To move or not to Move???............ Out of London

DomRavioli

Anon113 wrote: »

Thank you So much everyone for your replies. Its been really helpful.....:)

DomRavioli I have read a tiny bit about trusts, and from what I got the cost could run into the thousands. Not sure if he'd be prepared to part with that sort of cash. But if he did, does that mean that I am not ale to sell the house and move out?
I have made trips up to Manchester over the years, as i have family up there, but haven't managed to actually explore the area as we tend to just stay indoors mostly with the family. (One of the reasons, I want to avoid relocating to Manchester )
Trusts can be expensive - they don't have to be though; some solicitors do set fee trusts so you know the costs upfront. It would be when the house is sold and you have the cash, you can't do it before as far as I am aware.

And Manchester has 1.2 million people; you don't have to live near the relatives. There's plenty of other places, up here, and for £265k you could have a very nice house in a lot of places from Newcastle to Birmingham.

Claire16c that's been really helpful, will look into it thanks.

Neon_danni one of the ladies in my class lived in Milton Keynes and would travel down just for the class. She said it was cheaper than London but not very multicultural, sadly.

Cheeswright personally I Love the sea, countryside is a no-no as it would be too much of a culture shock which is why I would prefer to stick to being close enough to a busy area whilst being able to come back to the tranquillity of a peaceful home.
The place has to be multicultural, so the kids can fit right in..,.

Please see above I am biased though!!!

rachiibell

Leicester is a decent sized city (not too big but more lively than just living in a town), very multi cultural and central so good links to the rest of the country.

catkins

I moved out of London having lived there roughly the same length of time as you and I regret it.


I moved for family reasons but now could not afford to move back.


I personally would think long and hard about moving away.

esmerelda98

It's rather sad that with nothing in particular 'pulling' you to any other part of the country you are happy to move 'as far away as possible' when you have children with a living father. I understand you want a new start, but surely that can be achieved whilst the children remain a reasonable distance from their father. And forum readers are falling over themselves to come up with ideas without considering the issue of where the father lives. Where children are concerned, I would hate to be a man in this country in this day and age.

Danni-R

I would vote Reading too. Bracknell (near Reading) had the highest average wage a few years back. There's lots of green around and its only ever an hour from London, if thats where your husband is living.

Houses can be expensive but not that excessive and the schools are great. Reading Uni isnt bad and its close to other universities if thats what your number 1 child is thinking of.

harrys_nan

Have a think about Torbay, low crime, very varied house prices, schools seem ok but I havent any experiance of those but most of the school kids all speak very nice. Our car/house insurance has all come down in price.Shops not brilliant but catch the train to Exeter or Plymouth instead, make a day out of it.Plenty of places to go and visit , nice walks I could go on and on also once the train track is up and running again, you will be able to visit London on the train

Horace

Harborne is very expensive.

I live on the south side of the city - about 6 miles from the city centre, there are new houses being built all the time which have garages (the place I am thinking of is Rednal/Longbridge) - there are places to eat, places to play - there is a large youth centre called The Factory which is new. It has good bus, train and motorway links. It is also a lot less expensive than Harborne or Hall Green. Rednal has lots of green space about too.

It takes about 2hrs to drive to South West London from here - it is straight down the M40.

Have you considered moving to Sudbury - it is quite nice there and not so far from London so the kids could see their dad. You could also look at Shepperton although I am not sure what the house prices are like over that way - again it is about an hour's drive to London and probably less time on the train.

harrys_nan

Have you thought about renting both your house out and you renting in where ever you decide to move to, that way if it doesn't work out you will still have your house in London

peachyprice

tea_lover wrote: »

Surely if your children want to work in London (or anywhere else) in the future it will be their responsibilty to find themselves accommodation.

Wouldn't that involve them cashing in on their share of the house their mother and siblings are living in?

Surely she can't live their indefinitely if they want their share to move? Otherwise there would be no point in the father giving his share of the house to the children if they couldn't actually have it until she died.

Sounds like a recipe for disaster to me. Unless of course the father means he would put his share of the money in trust for the children, in which case OP will have half of what she thinks she will have to buy a house.

double_mummy

Anon113 wrote: »

Neon_danni one of the ladies in my class lived in Milton Keynes and would travel down just for the class. She said it was cheaper than London but not very multicultural, sadly.

as someone who has lived in MK for many years i think not multicultural is the last thing you could call it with buddhist monks, hindu and sikh temples, mosques, churches and a synagogue we are one of only a handful of places this size that cater to everyone.

with art galleries, museums, theaters, big open spaces, regular events

on my team at work alone (10 people) we have 1 from hong kong 1 from italy 1 from bangladesh 1 from canada

http://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-for-sale/find.html?locationIdentifier=REGION%5E940&minPrice=200000&maxPrice=250000&minBedrooms=5&googleAnalyticsChannel=buying 5 beds for under 250k

i really think mk might be worth reconsidering close enough to see dad and 45 mins on a train away from seeing friends