleaners was enlightening. It was probably the day I stopped trying to keep up. Perhaps not the best day for my husband.

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

I'll get over it I'm sure.

I just tried typing a reply, but couldn't get a wording I thought read right.

So I'll just say that I hope you feel back to normal soon x

lostinrates

Doozergirl wrote: »

You have huge amounts of house and animal keeping to do that anyone would struggle.

The fact that your gorgeous, fit true, but also add hope
Essay time inefficient and impractical! I couldn't cope without him, but it would take him four years to actually tidy and clean, he'd see it as painting the forth bridge! husband takes all morning woth you means you're setting your expectations too high - you're bound to let yourself down in that case. If you can't do it, you can't do it!

The conversation about not doing the things that only need doing again spring to mind. Perhaps you need some paid help for things if you are constantly running yourself into the ground. The day I realised that all the people I know, almost without exception, with clean houses have cleaners was enlightening. It was probably the day I stopped trying to keep up. Perhaps not the best day for my husband.

I will get paid help if I have surgery certainly. Good excuse. ATM, though it wouldn't be fair because I do not believe its fair to ask someone to sort out stuff, only to clean. Unless you actually have a daily or housekeeper a cleaner shouldn't have to and cannot effectively sort and bish.

I won't throw away dh's stuff because its not fair to him, and he is dramatically better, but pining him down to go through a drawer , say, is very hard, not least because we have a lot else to do. We're just going into the study, I have found my drizabone which I couldn't find all winter. I am going to ask DH to consider getting rid of all the old chargers of which he won't ever, ever throw.....just in case.

We have two boxes full. Considering we are a fairly low electrical couple this staggered me, until I realised he was also hanging on to other people's chargers. :rotfl:



Edit: I have become so blind to it I have lost count. Four boxes.....

I'm going in,

Generali

Doozergirl wrote: »

You have huge amounts of house and animal keeping to do that anyone would struggle.

The fact that your gorgeous, fit husband takes all morning woth you means you're setting your expectations too high - you're bound to let yourself down in that case. If you can't do it, you can't do it!

The conversation about not doing the things that only need doing again spring to mind. Perhaps you need some paid help for things if you are constantly running yourself into the ground. The day I realised that all the people I know, almost without exception, with clean houses have cleaners was enlightening. It was probably the day I stopped trying to keep up. Perhaps not the best day for my husband.

"After 4 years, the dust doesn't get any worse" QUENTIN CRISP