Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

lemonjelly

PasturesNew wrote: »

You wouldn't believe how hard I am finding it to get at my money. It's in the NWide....
Some weeks ago I went to a branch to try to get further forward - she gave me a card reader.
I tried to log on last week, spent some time on telephone support and it ended up they didn't think I had registered for online banking. They sent me a letter with a passnumber on it.
Sat down this morning to go through that. I needed the passnumber and the card reader and my debit card and my debit PIN number. As I don't use this account I didn't have my PIN number except I'd scribbled on a scrap of paper what the PIN number was.
So, you'd think that was it.

Tried to log on:
Customer number, OK, it's on the letter
Passnumber, OK, it's on the letter
Cardreader, OK, I've got it
Debit card, OK, I've got it
Put card in card reader, press button, type in the PIN, OK, I've got it.

Result .... "We seem to be experiencing some technical problems."

Dashed again..... they've got the biggest chunk of my housey money.

Yes I would believe it....:eek:

lostinrates

Generali wrote: »

There were some very sick people there. Poor things.

This is always how I feel. However grim it is I'm usually not someone people pity in the street now, for which I am immensely grateful, and I already feel I am in bonus time and when you see people in a really bad state not coping it makes me feel intensely grateful for what I have.

Its not easy to feel that way always. I don't think, especially for what will hopefully be a short interlude in your life, its far from understandable to struggle with that difficulty.

I think you are doing rather well from the sound of it.

neverdespairgirl

lemonjelly wrote: »

I've been making concerted efforts to reduce self critical-ness at the mo, and also small insignificant things that can wind you up, as I worry about the impact it can have.

OH says regularly that "perfect is the enemy of quite good enough". He's right. You can spend ages worrying and agonising about something instead of just doing it.

lostinrates

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

OH says regularly that "perfect is the enemy of quite good enough". He's right. You can spend ages worrying and agonising about something instead of just doing it.

Yes, I fall into this trap. For example, Its why I still don't have curtains:o. I am sure a fabric I like more for the kitchen is out there somewhere............

lemonjelly

Generali wrote: »

Have lymphoma again. Quite mild. Probably need radiotherapy.

However the brightside, is no chemo.

Doozergirl wrote: »

Gen, I don't know if it feels like it right now, but this all could have been so much worse.

It's crappy, but this is definitely on the better side of the spectrum. I'm not expecting you to feel relieved or even okay about it, but you can do this, you have slight superpowers. You'll have more after this.

Eat cookie.

Agree with doozergirl

Generali wrote: »

As far as anyone is telling me, the uncertainty is about whether I have cancer at all, not what I have. Perhaps I have cancer perhaps I don't.

They're treating me as if Leon was a cancer. TBH that's annoying in itself as I'm going through quite a lot of pain and discomfort for a maybe. Better to treat it and be sure I guess. It doesn't always feel like that though.

LOL. I cross posted with your cross post.

The alternative would be to treat you as though you don't have cancer, then having significant consequences for a lack of action later on.

I've mentioned my friend before. Throat cancer. Was cut out. Massive good fortune that like yourself, it was spotted very early. Their treatment was no way as quick as yours. They wouldn't have undergone chemo. As a result, they had a short spell of radiotherapy.

In contrast, radio is less debilitating than chemo. This really is good news believe it or not.

I'd also say that you need to prepare yourself for radio. It will be ok at first, but there will be a gradual impact. There are lots of times of lethargy/feeling drained. Bed, sleep, dvd's, films & cricket will be in order. It affects your immune system, so you have to be very careful - we had a tub for steralising cutlery/crockery. My friend also had what can only be described as hot flushes. I don't say this to scare, but you'll want to know/prepare, & also you'll want people to be honest with you.

This sounds to be a short term treatment to ensure that any cancerous cells are obliterated, allowing you to live & enjoy a long & healthy life. Given where you were, or could've been, that's a good thing imo.

silvercar

"Please use private facilities where possible if you have health insurance. This allows us to direct resources to those that really need them."

I've seen similar signs in NHS hospitals here. Along the lines of you should make a claim if you have insurance, so that they can do more treatments on the NHS for those without insurance.

Becomes a grey area, if your insurer will pay, but the excess means that it would be free to have the same treatment on the NHS, or if you have annual limits and you don't know what may be around the corner,

lemonjelly

lostinrates wrote: »

This is always how I feel. However grim it is I'm usually not someone people pity in the street now, for which I am immensely grateful, and I already feel I am in bonus time and when you see people in a really bad state not coping it makes me feel intensely grateful for what I have.

Its not easy to feel that way always. I don't think, especially for what will hopefully be a short interlude in your life, its far from understandable to struggle with that difficulty.

I think you are doing rather well from the sound of it.

My friend refused to tell pretty much anyone about their illness.
They didn't want the label, or all sorts of people being constantly sympathetic because of the condition.

Generali

lostinrates wrote: »

This is always how I feel. However grim it is I'm usually not someone people pity in the street now, for which I am immensely grateful, and I already feel I am in bonus time and when you see people in a really bad state not coping it makes me feel intensely grateful for what I have.

Its not easy to feel that way always. I don't think, especially for what will hopefully be a short interlude in your life, its far from understandable to struggle with that difficulty.

I think you are doing rather well from the sound of it.

Yeah, there were some pretty bad cases being wheeled by. In a place like that you never know if it's from the treatment or the disease. I felt bad for them but what can you do?

lostinrates

silvercar wrote: »

I've seen similar signs in NHS hospitals here. Along the lines of you should make a claim if you have insurance, so that they can do more treatments on the NHS for those without insurance.

Becomes a grey area, if your insurer will pay, but the excess means that it would be free to have the same treatment on the NHS, or if you have annual limits and you don't know what may be around the corner,

Excesses add up significantly in complicated situations like mine. An excess is payable to each consultant not just because 'I'm sick with x with complications and more stuff keeps breaking'. Referrals for tests outside the hospital I see a consultant at for their bit of the picture might also incur a cost, I cannot remember I am afraid.

Despite my health care being a perk of dh's job we still pay a considerable amount for it. We don't begrudge that, its invaluable.

I think people should be given more of an appreciation of what things we use cost each other. We'd be a bit less ungrateful, a bit more observant of the requirements to get best benefit I think.

lostinrates

lemonjelly wrote: »

My friend refused to tell pretty much anyone about their illness.
They didn't want the label, or all sorts of people being constantly sympathetic because of the condition.

Yep, good plan. I don't discuss it anywhere like I do here. Its why you lot have to bear the burden so much :rotfl: