Marriage preparation

ayunda

How did you feel before marriage?

DigForVictory

Zen calm. To my family's relief & mild shock.

We'd been a couple without benefit of clergy for quite a while, so there wasn't much call for "am I doing the right thing", more a sort of "heh. Paperworked." along with the "how are so & so doing with the logistics?".

With hindsight I should have gone more bridezilla on them so they could have gone through all the motions they felt appropriate but hen night, angst ridden tears, frock furore (well, OK I did do that a little bit)? Not our style. If the folks hadn't wanted a big family bash (& it *was* good to see so many kinsfolk all at once, even if I only got to see them for about 90 seconds each) we could have got away with just the registry office.

If you are feeling terrified, sneak off, have a hot chocolate & figure out Why. Wrong person? place? time? Hairraising logistics? Plain mad costs? The idea of being related even by marriage to some family member you could happily shove off Beachy Head? Your family? Their family?

As pretty much up until "I do" you can always say "Won't" & if it's all feeling gruesome now, the sooner you figure why & put everything on pause or stop the better.


Hoping this helps clarify your thinking?!

19lottie82

anyone else think this could be a weird spamming build uP?

System

I honestly had second thoughts but by this time the wedding was booked and everything was in place.

Lara44

Nervous because of all the attention, plus the build up of pressure from a few family-zillas. But it was the best day ever

Gloomendoom

Neither of us had any nerves at all. Odd really, because neither of us like being the centre of attention.

I was dragged out of my slumbers by my best man about an hour before the ceremony, dressed, and driven to the church.

harrys_dad

Oh no, is it Friday? 7th March?10.03? S..t, I knew I was supposed to be somewhere at 9.30. Do you think she will still be waiting? I knew I was too relaxed for my own good.

Faith177

Night before I was totally chilled everything was done and I spent the evening with my friends and family watching Big Bang Theory.

Next morning was fine all morning until the moment my cars were 30 minutes late! That made me nervous as I hate being late for anything.

In the car I was hold my mums hand and swigging water like a mad person and even told the photographer (a friend of ours) that if he took one more photo I would brake the camera.

Got to the venue was met by the minister first thing I asked was "is he here" she said yet my response "right lets go" after that I was just fine

cats2012

Excited and very loved up

catkins

Excited. Maybe a little bit nervous. We married 5 months after meeting so there wasn't months or years of getting nervous about it

Idiophreak

I was fine on the morning while I was whizzing around making sure everything was sorted, writing my speech and so on - but there was 5 minutes where I was at a loose end and suddenly I started to feel the pressure a bit...So I called my best men over, we had a chat and a laugh, then cracked on again.