Dismissed for gross misconduct (help)

RupertTheCat

I frequently threaten to murder my boss. And I've been known to brain him with a saucepan.

But there again I'm married to him and I wrote it into my employment contract.

Desecrated_Landscape

paulineb wrote: »

She may have the power to dismiss you, but any sensible company would follow procedures as per your contract and ACAS codes of conduct and not a 5 min conversation saying get out you are sacked, incase you take them to tribunal. Following procedure is very important, thats why I suggested earlier that you look at your contract and the ACAS codes of conduct online.

If you want your job back I suggest you contact her with an apology, a very strong one, in fact regardless of whats happened between you in the past, Id apologise anyway for your behaviour.

I will write her an apology now and hope it works if not i'll get my contract and hope someone here can find a loophole for me.

tomtontom

paulineb wrote: »

From the ACAS website

Instant dismissal, more accurately called summary dismissal or dismissal without notice, should only be considered in cases involving acts of 'gross misconduct'. Even then, fair disciplinary procedures must be followed, so dismissal is hardly ever literally 'instant'.

Or do you just want to keep on with the puns?

http://www.acas.org.uk/index.aspx?articleid=3905

You need to learn to spot a wind up.

paulineb_2

Desecrated_Landscape wrote: »

I will write her an apology now and hope it works if not i'll get my contract and hope someone here can find a loophole for me.

Ive already posted from the ACAS website, even if someone does something that means they should be instantly dismissed, disciplinary procedures should still be followed.

paulineb_2

tomtontom wrote: »

You need to learn to spot a wind up.

If its not a wind up, Ive wasted 2 mins of my life typing, not a big deal.

tomtontom

paulineb wrote: »

If its not a wind up, Ive wasted 2 mins of my life typing, not a big deal.

To be fair you've spent the past two days feeding a troll that was blatantly winding you up. You do seem to set yourself up for these situations, hence my friendly advice

Desecrated_Landscape

tomtontom wrote: »

You need to learn to spot a wind up.

You must of never worked in this industry. Relationships with colleagues is the norm and we spend so much time working together that the people you work with are like your second family. You think i would stay at work with an irate woman blowing a fuse on me? She told me to get out and i went i was not awaiting any procedure it was chaos in there.

Bantex_2

Desecrated_Landscape wrote: »

I will write her an apology now and hope it works if not i'll get my contract and hope someone here can find a loophole for me.

You could eat humble pie, but I would think twice if she has a hand in preparing it.

Desecrated_Landscape

tomtontom wrote: »

So give him a tenner to dump her in the deep fat fryer ...

(Comment intended to be taken with the large pinch of salt this thread deserves!)

You are so rude. Never take a scorned woman with a pinch of salt they are unpredictable and only want revenge and i was stupid enough to give her it on a plate.

zugzwang

Your ex maybe needs a little time to get used to the single life! It's difficult working so closely.

An apology may work wonders, especially as she cares for you. A little more charm than 'you're dumped cos you're too old and grumpy' or 'touch me again and I'll stick your head in the deep fat fryer'.

Obviously the deep fat fryer wasnt a firm plan you had. Just an expression.

Perhaps could you maybe ask your new flame you want to cool the beans for a while? Or just keep her out of your ex's face for a little while.

Or suggest what you need is a break from the hotel. Maybe ask for some annual leave to visit elderly auntie?

I suggest you just try to talk it through really. IMHO you should both try to exhaust possibilities to resolve things informally, before taking formal route. Surely you still care about her a little to show some sensitivity?