Depression Support Thread

feelinggood_2

Good luck at the Docs Pumpkin, let us know how you get on.

I decided to take the tablets I've just been prescribed, and I've felt really out. I'm hoping thats a good thing!

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,


I had a good day today,saw my church friends and wrote christmas cards up there as there are so many members I then went to my craft course and I had a lovely afternoon,I made two christmas decorations of an Angel and a christmas Tree Next week is the last one so we are having a party and have to wear Santa Hats so that will be fun

Good Luck at the Docs Pumpkin


*hugs* to everyone


love and light,

Katie xxx

antronella

queensway_boy wrote: »

1.right click with your mouse on one of my hugs or any hug for that matter and a dialogue box should come up-left click on copy

2.then to put the hug in a reply message right click again and when the dialogue box appears left click paste,it should then appear,hth,take a bit of practice

Ooohhh, can you can come round to mine and show me? sounds complicated!

Pumpkin_Pie_5

Well I'm back on my meds again - probably for the best! I've decided to take the rest of the week off sick and start afresh on monday!

***HUGS*** to everyone
xxx

Horasio

I am so fed up

My husband has a really horrible female boss and is considering looking for another job. It has triggered some of my past issues with bosses which is why I gave up work and worry I will get bullied again.

I try to keep upbeat but as soon as he comes home, he brings me down. I want to keep happy so it doesn't bring him down but it brings me down too much. There seems to be a pattern, that when I feel OK, his presence makes me feel like there is a mountain to climb from a depressed state. I am wondering if a lot of my depression stems from him. I know he has work problems but it has been this way for a long time, even when his work life was happy. I have told him how I feel but not sure if anything will change. He goes into a silence/sulk and creates the worst atmosphere. I had terrible trouble eating tea tonight and have a dreadful stomachache.

I have been too scared to leave him, as working frightens me, in case I get bullied like I was before, plus I had a child and bad childcare, so was trapped.

I don't have anyone I can talk to about this and I don't trust anyone, I have been hurt by so called friends. People either want me in a fun mode or not interested.

My mother would see this as a way to try and get me to live closer to her and the last time I lived near her, I felt like a child and got no peace.

It seems a dark winter as well. I keep trying to keep my spirits up with Christmas and the nice things about this time of year but when I am with a party pooper, it is hard to keep happy. I feel I can't help him cope as he brings me down too easily.

juno

CCStar wrote: »

I am so fed up

My husband has a really horrible female boss and is considering looking for another job. It has triggered some of my past issues with bosses which is why I gave up work and worry I will get bullied again.

I try to keep upbeat but as soon as he comes home, he brings me down. I want to keep happy so it doesn't bring him down but it brings me down too much. There seems to be a pattern, that when I feel OK, his presence makes me feel like there is a mountain to climb from a depressed state. I am wondering if a lot of my depression stems from him. I know he has work problems but it has been this way for a long time, even when his work life was happy. I have told him how I feel but not sure if anything will change. He goes into a silence/sulk and creates the worst atmosphere. I had terrible trouble eating tea tonight and have a dreadful stomachache.

I have been too scared to leave him, as working frightens me, in case I get bullied like I was before, plus I had a child and bad childcare, so was trapped.

I don't have anyone I can talk to about this and I don't trust anyone, I have been hurt by so called friends. People either want me in a fun mode or not interested.

My mother would see this as a way to try and get me to live closer to her and the last time I lived near her, I felt like a child and got no peace.

It seems a dark winter as well. I keep trying to keep my spirits up with Christmas and the nice things about this time of year but when I am with a party pooper, it is hard to keep happy. I feel I can't help him cope as he brings me down too easily.

You sound like counselling would really help you. You'd be able to talk through your past experiences, and realise your current feelings are normal but irrational. Loads of people work without getting bullied, but if you do have problems there's support available. Everyone here is fantastic, and there will be procedures at work to deal with such things - I'm going in tomorrow to report mine, and everyone else at work has been great about it.

And you'd be able to discuss your relationship issues, and decide whether you do want to leave you OH. If you do, I'm sure your counsellor could suggest some organisations to help, or maybe you could contact the CAB yourself. They're lovely too. And if you've got any debt problems talk to the CCCS, because they're lovely too. I spoke to this guy called Luke the other day, and he was really nice. I know I'm a bit drunk so I think everyone's really nice, but I thought that when I was sober too.

juno

antronella wrote: »

Ooohhh, can you can come round to mine and show me? sounds complicated!

It's not complicated at all. I use Firefox, which is a different internet browser (and I also use a different operating system, but that is complicated) so it's slightly different.
Say we wanted to add :beer:. Well, you right click on the image, like qwb said. And then you get a menu. Scroll down to "copy image location" in firefox, or "copy" in internet explorer. pick that option.

Then, go back to MSE, and pick "go advanced" from the bottom of the quick reply box. If you're not sure, that's the one that takes you to a new page to write a reply. You'll get a large text box which has pictures at the top. You want to click on the picture that's a mountain with a yellow background: it says "insert image" when you hover over it with your mouse.
Click that, and then paste the stuff you copied earlier into the box that comes up. Press ok, post the message, and your picture should appear!

Horasio

I have a big issue about bullying. I was bullied at school and in a lot of my workplaces, not all.

My mother is inclined to bully me and feel my husband does sometimes. I feel I have 'bully me' written on my forehead or an aura that attracts it, if I drop my guard. If I stand up to people, I get undermined yet they don't stick up for me when I am attacked and almost feel they side with the other person.

My son is a waster who has got himself into debt and expects us to bail him out. He has a bad attitude to us when we suggest ways to help himself. He is nearly 20 and figure he has to make his own mistakes. I do feel annoyed that I have spent heaps of money on his education and put my life on hold bringing him up - for what?

I feel I have to be so careful how I feel as it seems to show and they get me - that from people who are supposed to care for you! I feel their love is conditional.

I clicked on someone on Facebook and they want to know why I want them to be my friend. I don't need the aggro - it feels like a job interview and don't need probing as to why I want a casual mate on Facebook !!!!!!!:mad:

I have to spend Christmas with these people and pray I feel OK enough to cope with this snake pit I call my family.

2008 is the year I please myself before I get too old.

juno

CCStar wrote: »

I have a big issue about bullying. I was bullied at school and in a lot of my workplaces, not all.

My mother is inclined to bully me and feel my husband does sometimes. I feel I have 'bully me' written on my forehead or an aura that attracts it, if I drop my guard. If I stand up to people, I get undermined yet they don't stick up for me when I am attacked and almost feel they side with the other person.

My son is a waster who has got himself into debt and expects us to bail him out. He has a bad attitude to us when we suggest ways to help himself. He is nearly 20 and figure he has to make his own mistakes. I do feel annoyed that I have spent money and put my life on hold bringing him up for what?

I feel I have to be so careful how I feel as it seems to show and they get me - that from people who are supposed to care for you! I feel their love is conditional.

I have to spend Christmas with these people and pray I feel OK enough to cope with this snake pit I call my family.

2008 is the year I please myself before I get too old.

See, you're just sounding more and more like counselling would help you. Or maybe CBT, because you need to change your thinking. Have you spoken to your doctor? Because I really think you should ask for a referal. You may be able to find other organisations to help, but there's a lot of patients and not a lot of funding so do try your gp asap to get on the list NOW.

No one deserves to be bullied. I know children can be cruel, but school was a long time ago. You've got to let it go. And again you can talk about that with a counsellor, and see that you don't have to spend the rest of your life suffering. It is possible that you now seem as though you have "an aura that attracts" bullying, as people do pick up on any sign of weakness. But again, you can overcome that!

I don't really think I can give advice on your son, as I'm only 21 myself. But one thing i've picked up from the DFW board is that no one can force anyone to have a "lightbulb moment"; you can only have one when you're ready. So maybe he just isn't ready yet.

Horasio

I appreciate your reply.

I tried to get onto a list in 2003 and got nowhere. I am thinking of moving house in the new year, so probably won't get seen in time.

I have had training in counselling myself, so know the types of questions asked and suggestions that are made. I have had CBT before and whilst it is a respected form of therapy, I find it never really addresses the reasons or allows the emotions - to me it says, be rational and all thoughts of being irrational are stupid. I had counselling a few years back and it allowed more emotion to be expressed which really helped. I don't like to be called irrational, as it can come across as insulting and is often said as a put down (usually from males to females when they feel angry). I could say you are being irrational about your issues but your issues are very real and upsetting to you and would not insult you in that way.

My best bet would be paying, as usual, anything that is NHS is like a snail. In the meantime I would like some support on this board.