Should I sell it?

pawsies

I only read the title and the first line.

Should I sell it?

I am currently on maternity leave with my 3rd child

Sorry but that amused me.

butterflylady

In terms of his divorce the main reason he's done it is to get the clean break order, this is to protect the assets I have bought into the relationship, running one joint account will be a damn site easier then the 3 accounts we currently run as I didn't want his ex to see what I earnt!!!

As I said earlier I have no desire to keep anything I have already sold/given away, my life was my ex wld hit me/strangle me/ try and put my head through a door and then buy me something to say sorry!!

I like the idea of my boyfriend getting me some jewellery I am at some point hoping for an engagement ring!! Lol

I wasn't in debt when I bought the ring and squirrelling the money away was not an option, the credit card debt I have now is from redecorating the old house but finding afterwards that I still couldn't leave there due to the memories.

System

I think you've sold enough. You may be in a relationship with your boyfriend but you don't have to solve all his problems.

Indout96

Hi Butterflylady
My vote is yes sell it - if you wont miss it.

As far as I understand he is not asking her to "pay of his debt" she wants to do it to help, some times people in love can actually share things - debt included. its a partnership, not a me & you.

rach_k

How will your boyfriend pay the legal bill and how will you (both?) pay the bill for the car if you don't sell it? If you'd get into debt to pay for them, I'd sell the ring and use the money for the bills if it's enough. If your boyfriend really doesn't want you to pay for it with the ring, could you sell it and lend him the money for the bills? That way, you won't have any credit card debts or anything hanging over you but when he pays you back you can use it for something nice for yourself again. That's assuming you don't have any particular sentimental attachment to the ring, of course.

FatVonD

butterflylady wrote: »

My boyfriend doesn't want me to sell the ring, he is actively arguing against it!! The most recent solicitors bill was a surprise as we thought we had paid a fixed cost, I'm sure most of it is due to his ex being a nightmare and losing paperwork!!

The money we owe his parents, doesn't need to be paid back any time soon, I am working my keeping in touch days to earn the money to repay them.

The other option is to put the bill on a credit card, it's almost time for me to transfer my 0% balances anyway.

I'm sorry but you are being a mug (and this comes from someone with the same tendencies), these aren't your debts but every post is about what you are doing to sort them.

How will you feel if your relationship ends and you've sold everything you own to pay off his debts and are still left with your own?

BritAbroad

I wouldn't sell it.

You were obviously extremely fond of your ex-MIL and even though she didn't pick it for you it sounds like it still holds sentimental value.

I also have a ring which I bought with money given to me by a relative. Even though I have many other items which she actually chose for me, the ring is enormously important to me and I wear it regularly - not every day but very frequently. Every time I see it I think of this person.

butterflylady

I am really surprised at some of the responses I've had, for me I'm in a partnership, that means we work together!!
I wonder if these attitudes are why my boyfriend is so reluctant to except help from me.

Like I already said the ring will sit in a drawer till I die and then pass to my DD1 if I keep it!

I have very precious jewellery that I would never part with, that includes a ring my ex mil bought and choose for me.

In terms of me doing everything at the minute I have the opportunity to earn extra money, I honestly don't see what the problem is with that?

Georgiegirl256

butterflylady wrote: »

I am really surprised at some of the responses I've had, for me I'm in a partnership, that means we work together!!
I wonder if these attitudes are why my boyfriend is so reluctant to except help from me.

Like I already said the ring will sit in a drawer till I die and then pass to my DD1 if I keep it!

I have very precious jewellery that I would never part with, that includes a ring my ex mil bought and choose for me.

In terms of me doing everything at the minute I have the opportunity to earn extra money, I honestly don't see what the problem is with that?

I can't see a problem with it either? To me, if you're in a serious relationship with someone, you help each other out, that's what a partnership is about in my book. If the situation was reversed, then I assume that your BF would be helping you out?

System

In terms of me doing everything at the minute I have the opportunity to earn extra money, I honestly don't see what the problem is with that?

You asked "Should I sell it?". If you've made your mind up why did you need to ask or did you only want replies that went with what you wanted?