Depression Support Thread

Tiff_2

Hi cpg,
Still writing my reply hun - posted it unfinished! Am working on it again now - you've got time for a cup of tea or four!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

Hi Everyone,

Something started happening to me this morning ,zipper of coat got stuck in material and I couldnt undo it and I got really frustrated at bus stop,A kind lady and gentlemen at the same bus stop had a go and couldnt undo it ether,I went to a shop and a lady said to me alright Angel? I said no because my zipper is broken and she said I cant do it,I asked another lady could she try and she got it undone
Go back and report happily that coat is now mended,Next thing a Parasol comes from nowhere because the heavy wind took it,and goes into the main road and a bus was just yards away from me,I waited to see if it would stop before crossing road,luckally for me they did and I went over and picked it up and gave it to the man of the shop whos parasol it was and he said thank you to me.
Got on bus and then it stopped at a bus stop for passengers to get off and one of the passengers left a bag of shopping on the bus.
Thankfuly after that no more disasters happened.I didnt know it was Friday 13th until it dawned on me that it was.

welcome to the thread crazyposhgal

Love and light,
Katie xxx

Tulip

juno wrote: »

So I was tidying my room because my girlfriend's coming over tomorrow, and I accidentaly sucked a sock up the vacuum cleaner I think I'm going to be in trouble

ouch,well it is Friday 13th today


love and light,

Katie xxx

loopy_lass

hi everyone, i suffer from depression and anxiety, some may say paranoia. however after years of counselling, tablets and stuff, i tried full time work and hated it... What a set of nasty people there can be out there, so i joined a gym, i know it sounds mad because all i wanted to do was stay indoors, sleep and eat rubbish.... but i forced myself to go to the gym and since xmas ive lost 2 stone in weight, lost 4 dress sizes, made some reasonably nice friends and feel a whole lot better.

when i get stressed or upset i take myself off to th gym and have a good workout, knocks spots of pills, (although i would never suggest you didnt see a doctor or stop taking any medication) but try the gym as well...

loops

Tiff_2

Tiff wrote: »

crazyposhgal!
I'm glad you posted again hun - you just found a whole group of fantastic people with a wealth of experience!:T Unfortunately, you drew the short straw with me being around to answer.:rolleyes:
You are more than welcome here cpg.

quote=crazyposhgal;
Hi Thanks i deleted my post coz i decided noone would be interested lol.
Never delete a post on the Depression thread angel - it makes old Tiffy think she's seeing things!!!:D :rotfl:
Just joking hun.;)

I have a partner of 4 years a little boy who is coming on 5 and a bit of a handful. He is a only child so is always wanting you to play with him and if you are not standing in the kitchen watching him while he plays out the back garden he tells ppl that you are not looking after him.
That must be really exhausting for you hun.:o

Where on earth did he get the ability and idea, to say that you're not looking after him?! That's a strange thing for him to say at that age - I wonder what's behind that hun? Do you have any ideas on this cpg?

My son's an only child (now 17) and it can be lonely for them. The positive side is that he's used to talking to adults and was a bit more mature. Course now he's 17, it's back to the grunting stage!:rolleyes:

I think it would be a good idea to mention this to your gp or district nurse. That way, if anyone listens to him, your dr wil have notes that you brought this up with them. Your gp may be able to chat with DS and find out why he feels that.;) You may also want to mention it to school/nursery and ask if everything's all right there hun.

Has he overheard your partner put you down on this matter maybe since you've been ill? It could be something as simple as that angel. If so, it may have made him anxious. I don't mean to pry hun - just Tiff thoughts.;)

I was dignosed with clinical depression 4 years ago. I was on flouxitine (sorry not sure if im allowed to name tablets) 40mg til last march when i came off them after falling pregnant. I than went on to loose my baby in the august so decided to book a holiday take my mind off it.
I'm sorry you had such an awful time cpg!
Do you feel you need counselling over this part alone hun? Have a look at these links...
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+postnatal+depression.htm
www.bellaonline.com/articles/art34075.asp
www.womens-health.co.uk/miscarr.htm
I'm not a professional hun so can't validate these sites in any way. You've probably been into this subject with your gp angel so sorry if I'm repeating anything.:o


However after my partner went from casual work to a ful time job in november things took a turn for the worse and i was back to trying to do silly things etc and ended up back at the doctor on 60mg which i still currently take.
My OH does not seem too understand that this is an illness and thinks i should just get over it and that im "taking the easy way out" by taking tablets.
It's a common reaction angel, when people haven't experienced it. They're not 'silly things' when they happen while you're ill.
Maybe you could write down exactly what it feels like to you hun, what you go through in black and white, as sometimes it helps people understand better?
Maybe you could get your cpn/gp to explain to him about clinical depression?
You may want to consider counselling through Relate regarding your relationship - and yes, you can go alone! Google for their website and see.

We have to remember that with depression there's a kind of chemical imbalance in the brain and the ads try to correct it. No-one chooses this situation to be in. Here are a few links that may help to explain depression to him and maybe even help you...
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+depression.htm
http://www.sane.org.uk/public_html/About_Mental_Illness/Depression.shtm
http://www.rethink.org/
http://www.thefamilygp.com/depression.htm (Dr. Chris Steele's official site)
Again angel, I'm no expert. The first 3 are charities by the way.


I have to admit i am more tired and irritable having started work but after being on your feet for 6 hours (not long to some i know) and asking your oh to do just 2 things for you then getting home to find them not done it get to me. I dont know quite what else to say. I have spoke to my doctor about councelling but she says that it cannot be found in my area and that i would have to travel 2 hours on a train to get near anywhere.
Naturally! I can quite understand you being tired hun. You seem to be under a lot of stress cpg. I know the charity HomeStart helps support struggling parents with children under 5.

I would not be happy with the answer that counselling's not done where you live, unless you're halfway up Snowdon!

Is there another gp there you could see hun?
Failing that, there are Community Mental Health Teams available to all areas of the country. If she is unable to provide a counsellor, ask her to refer you for a CMHT assessment and a referral to a psychologist or a psychiatrist.

'We ain't got one' attitudes tick Tiff off terribly! If there isn't one on the NHS, then enquire about them providing the service to see a private one.
Another thought hun - you could also call NHSDirect and ask them about it. Here are some links to their website.
http://www.nhs.uk/Pages/index.html
http://www.nhs.uk/Pages/SearchResults.aspx?q=counselling

Sorry for babelling on and for having not such great spelling.
J.
First rule of this thread hun - after not talking about meds - is we don't do sorry here. I'm so glad you're looking for support rather than feeling helpless. It's fine hun - after all, they let me post!:D

Edited - In february i also had a run in with my sons nursery teacher after they wrote to my doctor to say they were concerned i was looking "tired and withdrawn" and was not my usual self and they kept asking me if everything was ok at home. I was very annoyed at this as i dont think it is there position to be writing to my doctor.
I can understand why you felt this way hun.:o
I guess the answer is that they legally have to cover all options and were maybe doing it out of concern for you. Either way, the gp would not have given them any information on you.
Did they say there were any issues with your son?


Im not a bad parent i look after my son and i idont leave him on his own or anything and i dont fall asleep when he is about (dont get the chance or a toy goes in your eye lol).

I'm sure you're not a bad parent hun.;)
It seems you have a lot to deal with and some people around you seem to be adding to your burden rather than helping you. Do you have any support for yourself hun? There could be a self-help or charitable group near that would support you. There's so much relief to hear that you're not the only one angel!;)


You may wish to consider whether a call to Social Services may help - they would have a lot of local support info hun.
All parents make mistakes as we're only human. If your son was neglected, they'd have let you know about it long before now!;)


I don't know you hun, but you've had a tough time, imho.
Try not to make it worse by trying to be everyone else's idea of perfect. The responsibility to understand what you're going through is on them!
Return to your task of finding as much normality and peace of mind as you can hun. You have to look after yourself properly and be kind to yourself.
Your son will be starting school and that will give you 6 hours free a day - it's the best babysitting service in the world!;)

Keep in touch with your dr regularly angel so she's up to date with what's happening. I think people need to stop asking what's wrong with you and start helping you!

Please post whenever you need to hun. My turn to say sorry for the length of this cpg - you'll soon see that Tiffy is very good at not following her own advice!:rolleyes:
Take care hun and I hope this helps a little.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

crazyposhgal wrote: »

Hi Thanks i deleted my post coz i decided noone would be interested lol.

I have a partner of 4 years a little boy who is coming on 5 and a bit of a handful. He is a only child so is always wanting you to play with him and if you are not standing in the kitchen watching him while he plays out the back garden he tells ppl that you are not looking after him.

I was dignosed with clinical depression 4 years ago. I was on flouxitine (sorry not sure if im allowed to name tablets) 40mg til last march when i came off them after falling pregnant. I than went on to loose my baby in the august so decided to book a holiday take my mind off it.

I think it is possible he has heard my oh say things to me. I know he has had a abit of trouble at nuresry as they sent him to speech therapy so he can get very annoyed when the techer keeps saying what to him and he has a concentration teacher as he just wont concentrate long enough to do thing as you can imagine this happens at home too e.g. all the lego will get pulled out then 5 mins later he does not want to play with t or put it away.

I have just asked him why he say i dont look after him and he said
"because i want you to do this, play with me and not work". I asked him where he leant to say that iam not looking after him and he says from noone he just knows it.

I only work 6 hours a night 3 nights a week.

J.

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
Sorry about all the post confusion and repetition here - gremlins y'know!:eek:
Don't worry, the Tiffster'll hunt them down later.:D :rolleyes:
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

[quote=crazyposhgal;5728913
I think it is possible he has heard my oh say things to me. I know he has had a abit of trouble at nuresry as they sent him to speech therapy so he can get very annoyed when the techer keeps saying what to him and he has a concentration teacher as he just wont concentrate long enough to do thing as you can imagine this happens at home too e.g. all the lego will get pulled out then 5 mins later he does not want to play with t or put it away.

I have just asked him why he say i dont look after him and he said
"because i want you to do this, play with me and not work". I asked him where he leant to say that iam not looking after him and he says from noone he just knows it.

I only work 6 hours a night 3 nights a week.

J.[/quote]

Hi cpg!:wave:
So the poor soul has some difficulties to deal with.:o
It must be hard to be in a world where a teacher spends all day saying 'What?' 'What?' It won't do his self-esteem much good. Hopefully, he's getting enough extra support at school for this, which can be increased over time, especially once he starts school properly.
Don't feel bad about what he said angel - no guilt trips deserved. It seems he just needs loads of reassurance in some ways.

But you have to be careful here imho, not to make a rod for your own back as it were hun. Again I'm not a professional.
Whatever his difficulties are, he has to learn that Mum is in charge and that he's safe. Maybe your OH could involve himself more? Maybe it will help if you don't give in to his demands for attention quite so much?
If the back door's open, and you tell him to come and find you if he needs something, that you're not going anywhere, it'll set a good example. Believe me, at some point he will to go and play in the garden on his own. He'll slowly learn that it's ok to be outside without mum.;) Talk to your gp about these ideas and see what she says. It's always best to discuss thesethings with a professional hun before you do anything.:cool:

I feel for you hun, I really do. But it's obvious you're doing all you can and that you love him very much.:T :A

Finish Friday with a smile angel - you've done so well posting here, you should feel proud of yourself!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

loopy_lass wrote: »

hi everyone, i suffer from depression and anxiety, some may say paranoia. however after years of counselling, tablets and stuff, i tried full time work and hated it... What a set of nasty people there can be out there, so i joined a gym, i know it sounds mad because all i wanted to do was stay indoors, sleep and eat rubbish.... but i forced myself to go to the gym and since xmas ive lost 2 stone in weight, lost 4 dress sizes, made some reasonably nice friends and feel a whole lot better.

when i get stressed or upset i take myself off to th gym and have a good workout, knocks spots of pills, (although i would never suggest you didnt see a doctor or stop taking any medication) but try the gym as well...

loops

loops!
That's great loops - thank you for sharing your experience hun! You've achieved a lot and should feel proud of yourself.:T
I've heard that regular exercise can help lift moods for many people.....
I think I'll just wait till they make it compulsory though!:eek: :rolleyes:

Besides, I'm in training for the 2012 Olympics, representing England in the Catnap events!:D
You can see what the competition's like. :eek:
It takes dedi-cat-ion you know!:rolleyes: :rotfl: (groan - sorry guys couldn't resist it!:D )




Hope your success continues angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

dawnylou

Tulip wrote: »

Hiya Dawnylou,

Sounds like you had a great day,Pity you didnt get chance to make your bread,theres nothing more tasty than homemade bread ether

Have a nice day today


love and light,

Katie xxx

I am going to make it tomorrow morning instead before my parents come.
If all goes to plan they will be dead impressed when they walk in to the smell of freshly baked bread and we can have egg sandwiches

Good new about your bloodtest!!

And now I am oficially on holiday so I am going to use the next week to renew my relationship with my finace, have some fun and spend some time on ME!!!