12 year old son

Penny_Watcher

DS1(12) is exactly the same. At that age they're beginning to be hormones on legs :rolleyes:.

And the whole "having a HUGE crush" on girls is normal too. I remember going weak at the knees when I was 12 over some boy or other at school.

No need to worry - give the lad a bit of privacy as previous posters have suggested. He's evidently growing into a perfectly normal and healthy young man.

Penny_Watcher

Glad wrote: »

It's much easier the younger you start, my son used to run in the bedroom in the morning aged about 6 shouting 'look how big it is this morning mum' :rotfl:

OMG :eek:

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

hilstep2000

Hi tired mum,
My son is now 16, and recently I've walked in on him in the same situation! I was more embarrassed than him! When he was about 14 I found some !!!!!! mags underneath the matress, which I spoke to him about. I said "I don't mind if you want to look at these things, but I'd rather you didn't bring them home." My partners only comment was "Well at least he's only looking at girls!" He was fine, and next day they had gone.
He also started smoking, and I said "If you want to smoke that's up to you, but you don't do it in the house, and I'm not paying for it." I stopped his pocket money, and because he coudn't be bothered to get a job, he stopped!
The best advice is, tell him you understand he's growing up, and if he wants to ask questions, you'll answer them. My son and daughter have always been able to ask me anything, and that's good. I just answer as honestly as possible. I took my daughter to get the pill when she was going steady, and let them sleep together in the house, as they were ssafe. They are now living together, and are very happy.
Good luck!

savingstill

I know exactly how you feel! I sometime wish my son would come down stairs washed & dressed before breakfast as trousers seem to contain the situation. Bless him, he talks to us about all sorts - long may it continue!

Rikki

savingstill wrote: »

I know exactly how you feel! I sometime wish my son would come down stairs washed & dressed before breakfast as trousers seem to contain the situation. Bless him, he talks to us about all sorts - long may it continue!

My son is 18 and we still joke and talk about rude things. Especially when they crop up on television.

So yes it can continue and it gets more hillarious as they get older too.

ka7e

Millions of men coped before all these books hit the shelfs. Strange how now they are more and more popular so teenage pregnancies increase! :think:

Seriously, just leave the lad to be. He will hear all sorts from his mates but he will learn whats true and whats not.

It's the ill-informed lads who rely on their mate's advice that are more likely to be responsible for teenage pregnancies! The ones that keep all the fallacies alive, such as "You can't get her pregnant if it's her first time", "If you do it standing up she won't get pregnant". School Sex Ed is treated as a joke and lads don't take in information - too busy covering up their discomfort with larking about!
My sons were given the basic facts, given books that explained things in detail and knew they could refer back to me OR their Dad for any more information.
The books gave them the opportunity to look up stuff without getting embarrassed and they knew everything normal about their bodies. It also gave them the knowledge of what wasn't normal which allowed one of them to recognize a potentially serious problem, tell me about it, and seek medical attention.

dundeedoll_2

My youngest turned 13 in May & yes, it is perfectly normal (has been for quite a while!) He stood in the middle of the living room with the light on (curtains open) pulled down his trousers & boxers to show me that his 'pubes' haven't really started to grow.

Even worse, my 16 year old has met a girl who's 23. Last night he asked me for advice on 'the deed'.
"She's obviously much more experienced than me. (Think he's slept with a girl once) As a woman, what do you think I should do to her so that she enjoys it?"
I am not happy about him seeing her, but it is a little out of my control as he's just met her where his father lives. Also I feel if I heavyhandedly forbid him to see her it wouldn't do much good anyway.

Can't believe I have these conversations with the boys, but as a single mum I am pleased that they feel they can talk to me openly.

silkglade

Hi honey, My 12 year old son is exactly the same. Have to say it does prove to be a bit shocking the first times as your little boy is growing up and starting his journey towards becoming a man. :eek: god help us.

I did have a little chat about how i don't want him walking about the house without putting on trousers due to our 7 year old daughter - he seemed quite happy about it as i told him that she would be asking him really embarrassing questions if he didn't.

Have to say hubby and i have a really open attitude to s*x and all those type of things. he knows that any questions he might have he can ask us. he knows that he needs to wait until he is older and more responsible, and always use contraception when it does happen too. Drum it in young thats what i say

Becles

ka7e wrote: »

Well, SOMEBODY has to talk to him - otherwise he's relying on info from mates at school (and we know how well-informed they are likely to be!)

A quick look through Amazon gave some interesting-looking titles, how about "Living With A Willy"
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Living-Willy-Nick-Fisher/dp/0330332481/ref=pd_sim_b_3/202-4242929-2861414?ie=UTF8&qid=1183385505&sr=1-5

or "What's Going On Down There?" http://www.amazon.co.uk/Whats-Going-Down-There-Questions/dp/0802775403/ref=pd_sim_b_1/202-4242929-2861414?ie=UTF8&qid=1183385505&sr=1-5

Available as a set for £9.02 plus P&P

My 10 year old has the Living with a Willy book. It's written in "lad speak" and he thought it was very funny. Also amusing is the Diary of a Teenage Health Freak, which discusses all the teenage health problems, emotions and all sorts and is funny too.

I also bought him "Growing Up" from Usbourne books. That is more factual and he looked at it with hubby. He's also read it again on his own, and brought up questions with either hubby or me.

Best thing to do is talk about it naturally and matter of fact, and tell them the truth. Then they realise it's part and parcel of life, and nothing to get embarrassed or ashamed about.

meeps

my ds is 3.5 and tells me if his 'wooly' has gone big!

my nephew is 12, and one thing I would say is you might want to check your internet safety and filters etc, he got found out for googling 'big boobies' bless him, but he could have found some vile stuff as he was on his own.
I think my sister gave him the responsibility of changing his own bedding as part of tidying his room, so the manky sheets issue was subtley dealt with.