Invitation etiquette

Mrs_R_to_be

Talk to your mum n h2b, we are paying for the majority of our wedding with a contribution from my parents, however I know that it means a lot to my dad particularly for the invite to come from my
Mum n Dad, so that's what we are going for.

One thing I am struggling with is how to word the evening invite, the night do will start at 730 but as we are having a church wedding and we would like to invite evening guests to the actual wedding... I don't know how to word it without it sounding like we like you but not enough to come to the day do... Help!!

krustylouise

There was a thread on people being invited to the ceremony and then just the evening do without being invited to the wedding breakfast. My entirely sure how you would word that without offending people. You could just invite them to the evening but mention that people who would like to attend the ceremony are more than welcome (given that anyone can attend a church wedding without an invite anyway).

rosie-lee

I agree. On evening only invites a nicely worded 'you are welcome to attend the ceremony which will be held at xxxx at 2.30pm. Underneath the initial invitation details.

The thread referred to earlier had a couple of examples of embarrassing situations with mix ups. Some guests hadn't understood that an invitation to the ceremony was NOT an invite to the wedding breakfast.

However, if available there may well be people who would love to come to see you actually 'get married' and equally delighted to be celebrating with you later in the evening, without even a thought, let alone expectation, to be invited to the full doo. As one of those I would welcome the ceremony info.

Edited to add: but do make it clear. Ie. lower down or in a different font perhaps, or in italics?

tillyenna

I think traditionally the invitation is either from the Brides parents, or, the groom (i.e. Mr So & So invites you to his marriage to Bridey McBride)


However, I've just worded our invites along the following lines
To So&So, We're getting married at this time, on this day, in this place, and we'd love you to be there to celebrate with us. Lots of love, Groom & Bride.


But we are having a super unformal wedding

Chrishazle

Although our daughter and future SIL are contributing to the cost of their wedding, the invitations are from wife and I - but in my FotB speech at the reception I will speak of their contribution - but in terms that do not specify if the contribution was financial, organising or both (which is the case).

They have set up their website on weddingwire.com, and on there they put :

We regret due to seating capacity limitations at our reception venue we cannot invite all of our guests to the daytime wedding breakfast celebrations. However, if evening guests would like to watch us get married at our church, we would love you to come and you are more than welcome.

CompBunny

Thankyou guys, we're going with

"The pleasure of your company is requested at the marriage of " after consultation with Mum

Mrs_R_to_be

Thank you for the advice, and I'm glad you've got it sorted compbunny

:-)

kyana

as both sets of parents are paying for ours but only one wants to be on the invites (tradition and all that apparently) we will thank both sets of parents for their help and generosity at the back of the order of service.

pelirocco

I dont think its anything to do with who is paying . The brides parents ( traditionally ) are giving their daughters hand in marriage , hence the invitations are worded as from the parents.

Its not good etiquette to word the invitations to show who is paying !

( why would any of your guests be interested in who is paying for what anyway?)

krustylouise

It is who is HOSTING the wedding, and to me, that means who is paying and organising it. If you disagree, I'm sorry, it must be a difference of opinion.