Abusive Father - Sent a Very Nasty Text to our Son

BitterAndTwisted

If your son ever had difficulty in understanding why his father wasn't in his life before, he's not going to have any now.

"Absolutely vile" just doesn't quite cover what a poor excuse for a man he is.

I'm truly sorry for the hurt this is causing both you and your son.

Save that message if you can persuade your son not to delete it. Then block his number.

ska_lover

Op, I really feel sorry for your son. His dad is a vile peice of !!!! - what a completely rancid waste of human life form for a grown adult man to tell his son to go kill himself because he has to pay for his upkeep.

Phone the police. He REALLY REALLY deserves it. He is complete and utter scum. Don't worry about making things worse, how can they be worse? If he knocks your door, phone the police as he is being threatening

In fact I feel furious on your behalf!!

Shelldean

My idiot teen decided to get involved in his best mates break up but sending a text to his mates ex calling her an idiot and he hoped she died. So while not pleasant no where near as bad as your ex's text. The police took it seriously and acted under the malicious communication act (or something similar).

I'd report it, as what if this just the beginning?

[Deleted User]

Thank you for your replies.

I know this is going to sound unbelievable.., and I haven't seen my son's phone yet (he called me from college) but my son may have done the text hinself. If this is so.., its kindof better, and kindof worse.

I've spoken to his father.., not in a confrontational way and he was quite concerned. I must admit he doesn't normally f and blind like in the text although he has been angry about CSA in the past.

So now to find out if it happened, and if my son has made it up, why. Is he suicidal? He's made things up before (proven).., I thought this was a real situation though. I really do make it clear I'm there to support him. But obviously this is crossing a serious line if he has made up this text.

He has been to the college counsellor but just let it fall away, said it was a bit of a one way process and he didn't enjoy it. He needs counselling very badly, even without this.., but I can't force him to engage.

pops5588

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

"Absolutely vile" just doesn't quite cover what a poor excuse for a man he is.

If I had posted what I would really like to call him I would probably be kicked off

BitterAndTwisted

deannatrois wrote: »

Thank you for your replies.

I know this is going to sound unbelievable.., and I haven't seen my son's phone yet (he called me from college) but my son may have done the text hinself. If this is so.., its kindof better, and kindof worse.

I've spoken to his father.., not in a confrontational way and he was quite concerned. I must admit he doesn't normally f and blind like in the text although he has been angry about CSA in the past.

So now to find out if it happened, and if my son has made it up, why. Is he suicidal? He's made things up before (proven).., I thought this was a real situation though. I really do make it clear I'm there to support him. But obviously this is crossing a serious line if he has made up this text.

He has been to the college counsellor but just let it fall away, said it was a bit of a one way process and he didn't enjoy it. He needs counselling very badly, even without this.., but I can't force him to engage.

No, I don't think he's suicidal. But he most certainly sees himself as a victim being punished for some reason. Maybe deserving of punishment, I don't know. There's something going on in his life and it's not to do with his father, it's elsewhere.

He needs to go straight back to the counsellor, regardless of whether he thinks it's one-way or not.

duchy

Wow
Sending a huge hug
How open would his Dad be to some family counseling for him and your son ? His Dad may be the focus ...not saying he is the reason..... Maybe with Dad there he might open up ? Not for a moment saying he can't talk to you .....just that as he dragged into it - he may feel he has to explain more ? With a counseller also there too though.

I know it's a tough one -my son is ASD and the problems as they become grown up are rough on everyone.


Just a thought could this text not be written by your son but by another student ?

lippy1923

I would change your sons mobile number and any of yours and get a restraining order on the ****er.
Really sorry to hear there are such nasty people in this world.

Edit- just read your last post. If your son didn't make it up my comment still stands.
I hope you find the answers you need.

whitewing

Very upsetting for you all, whoever did send it. I hope you find a way forward for all of you, and perhaps his dad will realise (even if he didn't send the text) how difficult the situation and stresses are for all of you.

consumers_revenge

He sounds like a complete pr4t!

Hugs