Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

vivatifosi

lostinrates wrote: »

I wonder, for example, how many NP would have been friends from....meeting on a train or something? Given time to chat we've become very find of each other in many cases.

Please don't quote...

Many years ago (probably about 20) I became friends with someone who I met on a train. Random encounter, got chatting, became friends. Not enduring, life-long friends, but the sort of friends who are important to you at that moment in time.

About 5 or six years later I started working with someone with whom I also got on really well, only to find that she was also a close friend of the person that I met on the train.

I didn't live anywhere near either of them. The only reason I found out about person two knowing person one is that there was an 'unusual fact' about person 1 that I mentioned to person two who said "I know someone who has done that too" before realising it was the same person.

Having not seen person 1 for quite a while, when I moved into my new library I found out she had moved was living round the corner. So have seen her and chatted a few times since.

Very strange who pops up in your life and when.

I love the randomness of the NPT for the same reason.

Nikkster

PasturesNew wrote: »

I feel lucky when I've got a sofa to curl up on with my own sleeping bag

I had a friend stay over when I lived in the studio flat with my now ex :eek: (I did warn her in advance, she still wanted to stay). It was amazing being able to offer her not just a bedroom, but a choice of bedrooms when she spent a weekend here

Masomnia

I'm just terrible at relationships generally. I'm too picky, but then I always say I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person.

I think the current one is less interested than I am. But it's hard to say. We're going to a party on Friday and I want to kind of bring 'us' up without bringing 'us' up, if that makes sense A good mate of mine thinks I should just forget the whole thing, but until I get to a point where I know 100% it's not going anywhere I won't give up on it.

Thing is, I don't want to put too much pressure on her, but I do want to know where I stand. I'm really not good at this stuff at all

vivatifosi

Masomnia, could part of it also be that she doesn't want to get serious as you may be leaving for a job in Herts? How are things on that front btw?

lostinrates

Masomnia wrote: »

I'm just terrible at relationships generally. I'm too picky, but then I always say I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person.

I think the current one is less interested than I am. But it's hard to say. We're going to a party on Friday and I want to kind of bring 'us' up without bringing 'us' up, if that makes sense A good mate of mine thinks I should just forget the whole thing, but until I get to a point where I know 100% it's not going anywhere I won't give up on it.

Thing is, I don't want to put too much pressure on her, but I do want to know where I stand. I'm really not good at this stuff at all

I will never understand why people are so reluctant to discuss things frankly. It really is the easiest way to make things clear.

When I relised how I was feeling about DH I said to him ' this is how I work, I give things a year before I commit to anything binding because hormones impact on good decision making, but after that I want to sort of know where we we both are with things. Its perfectly ok to not be committed, but I want to know because it will impact on decisions I make for myself.

DH said: I will wait for you for this twelve months till you are prepared to commit to anything.


I wish I had been as frank with the longterm before. Honest, open and then letting go of having to worry about it works for me. When I didn't was when I was doubting myself and judgement and made stupid decisions.

If its no, you can move on and stop worrying. If its yes you can enjoy and stop worrying.

Masomnia

vivatifosi wrote: »

Masomnia, could part of it also be that she doesn't want to get serious as you may be leaving for a job in Herts? How are things on that front btw?

Interview Wednesday! I've got a good feeling about it, the worst that will come of it is that I get a nice day out!

Possibly, she wants to move to London, so from my point of view it's all do-able. I think that is an issue. I just need to talk to her really.

chewmylegoff

Stag do attrition rate steadily increasing. There are three of us watching river monsters tonight. Rock and roll.

Too expensive to fly home early because it's Easter so I'm stuck here til Wednesday. By then I will have watched every episode of river monsters ever made.

Masomnia

lostinrates wrote: »

I will never understand why people are so reluctant to discuss things frankly. It really is the easiest way to make things clear.

When I relised how I was feeling about DH I said to him ' this is how I work, I give things a year before I commit to anything binding because hormones impact on good decision making, but after that I want to sort of know where we we both are with things. Its perfectly ok to not be committed, but I want to know because it will impact on decisions I make for myself.

DH said: I will wait for you for this twelve months till you are prepared to commit to anything.


I wish I had been as frank with the longterm before. Honest, open and then letting go of having to worry about it works for me. When I didn't was when I was doubting myself and judgement and made stupid decisions.

If its no, you can move on and stop worrying. If its yes you can enjoy and stop worrying.

Yes that sounds familiar. Self doubt and all that. It's not as if I'm asking for commitment as such, I don't even know myself!!

PasturesNew

chewmylegoff wrote: »

Too expensive to fly home early because it's Easter so I'm stuck here til Wednesday. By then I will have watched every episode of river monsters ever made.

Not sure about foreign countries, but I think they have an "outside" just like in the UK, it might even have pavements and things to look at.....

chewmylegoff

PasturesNew wrote: »

Not sure about foreign countries, but I think they have an "outside" just like in the UK, it might even have pavements and things to look at.....

I can hardly walk at the moment and can't do stairs or gradient at all. I am fairly sure that I have damaged the medial ligament in my knee. There seems little point going to the doctor here about it so will have to just wait until I get home.