Depression Support Thread

geminilady

purplegirluk1 wrote: »

Hi, I have posted this on the relationships page but was pointed here by Tulip (thank you), I hope you don't mind me adding this as I would really like some adcive and help.

I am in need of a little advice, I hope I have posted this in the right place.

My OH and I have been together for a year and a half, we are expecting our first baby in nine weeks time. Generally we are a very happy couple, we enjoy being together. The problem is I suffer from M.E and my partner has had to seriously change his life to fit in with my abilities. When we met I was well and we would go out every night, drinking lots and staying up late. My symptons became worse and by the time we had moved in together I was really ill again. I have attended M.E group sessions and we have both had to adapt our lives to my M.E. My OH had coped well with it but there are times when it becomes too much for him. He has has issues with depression in his life and things have been steadily getting worse and worse for a while. He drinks when he goes out but seems to drink too much and it brings out his insecurities and worries but in an angry way. Things that have happened while he has been like this include many smashed mirrors, bottles, glasses etc. We have managed to stop this and he hasn't done it for about 6 months. Now it manefests itself as him getting angry at me, paranoid about me cheating in him or going back to my ex (neither of these things have or will happen), upset that we don't have sex a lot (not thinking about my M.E, arguments making it difficult to feel like it and being preg!), he feels like I have stopped him seeing his friends which in a way I have, he is used to going out all night drinking and taking drugs and I feel worried about this as I can't go out for a long time and certainly can't drink anymore. I get jealous and it stops him going out which then means he resents me. When he does end up going out he gets really drunk and it usually ends with a nasty argument.

We are both at the end of our teathers to be honest. We hate the way this is affecting us. OH has made an appointment to see GP again, he was taking anti-d's but had recently stopped taking them as he was forgetting to take them and that made his mood worse. I want to know what he can ask GP for? We both feel that he needs to talk to someone about his general relationship issues. He has not has a healthy relationship history and he knows this now after we talked things through. Does anyone know how long the waiting list for NHS councelling would be? Do you think they might prioroties? As I said our baby is due in 9 weeks and we really want to be on the right path by then.

Any advice would be helpful. My partner and I are totally in this together, we have talked about it a lot, we now need to take action to help us both. I am sure that if he gets a grip on his depression then he will begin to feel more confident and happy with himself and that will affect the rest of our lives. I juwt wonder if anyone else has been in a similar situation or can offer advice about how to approach the GP or what to ask for?

Many thanks,

Purplegirl

Hi purplegirl:hello: Welcome to the thread,just a quick post as i have to go to work shortly.Your OH shouldn't have really stopped the AD'S without the doctors advise and needs to inform the doctor of this.If the doctor wants him to reume them maybe he could have a routine of taking them straight after breakfirst or after he brushes his teeth?Also i believe you can buy a container which holds the pills for each day of the week so it is impossible to forget.The best person to ask about councelling is the gp,he will know about waiting list in your area as they tend to differ depending where you live.Sorry this post is so short but i am sure someone else will be along soon.

BizzyBek

Hello everyone.

I have posted once before but am back again. How can I encapsulate me?!

Well I've had panic attacks/anixety for 15 years - at some point with agoraphobia. Awful track record with doctors (one who told me 'to pull myself together!). But have got a lot better with self help and the support oy mother who I live with (I'm 34 btw).

Just as you take oen step forward. Last year had a very bad chest infection (am asthmatic) was on loads of antibiotics and had a bout of depression. Had been down in the past but boy when you get a bout of the black times you soon find out the difference! Awful, lasted about 3 months. Could not get catastrophic, negetive thoughts out of my head.

Got a lot better and am now having a mini replay of last year! CHest infection, antiobtioics again - feel rung out and am sort of teetering on the edge of the black feeling. The negative thoughts are a bit intrusive again (mainly blind fear of the future, what would/will happen if I lost my Mum). I have a fear of being lonely. The family is basically Mum & Me and that's it bar a set of grandparents. I have friends but they are across the country and I can't travel on my own with the panic attacks. So Xmas time has made me feel a bit lonely, worried etc. I mean how do people who've been out the loop and have this bagge pull :rotfl:

So I have ummed and arred about posting to this thread. Yes the support would be nice etc but there is that fear of facing up to it or keeping myself in the situation if you understand what I mean.

Sorry that sounds all doom and gloom. I know I have lot of positives in my life and keep trying!!

Thanks for listening.:T

Horace

Hi to everyone here today, you have really cheered me up with the NY pictures fab:j

Shaz, I understand but you might be able to persuade the kids to go out tomorrow because it is due to snow (for tomorrow at least)..brrr. I am back in my flat today with a pile of washing, cleaning, not much food (I have milk spuds, some frozen stuff and that's about it), plus I need to put away a stack of stuff hexmas pressies for next year and take down the tree (might do that tomorrow instead though so I can get a bit more enjoyment out of it).

My mate emailed me today re her NYE and how she went on a date with a chap who she fancies but doesn't think she'll see him again. She was a temp in my office last year and we really hit it off - when I came out of hospital she was the only friend who was willing to help me wash my hair and it was gross to be truthful - she told me she used to wash pensioners' hair and told me that I wasnt much different (the cheek of it I am only 46!).

I am busy trying to make £10 a day in January so I can take myself on holiday in March - a nice ski trip I think. Oh well best crack on and do a bit - the cleaning wont get done with wishful thinking.

dawnylou

Well Happy New Year all.
Looks like I have a LOT of catching up to do!!! Will have to pop back though as I am so tired I am struggling to stay awake.

I was so excited and looking forward to the New Year as I saw it as a New Start for a New Me.
Unfortunately I already got low again. I don't know why.

Will I ever get better? I am being weaned off Fluoxetine to try a new medication as this was not working at all - however my sleep problems and tiredness have returned. So I guess although my depression was not being helped with the medication it must have been doing something for my sleeping??

I can't even have a nap as I am expecting an Ebayer who is collecting somethng today.

queensway_boy

dawnylou wrote: »

Well Happy New Year all.
Looks like I have a LOT of catching up to do!!! Will have to pop back though as I am so tired I am struggling to stay awake.

I was so excited and looking forward to the New Year as I saw it as a New Start for a New Me.
Unfortunately I already got low again. I don't know why.

Will I ever get better? I am being weaned off Fluoxetine to try a new medication as this was not working at all - however my sleep problems and tiredness have returned. So I guess although my depression was not being helped with the medication it must have been doing something for my sleeping??

I can't even have a nap as I am expecting an Ebayer who is collecting somethng today.

This is me when i don't want to get up


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juno

I've made a thread here and it would be nice if a few of you could look at it. I just think I need to be more confident, and want a few ideas on how to achieve that (without alcohol)

antronella

queensway_boy wrote: »

This is me when i don't want to get up


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Ditto QWB !! I couldn't switch off last night either Gilette. Went to bed reasonably early (11ish), but then my mind started working overtime. Ended up getting up again couple of hours later. last time I looked at the clock it was past 3 and then alarm went off 7.15 :eek:

My first day back to work was better than i thought. I had a bunch of flowers and a card to welcome me back, which was lovely.
Was also given an easy day, which helped catch up and find out what had been happening in my abscence. Still feel shattered though now!

Love to everyone, antronella xx

antronella

queensway_boy wrote: »

could'nt resist:D


http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=Xv6lHwWwO3w



p.s. i've just been bopping around to it ..............:rotfl:

...just LOVE that emoticon!! wish I could do all that clever stuff..think you tried to explain how to once, but still haven't a clue...but thanks for posting them! x

queensway_boy

antronella wrote: »

...just LOVE that emoticon!! wish I could do all that clever stuff..think you tried to explain how to once, but still haven't a clue...but thanks for posting them! x

he/she has a few friends too:D they love dancing to y.m.c.a


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Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

welcome Purplegirluk1 to the thread,glad you arrived and lovely to see you,it was a pleasure to direct you here this morning

I have won a copy of the Choirboys Carols album from Londonnet.co.uk and It will be stored away for xmas 2008,too early I know as we have just had christmas :rotfl:


I hope you all have a lovely evening

*hugs* to those that need one

its so cold today that my heating has been on for ages I will have to turn it off soon or I will be roasting like an oven


love and light,

Katie xxx