being a carer

DigForVictory

"Carer" is too meek a word for prop, stay, comfort, support.

Also missing are ideas like sense of duty, obligation, "in sickness & in health", coming to the end of my tether, love, loyalty, respect, memories, other family responsibilities, companionship, isolation, loneliness, ignorance, shame & fear.

Which is why I too say get yourself to the GP, use the caveat "I know you are not allowed to" but then tell. Cool, calm, clear on what he's showing & hiding. As honest as you can be on what this is doing to you.

You both need help. Waiting for it to arrive isn't working. Start with the GP & see what that shakes loose.

Meantime, look after yourself too. (So easy to say - but if a bunch of tulips makes you smile every time you see them, buy them! Even more MS, plant some, but focus on improving the now a little.)

Raksha

Thanks Dig, I've been poorly myself, and he was a rock during that time, so the sickness and health thing is particularly important to me.

He has now agreed to call Social Services, but ill believe that when I see it

pebbles88

KxMx wrote: »

Going to disagree here, long term chronic pain, with or without a diagnosed cause, is actually more common than most realise.

For my own problems I've only gotten effective painkillers in the past 4 months, for a chronic pain problem going on since 2009! So many things were tried and failed.

I believe from the previous topic op's oh has some issues with pain medications (not being able to tolerate many) also. Which is why I suggested a pain specialist last time. Thought that'd be the best person to advise on medication and many pain clinics offer all sorts of advice and help to a person in chronic pain.

This :T:T

Even with effective pain relief, sometimes you still get pain. A pain management clinic will ensure he knows how to get the best from them etc. I say this as someone who also has been in severe pain from major surgery & illness from 2009 & I'm currently curled up in bed wishing my meds would kick in soon!